title,date,viewed,article,category,overview,sequence,thumbnail,featureimage
Burning Desire For Revenge,2006-05-15,761,"Hi<br><br>Many of you have asked me to tell you a little more about some of the revenge that I helped others get - in the hope that you too can carry out the same on your ex.<br><br>It's been quite hard for me to come up with any particular favourite, but the one I'm about to tell you works fantastically well on both men and women and it's a tactic that I have recommended many many times.<br><br>For this to work, you need 2 things - some fresh chillis and some of your victim's underwear.<br><br>When you are sure that you won't be disturbed for a while, you take your fresh chillis and slice them lengthways and remove the seeds. You then rub the insides of the chillis in the gusset area of your victims underwear.<br><br>Once you have done this, return the underwear to it's rightful home and just wait.<br><br>When your target puts on the underwear, they won't notice anything for quite a while (usually about an hour). However, as their body warms up and gently perspires the chilli ""juice"" is re-hydrated and makes contact with their genitals. At first, they will feel a slight tingling sensation, but this will soon lead to intense stinging and an insatiable burning sensation! What's more, the more that they scratch themselves to alleviate the stinging, the worse it'll actually get! The only way to stop it, is to have a good soapy wash.<br><br>Now, if you plan this correctly you can make sure that your ex will be unable to do anything about the stinging. Think about it - if your ex puts on the underwear before they go to work, then they'll be stuck at the office with unbearable stinging. Or perhaps they are going for a night out with their mates (which actually means they are going to see their lover!!!) Either way, the fact is that they will be stuck with an unexplicable stinging sensation and you will be nowhere to be seen - so how can they blame you?!?!?!<br><br>What I personally like so much about this tactic is that it takes a while for it to take effect. The thing is, I know people want revenge right now, but timing is everything and this prank is perfect for keeping you out of the way. Chances are, your victim will question their washing powder before they even begin to think it could be something you've done. Perfect!<br><br>If you carry out this tactic, let me know how you got on - I genuinely enjoy reading about how others have got their own back (must be something to do with my warped sense of humour!).<br><br>Until the next time,<br><br>Nick",article,<br/><br/>,3,<blank>,<blank>
Not So Sweet Smelling Revenge,2006-05-24,506,"Well, it seems that so many of you enjoyed my revenge tip last week that you've asked me for another. <br><br>But before I do this, I must congratulate Mark B from the UK for his ""group revenge"". Mark plays football (or soccer if you prefer) at weekends for an amateur club. A few weeks ago, he was injured by a member of the opposite team which meant that he has been unable to play.<br><br>Last weekend, Mark's team had a re-match and still being injured, Mark went along to the match to support his team. Sometime during the game, Mark slipped away to the changing rooms, armed with a few prepared chillis and duly rubbed them over the clean underwear of some of the opposing team players (as he says himself, Mark didn't do this to every player as it would have been too obvious).<br><br>Now, it's tradition at these events that after the game, both sides go to a bar for a drink. So, as usual, everyone went to the bar and within half an hour of being in there, the victims started ""shuffling about"" uncomfortably. Not long after, the victims were visibly distressed and everyone in the group (prompted by Mark, of course) noticed the incessant scratching and ""re-arranging of the wedding-tackle""<br><br>Mark - it's stories like these that inspire us all to wreak havoc on those that really p*** us off. Well done!<br><br>Do you have a revenge story that you'd like to share - then just <a href=""membercontact.php"">drop me a line</a><br><br>OK, now it's time for another revenge trick.<br><br>This particular revenge tactic is a real favourite of mine as I have personally used it several times over the past few years against my ex and her new husband to my great satisfaction.<br><br>All you need for this tactic is a plastic bag (big enough to get your hand in to and no holes in it - a freezer bag is perfect) and a dog pooh (the fresher the better).<br><br>What you need to do is pick up the dog pooh using the plastic bag (now you know why it can't have any holes in it) and then smear some of the pooh on the underside of your victims car door handle. <br><br>Make sure that the pooh is stuck on the ""underside"" of the handle and not on the outside where it will be visible.<br><br>Now, you just wait - when your victim goes to open their car door, their fingers will lift the handle and stick right into the pooh. Instinctively, your ex will sniff their fingers to see what it is!!!<br><br>Like the chilli tactic in the previous newsletter, if you do this one at night then you will be long gone by the next morning when your victim tries to get into their car - so you can't be blamed! Perfect!!!<br><br>I must confess, I have done this several times to my ex as it has such fantastic results - but the best one of all is when I did it to my ex's new husbands car on their wedding day, while they were at their wedding reception. As they left the party to drive to the airport to go on their honeymoon he put his hand right in it - sweet revenge indeed and I was several miles away when it happened :-) <br><br>Don't be shy about your revenge - <a href=""membercontact.php"">tell me your story</a> and I'll share it with all the other members.<br><br>Until the next time,<br><br>Nick",article,<br/><br/>,4,<blank>,<blank>
Why Not Break The Law?,2006-05-30,831,"""So what if I break the law? Who cares? At least that SH** will get what's coming to them!"" <br><br>Sound familiar?<br><br>I have heard this statement and many others just like it, so many times over the past 6 years. And in some extreme cases, I've even agreed with it.<br><br>But do you know something - you do not want to do it!<br><br>Take it from someone who's been there and lived to tell the tale. I'm not ashamed to admit that some of the revenge I have undertaken has broken the law and while it really is satisfying smashing up someones car with a baseball bat - the cold reality of it is, that you actual spend the next few weeks panicking that the police will turn up!<br><br>What's more - even though your ex does deserve to have ""asshole"" sprayed all over their windows, as far as the law is concerned, it is <strong>your ex</strong> that is the <strong>victim</strong>. And believe me, an ex knows exactly how to tell everyone how they have been the victim of a horrendous crime.<br><br>What you really need to do is get your revenge in such a way that it really gets to your ex, but there is nothing that they can do about it. Just think how angry and frustrated you are, right now, with your ex. Couldn't you just bash their skull in!!!<br><br>Now - how much <strong>fun</strong> will it be if you can make your ex feel exactly the same way and how will you feel knowing that your the one who has caused all this grief on your ex?<br><br>If you take just a few moments to clearly think about this, then you will realise that this is <strong>real revenge</strong> and even better is the fact that you can be the one who controls it.<br><br>Being able to make your ex hurt like hell while keeping yourself out of jail <strong>and</strong> be in total control of it all.<br><br>That, my friend, is what revenge is all about.<br><br>Don't be tempted to break the law - it really isn't worth giving your ex the satisfaction of seeing you arrested. Instead <strong>use</strong> the law to create maximum hell for your ex, safe in the knowledge that there is absolutely nothing that they can do about it.<br><br>Speak to you later<br><br>Nick<br><br>P.S. Why not send me your ""fantasy"" of how you would get revenge on your ex - just <a href=""membercontact.php"">click here</a> and tell me how you would love to cleanse yourself of your ex",article,<br/><br/>,5,<blank>,<blank>
