File for Felix Gill
SSN: 230666-273H
Email: felixgill@me.com
Phone: 0447815028
Address: Pohjoinen Rautatienkatu 31 A9
Postal code: 00100
City: Helsinki
Country: FI


Appointments:

START 2017-10-24 11:00:00 - END 2017-10-24 11:45:00
MEETING NOTES:
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>1st session:</strong></span></p>
<p>This is a 51- y/o, recently divorced from 2nd marriage (1st one for 8yrs, 2nd 18yrs), British male, works in (ows) a movie production company, presents with sxs of anxiety for the past "few weeks", after wife of 18-years of marriage wanted a divorce and pt. was hoping to start couples counseling (wife is a couples couselor, but did not want counseling). Pt. reports being "well off", "buy proberties all over the world, and after meeting a Finnish girl, decided buy an apartment in Helsinki and moved here last week. Pt. lived in Kanada for 10yrs, moved back to UK with his wife 2014, "although I coul&ouml;d have stayed longer". Wife had 2 children when they met (then 3 and 6 y/o, now 22, 25 y/o). Pt. himself has 2 elder siblings and 8 half-siblings (4 b, 4g). Mom passed in 1994.</p>
<p>What adds to pt's anxiety and depression is his girlfriends passive behavior, she is resenting me and I dont understand it". Saw a text message on g/f phone saying "something about having to get rid of the psyhopat, and obviously she is referring to me, I saw my name on the text too..".</p>
<p>Disappointed as he feels, "I had her travel all over with me, UK and Kanada, and now "there's no touhing, kissing, didnt even want to hold hand on movies yesterday, and feels "puzzled". They live together in the apartment pt. bought and g/f has a 5-y/o son with her too. G/f mother is ill and she herself has healthconserns, father passed 18 months ago.</p>
<p>Pt. describes "contradiction between his feelings and g/f behavior, material, and emotional aspects interwined, nd wants to resolve to decide what to do.</p>
<p>Wants total of 5 sessions (2x/vk this week)</p>
Patient paid €95 for appointment.


START 2017-10-25 13:00:00 - END 2017-10-25 13:45:00
MEETING NOTES:
<p>Felix presented a bit anxious, stated he's been trying to figure out "whats wrong with her behavior...why is she so reserved and cold towards me?", ja session teemaksi tulikin, kehitt&auml;m&auml;ll&auml; kyky&auml; olla analysoimatta t/k kyky&auml; tai kyvytt&ouml;myytt&auml; tekemisiss&auml;&auml;n tai sanomisissaan, vaan n&auml;hd&auml; asia kokonaisvaltaisesti osana h&auml;nen omaa tarvetta prosessoida menneisyytt&auml;&auml;n, specifically relationship with mother, in context of this current relationship...and what it represents to him at the moment.</p>
<p>Kertoi ett&auml; &auml;itins&auml; sai 6 lasta, "all of us from different fathers", ja ett&auml; h&auml;n on keskimm&auml;inen ja aina tuntenut tarvetta "rescue people", ja ett&auml; tunnistaa t&auml;m&auml;n vuosien varrelta, ja ett&auml; t&auml;ll&auml;hetkell&auml; analysoi t/k ja yritt&auml;&auml; ymm&auml;rt&auml;&auml; ja huolehtia siit&auml; ett&auml; t/k "that she is ok, cuz she's got a 5 y/o son with her in my apartment that I bought and I do feel responsible".</p>
<p>Was able to see the parallel bet. so called "rescue-need" and uncomprehension about his mothers emotional "cruely" i.e "I was never able to get it why did she behave like that without any disregard to all of these children she created?</p>
<p>Aikoi tulla 2x/ ensi viikolla ja l&auml;htee siiitten sunnuntaina Englantiin selvitt&auml;m&auml;&auml;n ajatuksiaan ja tilanetta, ja p&auml;&auml;tt&auml;&auml; mit&auml;&auml; tekee jatkossa.</p>
<p>Ei n&auml;&auml; tulevaisuutta t/k kanssa, "we are not compatible", "I should not have to sacrifice, or lower standards, its not fair".</p>
Patient paid €95 for appointment.


START 2017-10-30 11:00:00 - END 2017-10-30 11:45:00
MEETING NOTES:
<p>Felix</p>
Patient paid €95 for appointment.


START 2017-11-01 11:00:00 - END 2017-11-01 11:45:00
MEETING NOTES:
<p>Felix kertoi miettineens&auml; asiaa t/k kanssa ja keskusteleet, "I told her that I dont see how this would work", and she took defence to that, "How can you sat that".</p>
<p>Session teemaksi tulikin j&auml;lleen Felix'n tarve analysoida ja l&ouml;yt&auml;&auml; ja ymm&auml;rt&auml;&auml; syit&auml; t/y k&auml;yt&ouml;kseen, ja ehdotinkin ett&auml; keskittyy tietoisesti k&auml;ytt&auml;m&auml;&auml;n kokemustaan t/y kanssa hyv&auml;ksi omakohtaisella analyysill&auml;.</p>
<p>Kertoi ett&auml; &auml;itins&auml; kuoli sy&ouml;p&auml;&auml;n 58- vuotiaana (1994), ja oli saanut Felixin 30 vuotiaana, ja ett&auml; aina ihmetellyt "what happened to her, why did she have all these children from 5 different fathers?", ja tarkasteltiinkin parallel'ia nykyisen t/y ja &auml;idin tilanteessa, "need to know, why?".</p>
<p>L&auml;htee Sunnuntina Englantiin ja kuulemaa palaakin jo viikon p&auml;&auml;st&auml; "I orgot we got tickets to a consert". Varaa ajan jos silt&auml; tuntuu.</p>
Patient paid €95 for appointment.