A Real Sticky Revenge Tactic,2006-06-28,644,"Wow! Given all your feedback, it seems you all liked the dog-pooh under the car door handle revenge tactic.<br><br>I'd love to hear from anyone who has managed to capture their ex on camera with this one -just <a href=""membercontact.php"">click here</a> to get in touch.<br><br>OK, let me ask you a question - have you still got access to your ex's property, wardrobe, clothes etc? <br><br>If you have, then this one is just for you!<br><br>I discovered this particular revenge tactic literally last week - totally and completely by accident. For those of you who don't know me personally, in my spare time I like growing my own food and making preserves and jams (yhep - I know it's sad, but hey, it keeps me out of trouble!!!)<br><br>Anyway, the other week I was making some Elderflower Cordial which basically means putting elderflowers in sugar water for a few days and then drinking it. However, I've been rather busy with the site recently (as you have probably noticed) and I didn't get round to drinking the cordial. Last Tuesday night, about 11pm, I heard a massive bang (and I mean massive) in my garage. <br><br>When I went to investigate, I walked into my garage where it was literally raining elderflower cordial ! <br><br>What had happened is that the elderflowers had started to ferment and even though I had put the liquid into 1 litre plastic coke bottles, the pressure had built up so much that the plastic bottle had burst with such ferocity that the sweet, sticky liquid was sprayed in every direction! It took me nearly <strong>4 hours</strong> to clean the mess off of the walls, ceiling and every item that had been hit .<br><br>So, I got to thinking - if this happened by accident, how much fun it would be to make it happen on purpose :-)<br><br>Being the curious kind of chap that I am, I have spent far too much time experimenting with yeast and sugar water (and you thought me doing gardening was sad!!!) - the results of these ""experiments"" have been hilarious, and I can know pass on my wisdom to you.<br><br>All the ""ingredients"" for this revenge tactic can be bought at any supermarket. So, pop yourself down to your local one and buy a plastic bottle of coke (or similar), a bag of sugar and some baking yeast.<br><br>Next, open your bottle and drink the contents (personally, Jack Daniels and Coke does it for me). Next, put the yeast into the empty bottle. Once you've done that, you need to dissolve the whole bag of sugar in warm water (<strong>NOT hot</strong> as this will melt your bottle) - you may want to do this in a saucepan at this point.<br><br>Once you've dissolved the sugar, put this syrupy warm solution into your bottle, then top the bottle up with enough warm water to fill it to about an inch below the top.<br><br>Next, put the screw cap back on the bottle and shake gently.<br><br>From my experiments, I've found that a 1.5 litre bottle, with a 2 pound (1kg) of warm sugar water will take about 9 days to explode.<br><br>So now, you need to go to your victims house/office/etc and hide the bottle somewhere where it is unlikely to be found but will cause a whole lot of mess e.g. at the back of their wardrobe so it explodes all over their clothes, under their desk at work so it goes all over their paperwork, in their car so the carpets and seats become a real sticky mess etc. <br><br>Apart from the severe mess and sticky residue that is left all over the place, the best thing about this tactic is that you have plenty of time to disappear. You can be hundreds, if not thousands of miles away before it explodes and creates the mayhem.<br><br>Even better though, is if your ex is going to be away for a long period of time, then you'll be amazed at how many thousands of flies, wasps, ants and other insects will be crawling all over the mess before your ex gets back.<br><br>Before I go back to my vegetable plot, just one word of caution - water and electricity don't mix, so just be mindful of where you put your package ;-)<br><br>Right, I'm off to thin out my carrot seedlings.<br><br>Speak to you later<br><br>Nick<br><br>P.S. If you manage to get some before and after photos of this revenge tactic, then I'd love to see them and I'll also post them on my site for everyone else to see - just send the photos to me at <a href=""mailto:nick@getrevengeonyourex.com"">nick@getrevengeonyourex.com</a>",article,<br/><br/>,6,<blank>,<blank>
Tell Your Story To Millions!,2006-07-06,489,"Let me ask you this.<br><br>How often do you read a newspaper or a magazine?<br><br>Now, just imagine how many other people do the same thing, every single day.<br><br>Once you\xedve done that, try and visualise what it would be like if you could tell all these people your story of how your ex had cheated on you, lied to you, deceived you, stole from you and emotionally abused you.<br><br>\r\nWell, guess what \xf1 you can! And it won\xedt cost you a single penny \xf1 in fact, chances are you will actually get paid!<br><br>Sound too good to be true? <br><br>Believe me, it\xeds not!<br><br>With literally millions of readers throughout the world, magazine and newspaper publishers need to fill their pages with real life stories \xf1 and your story could be exactly what they are looking for.<br><br>Can you just imagine how your ex would feel if they saw an article about themselves in a newspaper or magazine? How would their friends and family react? What about work colleagues and neighbours?<br><br>You get to tell your side of the story \xf1 the real truth about your ex, and hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of people will read it.<br><br>You have the power to publicly shame your ex, for doing little more than telling your story!<br><br>So, what do you need to do now?<br><br>Well, the answer to that is simple!<br><br>You can either contact me at <a href=""mailto:nick@getrevengeonyourex.com"">nick@getrevengeonyourex.com</a> with your story and I\xedll pass it on for you or, better still, you can contact KNS News directly, by visiting their website <a href=""knsnews.php"" target=""_blank"">www.knsnews.co.uk</a>  <br><br>Let me know how you get on, and be sure to send me a copy of your article!<br><br>Speak to you later<br><br>Nick\r\n",article,<br/><br/>,7,<blank>,<blank>
Hollywood Inspired Revenge,2006-09-06,583,"<p>Well, not quite but I thought it\\'d make an interesting title, although there is a loose connection to Hollywood.</p>\r\n<p>Let me ask you this - when a new film is released, as well as trailers, how else does Hollywood promote their latest films? Answer - they use posters and lots of them.</p>\r\n<p>And this is a perfect revenge tactic for you to use as well.</p>\r\n<p>How often do you drive down a road, or walk down a street and see a small poster with \\""Lost Cat\\"" or \\""Happy 40th Eric\\"" or \\""Earn Money From Home\\""?</p>\r\n<p>Well, why not use the same technique to get revenge on your ex?</p>\r\n<p>Let\\'s consider an all to familiar scenario.</p>\r\n<p>Let\\'s suppose that \\""Brian Jones\\""has been having an affair with someone called \\""Jane Doe\\"", and it\\'s not the first time that Brian has played around. </p>\r\n<p>In this situation, I would create some small posters along the lines of \\""<font color=\\""#ff0000\\""><strong>PUBLIC HEALTH WARNING</strong></font>\\"", underneath I\\'d have a photograph of Brian and underneath that, I\\'d write something not to disimilar to this:</p>\r\n<ul>\r\n<li>Brian Jones has recently been caught screwing Jane Doe. </li>\r\n<li>Brian is a serial womanizer</li>\r\n<li>He is 40, married and hangs out in bars trying to find cheap sluts</li>\r\n<li>Brian was last seen sticking his dick in Jane\\'s mouth outside Blockbuster</li>\r\n<li>If you see Brian, tell him to f*** off</li></ul>\r\n<p></p>\r\n<p align=\\""center\\""><a href=\\""http://www.getrevengeonyourex.com/sample4.php\\"" target=\\""_blank\\"">click here if you want to see a sample image of this idea</a></p>\r\n<p>Now comes the fun part - displaying your posters!</p>\r\n<p>The idea here is to distribute as many of these posters as you possibly can. Great places to put them include:</p>\r\n<ul>\r\n<li>Under Brian\\'s car windshield</li>\r\n<li>Under Jane\\'s car windshield</li>\r\n<li>On trees and lampposts outside Brian\\'s & Jane\\'s houses</li>\r\n<li>Outside their places of work</li>\r\n<li>In the letter boxes of their respective neighbours - don\\'t just limit yourself to their immediate neighbours, do the whole street!</li>\r\n<li>On lampposts on the corner of busy road junctions - guaranteed to grab the attention of passing motorists</li>\r\n<li>Under car windshields at the local supermarket, car park and shopping centre</li>\r\n<li>Outside their favourite haunts - bars, cafes, sports grounds etc</li>\r\n<li>Hand them out to passers-by in shopping arcades, train stations, to parents waiting outside schools or wherever this is a large number of people.</li>\r\n<li>And of course, don\\'t forget to make sure every member of their family and each of their friends gets a copy!!!</li></ul>\r\n<p>You get the idea!</p>\r\n<p>Just a quick word about legality - <font color=\\""#ff0000\\"">this revenge tactic is totally legal</font>. However, you need to make sure that wherever you place the poster, it can be removed without causing damage to the surface it\\'s attached to.</p>\r\n<p>For example, don\\'t super glue it to their cars, or nail it to a tree. If your poster is removable, without causing damage, then you cannot be charged with criminal damage.</p>\r\n<p>Just one other word of caution, don\\'t include phone numbers or addresses of your target on these posters - it\\'s called harrassment and you don\\'t want to go down that route.</p>\r\n<p>Distributing revenge posters like this is an exceptionally effective revenge tactic - I have used it many times in several countries and it\\'s never failed. </p>\r\n<p>In fact, I use it so much that it\\'s become one of my standard revenge tools!</p>\r\n<p>There is nothing the ex can do about it, except go around and try to tear them down - and guess what I do when that happens. Yhep - I put up a load more! </p>\r\n<p>I really enjoy this revenge tactic and I hope that you do too - it\\'s extremely satisfying and is one of the most effective ways of shaming your ex and ruining their reputation. <strong>Just what they deserve!</strong></p>\r\n<p>As always, don\\'t forget to tell me how you get on and I\\'d love to see some photos of your own posters. Who knows - if I get enough, I might create a special members poster gallery page on this site. Just email me your pictures, plus a short story to <a href=\\""mailto:nick@getrevengeonyourex.com\\"" target=\\""_self\\"">nick@getrevengeonyourex.com</a> </p>\r\n<p>Until the next time,</p>\r\n<p>Nick</p></font />",article,<br/><br/>,11,<blank>,<blank>
Waste Disposal,2006-11-15,530,"<p>With Christmas fast approaching many people will start to declutter their houses, order new sofas (no doubt tempted by the \\""guaranteed Christmas delivery\\"" offers seen on tv) and generally have an early spring clean. </p>\r\n<p>The problem is, it\\'s a busy time of year what with seeing friends, family and parties to go to. </p>\r\n<p>As a result, it\\'s\xa0not always easy for people to find the time to get rid of some of the larger and more bulky items.</p>\r\n<p>Well, guess who can help these poor souls at this busy time of year?</p>\r\n<p>Yhep - you guessed it. Your ex!</p>\r\n<p>After all, isn\\'t your ex just one of those really charitable people who loves helping other people out?</p>\r\n<p>And had you forgotten that your ex also owns a small removal van?</p>\r\n<p>I\\'m sure if you look carefully at their van, you\\'ll also see that your ex is prepared to work unsociable hours as well :-) </p>\r\n<p>Now then, surely it is your social duty to make people aware of your helpful ex.</p>\r\n<p>After all, you\\'d be doing your ex and your community a favour, wouldn\\'t you?!?!?</p>\r\n<p>But I know what you\\'re thinking. How can you tell everyone about your ex\\'s service.</p>\r\n<p>Well, this is really easy and what\\'s more - it\\'s untraceable to you.</p>\r\n<p>In every town there is somewhere you can place a small calssified ad. For example:</p>\r\n<ul>\r\n<li>\xa0in a newsagents window</li>\r\n<li>on a community notice board</li>\r\n<li>on the notice board at a DIY store</li>\r\n<li>in the free-ad section of your local paper</li>\r\n<li>supermarket notice boards</li>\r\n<li>online community free ad/forums</li>\r\n<li>office staff rooms</li>\r\n<li>college notice boards </li></ul>\r\n<p>Now you know where to place the classified ad, what should you say and how do you make it stick out - after all, you want everyone to know about your ex\\'s helpful service!</p>\r\n<p>Let\\'s assume that you are using a standard piece of printer paper then you will want a nice big banner on the top.</p>\r\n<p>Something like \\""Man With Van - $20 For 2 Hours\\"" (or \xa320, \xc420 etc)</p>\r\n<p>Next you ideally want a picture of a white van - try going to Google and searching for \\""Transit Van\\"" - you\\'ll get plenty of clipart there.</p>\r\n<p>Underneath the picture, you\\'ll need to put some compelling sales text. </p>\r\n<p>How about: \xa0\\""Want to de-clutter before Christmas? I can help! From disposing of single bulky items to\xa0piles of bags and boxes - I am here for you. I\\'m fully insured and registered so you can be assured of a professional service\\""</p>\r\n<p>Finally, you\\'ll want to put your ex\\'s name and number at the bottom.</p>\r\n<p>A great tip here is to create small tear-off strips each containing your ex\\'s contact details.</p>\r\n<p>That way, people can just tear off one of the strips as opposed to having to make a note of the number themselves. </p>\r\n<p>Plus - people tend to put these numbers to one side for later reference (remember, revenge is for life, not just Christmas!!!)</p>\r\n<p>I\\'m sure by now you can imagine what\\'s going to happen - your ex is going to be inundated with calls for their very much in demand service!</p>\r\n<p>Like all the best revenge tactics, the great thing here is that the revenge will actually happen when you\\'re not around and therefore, you cannot be implicated.</p>\r\n<p>Metaphorically, all you\\'re doing is loading the gun - you\\'re not actually pulling the trigger!</p>\r\n<p>Sure, your ex may <em>think</em> you\\'ve got something to do with it - but hey, they can\\'t <em>prove</em> it and you can just sit back, smile and enjoy <strong>the sweet taste of revenge!</strong></p>\r\n<p></p>\r\n<p>Don\\'t forget to share your own revenge stories and experiences with me. Just drop me a line at <a href=\\""mailto:nick@getrevengeonyourex.com\\"">nick@getrevengeonyourex.com</a> </p>\r\n<p>Until the next time,</p>\r\n<p>Nick.</p>\r\n<p></p>",article,<br/><br/>,24,<blank>,<blank>
Hell Hath No Fury Like A Woman Scorned,2006-10-06,1146,"<p>From all the mail and revenge stories that I\\'ve been receiving it seems that I\\'m not the only one who\\'s got a twisted sense of humour and a peverse sense of justice!</p>\r\n<p>Isn\\'t it great to know we\\'re not alone :-)</p>\r\n<p>Anyway, I thought I\\'d share with you a couple of great revenge stories that have been sent in by your fellow members. </p>\r\n<p><u><strong>Story #1, sent in by Angela</strong></u></p>\r\n<p>I was hurt by a man really bad last year. I waited 6 months before doing anything, as I am a firm believer in revenge being served cold, and wanted him to think he\\'d gotten away with what he\\'d done to me. </p>\r\n<p>He was married, (yes, my mistake for believing his BS, and I\\'ve taken full responsibility for my role in the affair) so after I caught him in a web of lies, I not only called his wife, and told her every detail of the 4 year afair, but I also wrote a 35 page book and included about 60 photos of the 2 of us, and sent it out to all of his friends, employers, co-workers, family members, his new girlfriend, and all of her family members, his rabbi, he\\'s on the board of directors at the Jewish Community Center, so of course they all got it, and then when I found out that he was supposed to meet the govenor of Maryland, I sent him a copy too. </p>\r\n<p>I also set up an email account at yahoo.com for anyone who wanted to contact me...LOL... </p>\r\n<p>From the emails I received, everyone was glad to learn the truth about such a decietful person and people had made sure that the book had been passed around to 50+ professional people, and as\xa0it was a small town I could rest assured that he would never be looked at the same.... bet his next job interview was fun too... LOL (he always portrayed himself as such an upstanding member of his community... uh.... NOT anymore.... LOL ) </p>\r\n<p>He tried to sick his attorneys on me, but since everything I\\'d written was the truth, there was nothing he could do.... I LOVED IT!!!!!!</p>\r\n<p><strong><u>Story #2, sent in by Cherese</u></strong></p>\r\n<p>I\xa0actually did this to my ex husband while we were still married. I call it sweet revenge. A quick what happened: He cheated on me, and was stupid enough to confess. </p>\r\n<p>I thought of the old saying \\'kill them with kindness\\'. So I figured, if he couldn\\'t keep his pants up away from home, then he shouldn\\'t keep his pants up <strong>AT</strong> home. Thus, sweet revenge was born! Here\\'s how to do it:<br /><br />Find your favorite cheese cake recipe. But instead of the plain cheese cake, make the chocolate version. Use all the ingredients suggested in the recipe....except, replace the chocolate with chocolate flavored laxatives (the kind that look like chocolate bars). Melt the chocolate laxative down and mix into recipe as directed. Taste mixture...you want to make sure that it has a regular sweet cheesecake taste to it.... if not add some sugar until you cant tell.....bake as directed.<br /><br />Since I was still living with him at the time, I told him that I was on a diet and wouldn\\'t be eating any sweets for a long while. I told him he could just have the whole cheese cake. Well, let me tell you he ate it for lunches and dinners, and had the shits for weeks!!! I laughed so hard, every time he had a piece. </p>\r\n<p>He would say it tasted so good! And then 30 minutes later be would run to the toilet!!! Freakin hilarious!! Near the end of the week he said and I quote \\"" Baby, I\\'ve had the runs for a week now and I cant figure out what\\'s wrong.\\"" I said, \\"" Aww, poor baby... eat another slice of cheese cake, it will make you feel better.\\"" </p>\r\n<p>SWEET REVENGE!</p>\r\n<p></p>\r\n<p>- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -</p>\r\n<p>Have you got a story of how you got your revenge? If so, why not share it with the rest of us - just send me an email to <a href=\\""mailto:nick@getrevengeonyourex.com\\"">nick@getrevengeonyourex.com</a> </p>\r\n<p>Until the next time,</p>\r\n<p>Nick</p>",article,<br/><br/>,17,<blank>,<blank>