START 2017-11-14 11:00:00 - END 2017-11-14 11:45:00
MEETING NOTES:
<p>Felix kertoi k&auml;yneens&auml; Englanissa, ja palasi Sunnuntaina, ja kaikki mennyt mielest&auml;&auml;n "just fine with Selena", vaikkakin tuumaili ettei ole varma tuleeko suhteesta mit&auml;&auml;n pidemm&auml;mm&auml;n p&auml;&auml;lle mutta totesi antaneensa itselleen mahdollisuuden ja aikaa katsoa mit&auml; tulee ja "at the same time work on my need to get confirmation about her love constantly", "why it is so important for me to know what she is thinking about the relationship...?".</p>
<p>Kertoi ett&auml; toiminut l&auml;hes kaikissa parisuhteissa n&auml;in vaikkakin se tarve ilmennyt materialisoitunut eri tavoilla, varsinkin edellisess&auml; suhteessa 18 vuotta, "my wife was a psyhotherapist, so it made it easier for me to be ok with my own anxiety".</p>
<p>Kuvaili itse&auml;&auml;n, "anxipous person". "unsetting feelings regarding trustin partner".</p>
<p>Kertoi my&ouml;s miten hyvin p&auml;rj&auml;nnyt el&auml;m&auml;ss&auml;&auml;n ja saavuttanut haaveitaan bisneksess&auml;, elokuvatuotannon allalla ect.</p>
Patient paid €95 for appointment.


START 2017-11-21 11:00:00 - END 2017-11-21 11:45:00
MEETING NOTES:
<p>Felix seemed to have made a decision to move back to UK, "I keep thinking about what would it do for Selena if I were to leave?", throughout session contemplated options, and repeatedly stated, "I'm just not ready to make a desicion", for the most part due to bad memories re: "high anxiety in Ottawa when Selena was not responding to my emails or text messages".</p>
<p>Non-responsiveness attitude seem to have been the theme in the relationship, and Felix described feeling "abused" by g/f's behavior.</p>
<p>Adked Tuesdays 11am sessions till end of year, and will decide what to do about the move later.</p>
Patient paid €95 for appointment.


START 2017-11-28 17:00:00 - END 2017-11-28 17:45:00
MEETING NOTES:
<p>Felix kuvaili unen:</p>
<p>beach house, storm, I'm walking towards home but diffivult, Selena is in the house but cannot connect with her, I saw a dog that came out of a pub, antoher dog came out of the house on the beach but was mutilated by 2 howls. Woke up feeling that the dream was therapeutic, and believes I was the dog in the dream".</p>
<p>Got STD (herpes) from Selena.</p>
<p>Big fight in Tallin with Selena, Its over, we are no longer intimate.</p>
<p>Selenas mother got cancer and she is dying".</p>
<p>Wrote letter and made several drafts".</p>
Patient paid €95 for appointment.


START 2017-12-05 11:00:00 - END 2017-12-05 11:45:00
MEETING NOTES:
<p>Felix saapui sessioon kertoen ett&auml; kaikki ennallaan parisuhteessa,m "its not good, its not what im willing to put up with in the long run", kertoo ett&auml; koska itse ollut et&auml;isempi, t/y vastaavasti ollut viime p&auml;ivin&auml; l&auml;heisempi, "she is noticing that im not the same, she is sensing im making a exit stradegy so she is trying to figure out what's goin on".</p>
<p>Kertoi miettineens&auml; ty&ouml;asioita ja tehneens&auml; suunnitelmia Lontooseen, ostanut lipun sinne 8.1.18, ja miettii kertoakko t/y l&auml;htiess&auml;&auml;n ettei tied&auml; palaako takaisin. "I just dont know exactly, so maybe i should just say I dont know if I'll come back". "I'm hurt by what she has said about me to her friends on the text message, derogatory comments, disrespectful".</p>
<p>"There's really nothing here in Finland that would keep me here except if she was another person, someone who I would be willing to stay here for, but she is not". "If my ex g/f was here, even then it would be hard for me to say, I would want to live in Finland, foreign language, her 5 y/o son does not speak my language all that...".</p>
<p>Tavataan viel&auml; 2 kertaa Joulukuussa, ja aikoo mietti&auml; ottaako viel&auml; yhden session Tammikuun 2 p&auml;iv&auml; ennen Lontooseen muuttoa 8.1.18.</p>
Patient paid €95 for appointment.


START 2017-12-12 11:00:00 - END 2017-12-12 11:45:00
MEETING NOTES:
<p>Felix</p>
Patient paid €95 for appointment.