"How To Set Your Ex Up On An \\""Alternative\\"" Dating Site",2007-03-14,1201,"<p>For those of you who have known me for a while, you\\'ll be aware of my fondness for alternative adult dating sites...</p>\r\n<p>...not for my personal \\""satisfaction\\"" (<em>honest!</em>), but for the fantastic revenge opportunities they offer us.</p>\r\n<p>Can you just imagine how horrified your ex will be when they start getting emails and phone calls from other people looking for alternative fun! </p>\r\n<p>Couple this with the fact that your ex won\\'t be able to do anything whatsoever about it, then you\\'ll understand why I enjoy using these sites so much.</p>\r\n<p>Rather than keep this particular tactic to myself, I\\'ve decided to share it with you by giving you a step-by-step guide to really screwing [ <em>pun intended</em> ] your ex up.</p>\r\n<p><strong>Step 1 - Create An Email Account</strong></p>\r\n<p>This first step is really important and it\\'s what allows you to post your ex\\'s contact details as genuine, but more about this later on.</p>\r\n<p>Go to <a href=\\""http://www.hotmail.com/\\"" target=\\""_blank\\"">hotmail.com</a>\xa0or <a href=\\""http://www.yahoo.com/\\"" target=\\""_blank\\"">yahoo.com</a>\xa0(or similar) and create a <em>free</em> email account in your ex\\'s name. Don\\'t worry - your ex will never know about this account</p>\r\n<p>Once you\\'ve done this, you are ready for Step 2.</p>\r\n<p><strong>Step 2 - Register Your Ex At An \\""Appropriate\\"" Dating Site</strong></p>\r\n<p>Now you\\'ve got a fake email account, in your ex\\'s name, then you register your ex at one of the many alternative lifestyle dating sites.</p>\r\n<p>My personal favourites are:</p>\r\n<ul>\r\n<li><a href=\\""http://alt.com/go/g838657-pct\\"" target=\\""_blank\\"">Alt.com</a> </li>\r\n<li><a href=\\""http://gayfriendfinder.com/go/g838657-pct\\"" target=\\""_blank\\"">Gay Friend Finder</a></li>\r\n<li><a href=\\""http://adultfriendfinder.com/go/g838657-pct\\"" target=\\""_blank\\"">Adult Friend Finder</a></li></ul>\r\n<p>Of course, you can use whichever one you want to - a quick search on Google will show you hundreds of pages.</p>\r\n<p>Now, when you register with these sites,you must register as if you were your ex - but feel free to select as many of the \\""looking for\\"" options that you want :-)</p>\r\n<p>A few quick tips to improve the success of your profile:</p>\r\n<ol>\r\n<li>Include photos! If you haven\\'t got any you can use, then go to Google and search their images for pictures of \\""gay man\\"" or \\""dyke\\"" or \\""servant\\"" etc.</li>\r\n<li>Have a really sexy username - \\""big dick\\"" or \\""evil bitch\\"" will already be taken. Something like \\""willing student\\"" or \\""hurt me please\\"" are much more effective</li>\r\n<li>In the about me box write as much as you can. Even if you think you are gushing, just write. The more you write, the more genuine you will seem</li></ol>\r\n<p>During the registration process, you will be asked to confirm your email address. This is why it is important that you create an email account that only you have access to in step 1.</p>\r\n<p>Once you have confirmed your email address and completed your registration, you can start with step 3.</p>\r\n<p><strong>Step 3 - Get Flirting</strong></p>\r\n<p>Now, depending upon which site you register your ex at, you may have to pay in order to actually talk to other members. </p>\r\n<p>But, by becoming a premium member, you will get a lot more interest from other members and your ex\\'s profile will be listed higher up the rankings.</p>\r\n<p>We are now at the part where the more work you put it, the bigger the revenge payback.</p>\r\n<p>What you have to do is chat, flirt and exchange emails and messages with other members of these sites, acting as if you were your ex (or at least the profile that you\\'ve created of your ex).</p>\r\n<p>This is not the time to be prudish, and correspondance on these sites quickly escalates into the downright filthy - lol.</p>\r\n<p>Remember, the people on these sites are looking for sex - pure & simple. And of course, that\\'s what your ex is looking for!!!</p>\r\n<p>As I mentioned earlier, the more work you put in here, the better the payback.</p>\r\n<p>Don\\'t just chat with a couple of people, really work the site - go and prostitute yourself - flirt and get verbally dirty with everyone you can. Build up an online sexual love affair - create some heat.</p>\r\n<p>Personally, I try to get at least 12 \\""partners\\"" going at the same time, and keep building up the correspondance for at least a month.</p>\r\n<p>While this may seem like hard work, it is sooooo worth it.</p>\r\n<p>When you feel you\\'re ready and you\\'ve warmed up lots of members, then it\\'s time to unleash them on your ex.</p>\r\n<p><strong>Step 4 - Getting Your Ex Involved</strong></p>\r\n<p>This is where your hard work pays off and you exploit a fundamental weakness of these dating sites.</p>\r\n<p>In one session, you update your contact email address to that of your ex\\'s. </p>\r\n<p>Remember when I said that when you register you have to confirm your email address? Well, once you\\'ve signed up and been a member for at least a month, then you become \\""trusted\\"", especially if you pay for membership. This means that when you change your contact email address to the email address of your ex, the dating site will not ask you to confirm this email address!!!</p>\r\n<p>Once you\\'ve updated your contact details, then it\\'s time to get brave with your online \\""lovers\\""</p>\r\n<p>Get chatting with all of them and tell them that you want to take it all to the next stage - phone calls, a meeting in a motel/hotel or a \\""party\\"" that you are having at \\""your\\"" house. Share your ex\\'s phone number, email and house address with the online community.</p>\r\n<p>Don\\'t hold back - remember, you\\'ve overcome all your shyness, you\\'re gagging for it and want to fulfil your darkest, dirtiest fetishes!!!</p>\r\n<p><strong>Step 5 - Sit Back & Enjoy The Show</strong></p>\r\n<p>If you\\'ve done your groundwork, then you can now imagine what\\'s going to happen - dominatrix, transvestites, \\""water sport\\"" lovers etc will all be contacting your ex as a HOT lead!!!</p>\r\n<p>And when your ex tells them to go away (or something similar), your ex will be met with a torrent of abuse as they\\'ve violated the unwritten code of \\""if you make real world contact, then you must want to go through with it\\""</p>\r\n<p>At this point, the only thing you\\'ve got to do is sit back, laugh and enjoy the rewards of your hard labour!!!</p>\r\n<p><strong>Final Thoughts</strong></p>\r\n<p>Although this revenge tactic involves a lot of work, the devastating effect it has on your ex is never to be underestimated.</p>\r\n<p>I have set well over a hundred people up this way and every time it never fails to shock and offend :-)</p>\r\n<p>If you are worried about being tracked down, then I recommend you use a piece of software that hides your computer\\'s real details when surfing the internet.</p>\r\n<p>Personally, I use Hide My IP software - for more information on this clever piece of software, <a href=\\""http://www.hide-my-ip.com/?id=207\\"" target=\\""_blank\\"">click here</a></p>\r\n<p>And just before I sign off, don\\'t be worried about supplying your card details. Data Protection means that your details are not disclosed, especially given the \\""alternative\\"" nature of these dating sites.</p>\r\n<p>As always, let me know how you get on with this tactic. It\\'s a real favourite of mine and I hope you\\'ll enjoy it as much as I do.</p>\r\n<p>Until the next time</p>\r\n<p>Nick</p>\r\n<p></p>",article,<br/><br/>,31,<blank>,<blank>
An Alternative Use For Powdered Milk,2007-01-16,760,"<p>We both know that your ex stinks - right?!</p>\r\n<p>Well, why not turn the metaphorical into a physical reality.</p>\r\n<p>The only downside to this revenge tactic is that you need access to your ex\\'s bed -\xa0 if you haven\\'t fully split yet, then this may well be possible.</p>\r\n<p>So, what do you need to do.</p>\r\n<p>Actually, it\\'s really quite simple - simply go to your local drug store, or supermarket and buy yourself some powdered baby milk.</p>\r\n<p>A great tip here is that you want to get the youngest milk possible - i.e. for new borns.</p>\r\n<p>Then, armed with weapon simply remove the bottom sheet from your victims bed and sprinkly a generous amount of powdered milk over the bed.</p>\r\n<p>Be careful not to put too much on, otherwise your ex may notice something is wrong.</p>\r\n<p>Next, replace the bedsheet and make the bed as usual.</p>\r\n<p>When your ex then goes to bed, the revenge starts.</p>\r\n<p>Now, the average person will release a pint of fluid in the form of perspiration every night.</p>\r\n<p>So...what happens when you mix sweat with baby milk powder...</p>\r\n<p>Yhep - you get rancid baby milk!!!</p>\r\n<p>Not only will your ex have a god awful smell about them the next day, but the sour milk will impregnate the top part of their matress, which means that even if they change their bedsheets, each morning they will still wake up stinking of rancid milk!</p>\r\n<p>I know that getting access to your ex\\'s bed might not be that easy, but this revenge tactic will justify all of your effort.</p>\r\n<p>We all know that revenge tastes sweet, but did you know it can also stink like hell!!!</p>\r\n<p>As usual, let me know how you get on with this one - just drop me an email at <a href=\\""mailto:nick@getrevengeonyourex.com\\"">nick@getrevengeonyourex.com</a> </p>\r\n<p>Until the next time</p>\r\n<p>Nick</p>\r\n<p></p>",article,<br/><br/>,30,<blank>,<blank>
A Weedy Revenge Tactic,2007-04-27,1002,"<p>Boy, have I had some recently!!!</p>\r\n<p>For the first time in ages, I\\'ve managed to drag myself away from my keyboard and get back to doing some hands-on revenge for an old friend of mine.</p>\r\n<p>And what a fantastic result!</p>\r\n<p>To give you some background, let me briefly tell you about Claire and her ex Ryan. To cut a long story short, Claire had been living with Ryan for 4 years and during that time he used more and more marijuana, to the point where come Friday night he\\'d get so stoned that he was only back in the land of the living on Sunday afternoons.</p>\r\n<p>Ryan kept borrowing money from Claire (which he never repaid) to pay\xa0for his weed and recently, he started to supply drugs in an attempt to fund his own habit.</p>\r\n<p>The breaking point for Claire came when one of Ryans \\""customers\\"" called round to pick up his order. Ryan was actually stoned on the sofa and Claire told this guy to go away.</p>\r\n<p>Well, this person then punched Claire in the stomach and forced his way into their house looking for Ryan and his order.</p>\r\n<p>When Ryan finally \\""sobered up\\"" (or whatever the phrase is), he then blamed Claire for letting this guy in in the first place and allowing him to take all of Ryan\\'s stash.</p>\r\n<p>It also turned out, that Ryan was accepting \\""other forms of payment\\"" from his female customers!</p>\r\n<p>Fortunately, Claire moved out and got in touch with me :-)</p>\r\n<p>Given Ryan\\'s habit, the plan was easy.</p>\r\n<p>When Ryan was out at work, I pulled up outside his house in a white van full of hired gardening equipment. I put up an a-frame advertising \\""Nick\\'s Garden Services\\"" and then proceeded to spend a couple of hours looking busy in this guy\\'s garden.</p>\r\n<p>What I was actually doing, was planting ver 100 marijuana seeds in various places around the garden.</p>\r\n<p>Now, for the uninitiated, there is a reason that marijuana is called \\""weed\\"" - because that is actually what it is, and it\\'s very fast growing (especially with the amount of fertiliser I planted it with!)</p>\r\n<p>I then packed up my tools and a-frame and drove home.</p>\r\n<p>A couple of weeks later, I popped back round to check on progress and sure enough, the plants were growing very well.</p>\r\n<p>I then waited a couple more weeks and then phoned the police and said that Ryan is growing and supplying marijuana.</p>\r\n<p>Within a couple of days, the police turned up and found the plants growing in the garden. Spurred on by this, they then obtained a warrant and searched the house where, low and behold, they found a significant amount of weed. </p>\r\n<p>Ryan was duly arrested and charged and even ended up losing his job.</p>\r\n<p>The best thing about this revenge tactic is that Claire was long gone by the time this revenge tactic came to fruition, plus - <strong><font color=\\""#ff6666\\"">planting seeds is legal</font></strong> , it\\'s the growing of the plants that is illegal (a small, but significant difference)</p>\r\n<p>So, with Spring now in full swing (at least in the Northern Hemisphere), why not plant a few seeds in your ex\\'s garden or window box.</p>\r\n<p>Plus, growing plants helps combat greenhouse gases, so you\\'ll be helping the environment as well!!!</p>\r\n<p>Until the next time, happy planting</p>\r\n<p></p>\r\n<p></p>",article,<br/><br/>,32,<blank>,<blank>
Sue Your Ex AND The Home Wrecker Too,2007-08-08,947,"<p>How would you like to sue your ex or even the home-wrecker on TV?<br />\xa0<br />Incredible as it is, it is now possible for you to sue your ex, or the person they went off with, for damages \xf1 what\xeds more, you can do all of this on TV.<br />\xa0<br />Not only will you get the satisfaction of getting legal revenge and financial compensation \xf1 you also get to tell your side of the story on TV, so everyone will get to know what your ex has been up to!<br />\xa0<br />I regularly receive enquiries about how to get money back from an ex and now, at last, there is a perfectly legal way to do this without expensive debt collection agency costs or legal bills.<br />\xa0<br />Did your ex \xeccon\xee you into lending them money ? \xf1 if so, now you have an easy to access legal process to reclaim your money.<br />\xa0<br />And what about the person who \xecstole\xee your partner? Surely they deserve to get punished! <br />\xa0<br />Well, thanks to a relatively new law, you can now sue them as well!!! <br />\xa0<br />The law is called \xecAlienation of Affection\xee and is a tort based legal action on wilful and malicious interference with marriage relations by a third party. The elements constituting the cause of action are wrongful conduct of the defendant, plaintiff\xeds loss of affection or consortium of spouse, and a causal connection between the two.<br />\xa0<br />In other words \xf1 the home wrecker can be held legally liable and punished accordingly \xf1 just what they deserve!!!<br />\xa0<br />Now, not all states in the US recognise this law, but there are plenty who do \xf1 including Texas which is where the court will be televised.<br />\xa0<br />Furthermore, and from my point of view, this is the best part \xf1 not only can you sue your ex or the home wrecker, you can do it all on TV. Millions of people will see you get your judgement in a real court and you can get to tell your side of the story and show your ex and/or the home wrecker for what they really are!<br />\xa0<br />So, how do you go about doing this?<br />\xa0<br />It\xeds simple \xf1 all you need to do is email your story and why you think you should sue to <a href=\\""mailto:PGB207@AOL.COM\\"">PGB207@AOL.COM</a> </p>\r\n<p>or alternatively, you can write to </p>\r\n<p>Cristina\\'s Court<br />PO Box 270298<br />Houston, TX 77277</p>\r\n<p>or if you would prefer, you can phone Lisa on 713-353-1859<br />\xa0<br />Lisa and her colleagues will then be able to assess your case and then take you through the process of suing your ex and/or home wrecker on TV.<br />\xa0<br />They can then tell you more about the TV show itself \xf1 Cristina\xeds Court <br />\xa0<br />I have to say, I think that televised legal action against your ex and the home wrecker is a fantastic and morally safe revenge tactic and I applaud the legal process for recognising the real damage that cheating partners inflict.</p>\r\n<p>So go on, get in touch with the show, get the money you deserve and don;t forget to tell them that\xa0Nick sent you.<br />\xa0</p>\r\n<p></p>",article,<br/><br/>,36,<blank>,<blank>
A Security Nightmare,2007-10-30,1301,"<p>With Thanksgiving and Christmas fast approaching (where HAS this year gone?!), you might want to try this particularly funny revenge tactic.</p>\r\n<p>Your ex (or anyone else you don\\'t like) will at some point go shopping and apart from not having enough money to pay at the checkout, what is the most embarrassing thing that can happen in a shop?</p>\r\n<p>Yhep, you\\'ve guessed it - you set off the shoplifting alarm!</p>\r\n<p>So, how exactly do you go about making alarms go off?</p>\r\n<p>Well, when you next do your grocery shopping, buy something that has one of those thin metallic security strips in it - you know what I mean, they are about 2 inches long and look like a freezer-bag tie.</p>\r\n<p>You tend to find them in higher value products such as hair oils, razor blades, seed packets etc.</p>\r\n<p>Once you\\'ve got some, you need to get them onto your ex - either by \\""accidentally\\"" bumping in to them when you are shopping, or, if you\\'re better prepared - putting them inside jacket or trouser pockets, in the bottom of handbags etc.</p>\r\n<p>Everyshop your ex goes into, they will then set of the alarms and as these tags are so small, it\\'ll be almost impossible for them to find them.</p>\r\n<p>Don\\'t forget to follow your ex around as they go shopping!</p>",article,<br/><br/>,41,<blank>,<blank>
Post Christmas Clean-up,2008-01-08,778,"<p>Happy New Year!</p>\r\n<p>The other day I was clearing up after Christmas and generally organising my life - you know the kind of thing - throwing away old paperwork, putting unused items to one side for the charity shop etc.</p>\r\n<p>Well, I don\\'t about you, but I ended up with quite a lot of sacks and boxes to get rid of - more than the weekly refuse collection would accept. As a result, I had to take the rubbish to the local refuse point and on the way, dropped things off at the charity shop.</p>\r\n<p>And I wasn\\'t the only one - it seems that most of my town had the same idea.</p>\r\n<p>As I\\'m always on the lookout for revenge opportunities, something sparked in my mind.</p>\r\n<p>\\""If only there was someone who was prepared to do the collect both my rubbish and charity bags\\""</p>\r\n<p>And do you know what?</p>\r\n<p>There is someone . . . your ex!</p>\r\n<p>As it happens, just after Christmas I was in a rather mischevious mood and so I did this to my ex, just for fun :-)</p>\r\n<p>Using my PC and word processor I created a very small flyer (I got 3 to an A4 page). The flyer read:</p>\r\n<p align=\\""center\\""><font face=\\""Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif\\""><strong>Clearing Out After Christmas?</strong></font></p>\r\n<p align=\\""center\\""><font face=\\""Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif\\""><strong>On behalf of St Mary\\'s Church, we will collect <br />your rubbish and charity jumble for free.</strong></font></p>\r\n<p align=\\""center\\""><font face=\\""Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif\\""><strong>Call Michelle on 07967 22**** to arrange collection</strong></font></p>\r\n<p>I then printed out 200 pages (600 flyers in all) and spent a nice afternoon delivering leaflets in the local area.</p>\r\n<p>I don\\'t know how many calls she got, but I do know that she ended up changing her cell phone!</p>\r\n<p>And doubt forget - didn\\'t your ex say that one of their New Year Resolutions was to do more for the community???</p>\r\n<p></p>",article,<br/><br/>,42,<blank>,<blank>
Sugar Is Not Always Sweet!,2009-01-07,1534,"<p>Pretty much everyone knows that if you put sugar in the petrol/gas tank of a car, then it really screws the engine up.</p>\r\n<p>While this is a great way of getting revenge, it's also illegal - which is a shame!!!</p>\r\n<p>However, making your victim THINK that their car has been sugared is completely legal and just as effective.</p>\r\n<p>Obviously for this tactic to work, you need a nearly empty bag of sugar, some sticky tape, pen, paper and a small rag.</p>\r\n<p>First off, you write a note (or print one out using your computer so your handwriting can't be recognised), saying something along the lines of:</p>\r\n<p>""Warning: because you're such an asshole, sugar has been added to your petrol/gas tank. What you do next is up to you. You can either start your car and screw up your engine, or you can call a mechanic and get your tank drained. The choice is yours""</p>\r\n<p>You'll then place this note on the window of their car, so that it's in full view.</p>\r\n<p>Next, with your nearly empty bag of sugar, you sprinkle sugar around their fuel cap, and some on the floor.</p>\r\n<p>Once you've done that, gently stick the empty sugar bag onto their car by the fuel cap - be careful here to not stick too hard. If they remove the sticky tape and the paintwork is damaged, then technically, it's illegal - use a decorators masking tape or a low-tack tape to do the job (definately not duct-tape!)</p>\r\n<p>Finally, shove the small rag up their car's exhaust pipe, making sure it's a good snug fit and about 6 inches in.</p>\r\n<p>Now, what happens next is all down to your victim.</p>\r\n<p>They'll see your note and the sugar bag and will have to make a decision - to believe the note, or not.</p>\r\n<p>If they believe the note and call out a mechanic, they're out of pocket.</p>\r\n<p>If they don't believe the note and start their car, the rag up the exhaust pipe means that within a short while, their engine will misfire, stall and generally have a bad time - this will make your victim realise their mistake!!!</p>\r\n<p>Not only will they call the mechanic out, they'll be panicking about the size of the garage bill for a new engine!</p>\r\n<p></p>",article,<br/><br/>,47,<blank>,<blank>
Couple Split House - Literally,2008-12-09,647,"<p>We just found this news article and while not strictly revenge, it makes you think!!!</p>\r\n<p>A married couple in Cambodia have gone their separate ways after literally cutting their home in half.</p>\r\n<p><img height=""308"" alt=""The wife's share of the house /Quirky China News"" src=""http://www.ananova.com/images/web/1441445.jpg"" width=""410"" /></p>\r\n<p>The wife will stay put in the upright half while her husband has carried off his half to start again on the other side of the village.</p>\r\n<p>Neighbours said the couple saw the radical action as the most cost-efficient and equitable way to avoid each other in a country where divorce lawyers can be expensive.</p>\r\n<p>Vorng Morn, the headman of Cheach village, told the Phnom Penh Post: ""We tried to persuade them to think clearly before they did this because they had been married for nearly 40 years. But they did not listen.""</p>\r\n<p>Mr Morn refused to identify the couple to protect their privacy.</p>\r\n<p>The impetus for the break up was the husband's alleged malingering, or the wife's alleged lack of care, depending on your point of view.</p>\r\n<p>""His wife said that if her husband got sick and stayed at home, she was made to pay for his medicine, but if he stayed at his parent's house, she wouldn't have to pay. So they separated,"" said Mr Morn.</p>\r\n<p>Following the spat, the husband's friends helped him move his wife's belongings to one side of the property, before chiselling and sawing half of the building off.</p>\r\n<p>Until he reconstructs his half of the marital home the husband will live with his mother and father.</p>",news,<br/><br/>,46,<blank>,<blank>
A Blanket Of Snow Is Your Best Friend,2009-01-07,1224,"<p>For those of us in the northern hemisphere, it's winter and depending upon where you live, winter means snow.</p>\r\n<p>And one of the great things about snow is that it covers the ground, meaning that what's on the ground is hidden from view - and this represents a perfect opportunity for revenge!</p>\r\n<p>OK, what follows does require\xa0a little planning and waiting for the right conditions but just think what you can do:</p>\r\n<p>1 - place large piles of animal excrement by your victim's doorstep, around their car or anywhere else they are guaranteed to walk.</p>\r\n<p>2 - spray offensive messages on the ground for them to find only when the snow thaws or is cleared. This particular tactic is great if your victim is the kind of person to clear their own snow - the message can be something like ""guess what else I've written about you asshole"" and your victim will then waste countless hours clearing ALL the snow to try and track your other (non existant) messages</p>\r\n<p>3 - tie things up - especially their car to a tree. If you use strong rope, or even a chain, to tie their exhaust pipe or fender to another car or any static object the snow will cover your dastardly deed and when they drive off...well, let's just say they won't get very far!</p>\r\n<p>If this last one sounds a little too drastic, then rather than tying their car to a static object, attach a heavy, flat-ish\xa0object such as a spade or dustbin lid to the end of the rope - they'll end up dragging the object around for ages as the snow on the road will muffle the noise :-)</p>\r\n<p>Now you know what\xa0a good friend snow can be, I'm sure you'll be able to come up with even more ideas of your own - if so, just add them to the bottom of this article for everyone else to read!</p>",guide,<br/><br/>,48,<blank>,<blank>
Oh Wow! Is This The Ultimate Revenge?,2009-01-09,2941,"<p>A New York surgeon who donated a kidney to his wife has gone to court to get it back after they split up.</p>\r\n<p>Dr Richard Batista, 49, gave up the organ eight years ago when his wife Dawnell fell ill, reports the Daily Telegraph.</p>\r\n<p>But he claims she repaid his kindness by having an affair before filing for divorce, and is demanding compensation for risking his life.</p>\r\n<p>""There's no deeper pain you can ever express than to be betrayed by the person you devoted your life to,"" he told reporters.</p>\r\n<p>His lawyer Dominic Barbara said he wanted $1.5 million in compensation for the kidney as part of a matrimonial break-up which has dragged on for three years.</p>\r\n<p>""In theory we are asking for the return of the kidney. Of course, he wouldn't really ask for that, but the value of it. This has never been done before in the State of New York,"" said Mr Barbara.</p>\r\n<p>Dr Batista volunteered to donate his kidney after he was found to be a suitable match.</p>\r\n<p>""She was my wife. My first priority was to save her life and future of our children and hopefully with that in mind keep the marriage alive. To this day I would still do it again,"" he said.</p>\r\n<p>His wife survived but their relationship did not and the doctor claimed his wife had an affair before filing for divorce in 2005. Mrs Batista's lawyer has made no comment.</p>\r\n<p>Legal experts said the case was unlikely to succeed because donating an organ is considered a gift and cannot be bought or sold.</p>",article,<br/><br/>,49,<blank>,<blank>
How To Financially Screw Your Ex!,2009-02-02,2731,"<p>Many people often write to us and ask how they can either get money from their ex, or basically, ruin them financially.</p>\r\n<p>Of course, there are many ways to do this but almost everyone of them is illegal and as blackmail/extortion/etc are viewed as ""serious"" crimes we wouldn't recommend going down that route :-)</p>\r\n<p>However, all is not lost!!!</p>\r\n<p>One of our team, Dan, used to be a credit & fraud risk consultant working for various banks around the world and so has a deep and meaningful understanding of how the world of credit works....yhep, don't worry, we've all told him he needs to get a life!</p>\r\n<p>Many of you are probably familiar with the fact that if you go to a bank or loan company and ask for a loan, they will check you out at one of the various Credit Reference Agencies.</p>\r\n<p>So, if you've got a bad debt or a not so wonderful financial history, then these companies will know about it.</p>\r\n<p>But, there's more to it than that and it's called a ""Credit Score""</p>\r\n<p>Basically, all of your credit information is condensed by some really nerdy number-crunching types into a single figure, called your credit score.</p>\r\n<p>The credit score tries to combine 2 things - your payment history and your desperation for credit</p>\r\n<p>And it's this last bit that you can expolit (cue evil, Hollywood sounding laugh)</p>\r\n<p>Everytime you apply for credit - whether you get it or not - a ""mark"" is put on your credit profile. A small number of ""marks"" in a short period of time, is not a bad thing - you are shopping around for the best deal.</p>\r\n<p>However, too many ""marks"" and according to the nerdy number crunchers, you're applying for credit everywhere and so this translates into ""I'm really in the shit, I need money""</p>\r\n<p>As a result, your credit score goes down (and way way down) and you are ""flagged"" as a no-hoper for anything up to 5 years!!! Of course, this is all wrapped up in a convenient little credit score so that if you ask to see your credit records, then you'll have no idea of this flag (but it does exist!!!)</p>\r\n<p>So then, what does this mean for financial revenge?</p>\r\n<p>Simple!</p>\r\n<p>Just apply for loans, credit cards etc in your ex's name - make sure that you use their details, don't try and get the money for yourself (that's illegal!!!)</p>\r\n<p>And don't just stop at 1 or 2 loans - anything above 5 searches is deemed excessive, so go for 20, 30 or 100 and keep doing it over and over again</p>\r\n<p>In virtually every magazine there is an ""apply for a credit card/loan"" application and I bet you get almost 1 application a day via direct mail</p>\r\n<p>Use them - keep applying for credit, but put your ex's details down</p>\r\n<p>Then, if you want to have some real fun, vary the information you put down.</p>\r\n<p>Key triggers are time at address and income</p>\r\n<p>Just vary these slightly from the real truth (by a couple of years and no more than 25% of salary), but not on every application</p>\r\n<p>Because, as well as looking for too many credit applications, the credit score is often matched with a fraud score.</p>\r\n<p>The fraud score checks for consistency - and if there's no consistency, then as far as the nerdy number-crunchers are concerned, the applicant is trying to ""lie"" their way to the money.</p>\r\n<p>OK - just one more bit</p>\r\n<p>Obviously, your ex will not know about any of this until he gets a phone call from the loan company asking to check some info. He/She will be pissed off but they'll think thats the end of it.</p>\r\n<p>However, when they do come to ask for credit for a genuine reason - they'll be declined!!!</p>\r\n<p>And what's more, as you keep applying for credit for them, month after month, this revenge tactic can last for years!!!!</p>\r\n<p>And if that wasn't enough - many employers now check out their potential employees credit record before emploing them. So answer me this, would you employ someone with a horrible financial record???</p>\r\n<p>Just one final warning though - DO NOT TRY AND TAKE THE MONEY - you are ruining their financial record, not trying to steal money!</p>",guide,<br/><br/>,50,<blank>,<blank>
A Novel Use For Facebook,2009-04-22,2323,"<p>Well, we've heard of - and in fact we've even recommend it - using Facebook to get revenge, but it seems this fellow decided to dump his wife online...</p>\r\n<p></p>\r\n<p>\r\n<table cellspacing=""0"" cellpadding=""4"" width=""100%"" border=""1"">\r\n<tbody>\r\n<tr>\r\n<td>\xa0\r\n<table cellspacing=""0"" cellpadding=""0"" width=""80%"" border=""0"">\r\n<tbody>\r\n<tr>\r\n<td valign=""bottom""><strong><big>Wife dumped on Facebook</big></strong></td></tr></tbody></table>\r\n<p>A wife has spoken of her humiliation after she became the first woman to be ""divorced"" on Facebook.</p>\r\n<p>Emma Brady claims she only found out her six-year marriage was over when her husband posted a message on the social networking site.</p>\r\n<p>It simply said: ""Neil Brady has ended his marriage to Emma Brady.""</p>\r\n<p>Emma, 39, only learned she was dumped when her best friend from Denmark phoned to see if she was OK, reports the Daily Mirror.</p>\r\n<p>Mum-of-one Emma, of Blackburn, said: ""We were like any other couple. We had our ups and downs but as far as I knew things were fine between us.</p>\r\n<p>""When I got the phone call I was shell-shocked. My first instinct was to phone him but my friends at work insisted I should speak to him face to face. He acted like everything was fine.</p>\r\n<p>""This whole thing has been terrible. It's been humiliating having everything happen so publicly.""</p>\r\n<p></p></td></tr></tbody></table></p>",article,<br/><br/>,51,<blank>,<blank>
They're A Bit Strange In Croatia,2009-04-22,717,"<p>Hmmmm - this one just begs the question ""why?""</p>\r\n<p>\r\n<table cellspacing=""0"" cellpadding=""4"" width=""100%"" border=""1"">\r\n<tbody>\r\n<tr>\r\n<td>\xa0\r\n<table cellspacing=""0"" cellpadding=""0"" width=""80%"" border=""0"">\r\n<tbody>\r\n<tr>\r\n<td valign=""bottom""><strong><big>Hairy problem</big></strong></td></tr></tbody></table>\r\n<p>A fed-up Croatian man is suing his ex - for blitzing him with postcards with bits of her hair stuck to them.</p>\r\n<p>Ivo Mikesic asked a court in Zagreb to serve a restraining order on his besotted former girlfriend to stop her sending him the bizarre notes.</p>\r\n<p>He said: ""I got one and just thought it was really weird and tried to ignore it.</p>\r\n<p>""But then the postman brought some more postcards with hair on them, and he was giving me some very funny looks. I am also dating another girl now and she thinks it's very disturbing so I decided to take action to keep my ex away from me, just in case.</p>\r\n<p>""I have no idea why my ex is doing this but at the rate she is going she's going to have no hair left soon.""</p></td></tr></tbody></table></p>\r\n<p>We really don't understand this at all - why send hair...unless it's from a bairy builder's sweaty backside :-)</p>",news,<br/><br/>,52,<blank>,<blank>
Taking Revenge Too Far,2009-09-07,1685,"<p>Don't try this at home!!!</p>\r\n<p></p>\r\n<div class=""article_segbody""><font size=""2"" face=""Courier New, Courier, mono"">A young man distraught over a break-up with his girlfriend hanged himself while she watched over a web camera, Chilean police have said. </font></div>\r\n<div class=""article_segbody""><font size=""2"" face=""Courier New""></font></div>\r\n<div class=""article_segbody""><font size=""2"" face=""Courier New, Courier, mono"">Deputy inspector Carlos Court said 26-year-old Simon Venegas was chatting with his former girlfriend when he pointed his camera at a tree in a courtyard of his house. </font></div>\r\n<div class=""article_segbody""><font size=""2"" face=""Courier New""></font></div>\r\n<div class=""article_segbody""><font size=""2"" face=""Courier New, Courier, mono"">Mr Court said Venegas hung a rope over a branch and told his ex, ""Watch what I'm going to do"" and ""I love you, take care,"" before hanging himself. </font></div>\r\n<div class=""article_segbody""><font size=""2"" face=""Courier New""></font></div>\r\n<div class=""article_segbody""><font size=""2"" face=""Courier New, Courier, mono"">The horrified 23-year-old woman called Mr Venegas' friends to stop him, but Mr Court said they arrived too late. The couple broke up a year ago. </font></div>\r\n<div class=""article_segbody""><font size=""2"" face=""Courier New""></font></div>\r\n<div class=""article_segbody""><font size=""2"" face=""Courier New, Courier, mono"">The suicide happened on Friday in San Felipe, about 55 miles south east of the capital of Santiago.</font> </div>\r\n<div class=""article_more""></div>\r\n<div id=""xpmenu"" class=""parent chrome3 alt1 Msn_XP_GenLinks_Menu Web_Bindings_Base"">\r\n<div class=""child"">\r\n<div class=""xp_menubody"">\r\n<div class=""xp_menuhead"">\r\n<h2>We DO NOT recommend this kind of revenge tactic!</h2></div></div></div></div>",article,<br/><br/>,53,<blank>,<blank>
Dads That Don't Pay,2010-01-18,779,"<p>A little while back we sent a newsletter to our members asking them for their stories about absent fathers as this is something that really gets our back up (don't worry, we won't start ranting now :-) )</p>\r\n<p>Unsurprisingly, we had lots of replies but one in particular stood out for us.</p>\r\n<p>Karen DuBois's story typified many of the replies that we received, but with one key difference...Karen found a way to ""rise from the ashes"" and her story is truly inspirational.</p>\r\n<p>Karen is now financially and emotionally secure and, without sounding condescending or offensive, she is ""normal"".</p>\r\n<p>So impressed are we with how Karen has coped that we helped build a dedicated website for her where she shares her experiences of what has worked for her. She's also looking to build up a membership of women who are in the same position so everyone can help each other.</p>\r\n<p>Karen's site is not about revenge (that's what we do....and yes, we have helped Karen do that as well!!!), but it's a really practical and supportive site for women who have been left to fend for themselves and their children without any support from the fathers.</p>\r\n<p>So, if you are in a similar situation, or know of anyone else who is, then please visit Karen's site - <a href=""http://www.dadsthatdontpay.com/"" target=""_blank"">www.DadsThatDontPay.com</a> </p>\r\n<p>The site has only been up and running for a day or so, but provides the ideal arena for people in a similar situation to find and offer support for each other.</p>\r\n<p></p>",article,<br/><br/>,54,<blank>,<blank>
In The News - Fantastic Way Of Getting Revenge,2010-01-28,1559,"<h1>Love rat apologises after women he cheated on launch city-wide poster campaign branding him a 'cold heartless letch'</h1>\r\n<div id=""digg-button"" class=""float-r hidden"">\r\n<script type=""text/javascript"" src=""http://scripts.dailymail.co.uk/js/diggthis.js""></script></div>\r\n<p>By <a class=""author"" href=""http://www.dailymail.co.uk/home/search.html?s=y&authornamef=Daily+Mail+Reporter"" rel=""nofollow""><font color=""#003580"">Daily Mail Reporter</font></a><br />Last updated at 11:58 PM on 27th January 2010</p>\r\n<div class=""thinFloatRHS""><img class=""blkBorder"" alt=""Lisa Hennessy"" src=""http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2010/01/27/article-1246459-080A6858000005DC-258_233x525.jpg"" width=""233"" height=""525"" /> \r\n<p class=""imageCaption"">Revenge is sweet: Lisa Hennessy shamed her ex after discovering he had been unfaithful</p></div>\r\n<p>A lothario who romanced two women at once has seen the error of his ways - 150 times. </p>\r\n<p>Paul Marshall emerged from his house to find scores of pictures of himself plastered on lamp posts with a warning to 'single ladies' to beware his roving eye. </p>\r\n<p>The posters branded the 40-year-old father of two a 'cold, heartless letch' and added: 'If he approaches you and tries to charm you into his bed run as fast as you can.' </p>\r\n<p>More than 150 of the posters were put up near Mr Marshall's home, work and across the city of Southampton after his two girlfriends realised he had been cheating on them both. </p>\r\n<p>The security driver had been romancing shop manager Lisa Hennessy, 44, for eight months. But he was also seeing his ex-girlfriend at the same time. </p>\r\n<p>The women are said to have realised he was two-timing them thanks to a Facebook exchange on New Year's Day. </p>\r\n<p>Furious, they decided to take revenge. Although he was not named on the poster, Mr Marshall was horrified at being labelled a cheat. </p>\r\n<p>'I know I've done wrong, I know I've lied. I know I've been deceitful and I know I've hurt people,' he said. </p>\r\n<p>'I do not feel good about that and unfortunately now I've had a reality check so I don't do that again. </p>\r\n<p>'I would like to publicly apologise, not just to these two women, but to all the women I may have hurt over the years.<br /></p>\r\n<div class=""clear""></div>\r\n<div class=""thinCenter""><img class=""blkBorder"" alt=""Paul Marshall poster campaign"" src=""http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2010/01/27/article-1246459-080A67BE000005DC-936_468x687.jpg"" width=""468"" height=""687"" /> \r\n<p class=""imageCaption"">Poster campaign: Paul Marshall was branded a letch on the warning notices posted around the city</p></div><br />\r\n<p>'There are no reasons or excuses for it I suppose, just me not being able to say no and not being able to finish one thing before I started the other.'\xa0</p>\r\n<p></p>\r\n<div class=""relatedItemsTopBorder""></div>\r\n<div class=""relatedItems"">\r\n<h4>More...</h4>\r\n<ul>\r\n<li><a href=""http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1246638/His-jealousy-makes-women-forgiving-men.html""><font color=""#003580"">'His and hers' jealousy makes women more forgiving than men</font></a> </li></ul></div>\r\n<p></p>\r\n<p>Among a litany of misdemeanors listed on the poster Mr Marshall was accused of giving one woman a cuddly toy with the slogan 'I love you this much' across the front. It had been given to him by the other girlfriend for Valentine's Day. </p>\r\n<div class=""thinFloatRHS""><img class=""blkBorder"" alt=""Paul Marshall"" src=""http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2010/01/27/article-1246459-080A66CD000005DC-386_233x361.jpg"" width=""233"" height=""361"" /> \r\n<p class=""imageCaption"">Love Rat: Paul Marshall apologised after posters began appearing on lamp posts, branding him 'cold and heartless'</p></div>\r\n<p>Miss Hennessy, who had dreamed of a 'Disney wedding' with Mr Marshall, has received a police caution for her part in the poster campaign. </p>\r\n<p>She said: 'When I found out he wasn't my Prince Charming but an ugly toad my whole world caved in.'</p>\r\n<p>She said: 'I couldn't have wished to meet a more charming man.<br /></p>\r\n<p>'We even talked about one day getting married and having a Disney wedding.<br /></p>\r\n<p>'It was an absolutely perfect relationship.<br /></p>\r\n<p>'When I found out he wasn't my Prince Charming, but an ugly toad, my whole world caved in.'</p>\r\n<p>Mr Marshall has now pledged to stay single for a while and said that, when he does meet his love match, he will be more open 'to avoid a similar mess'.</p>\r\n<p>He said: 'The person I was when I was with Lisa or whoever wasn't any different to what I am like.</p>\r\n<p>'I am the same warm, friendly, funny person. That has never changed.'</p>",news,<br/><br/>,55,<blank>,<blank>
Nun sues over naked Facebook photos,2010-02-25,714,"<p>Looks like Facebook is becoming a great revenge tool :-)</p>\r\n<p>We just found this great revenge article ... enjoy the read !!!</p>\r\n<p>- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -\xa0 </p>\r\n<p></p>\r\n<p>A novice nun is suing her ex-boyfriend in Italy after he uploaded pictures of her naked on Facebook.</p>\r\n<p><img alt=""A nun /Rex"" src=""http://www.ananova.com/images/web/1517930.jpg"" width=""410"" height=""500"" /></p>\r\n<p>The 31-year-old woman who lives in Turin said she was devastated when she saw the pictures, taken in summer 2006 during a holiday in Sicily, on the social networking site.</p>\r\n<p>The man who said he wanted to stop her becoming a nun has refused to remove the pictures despite the woman's requests.</p>\r\n<p>Now lawyer Anna Orecchioni has taken action and said: ""My client doesn't want money, she only wants that he respects her decision to become a nun.""</p>\r\n<p>Large numbers of Italians meanwhile have logged on to see the pictures leaving comments like: ""If all the nuns are like that, I want to become a priest.""</p>\r\n<p></p>",news,<br/><br/>,56,<blank>,<blank>
Getting revenge via eBay,2010-03-24,1497,"<p>Sometimes revenge is just about having fun at your ex's expense and as you'll see from the snippets below, this is exactly what several people have done by selling their ex on eBay.</p>\r\n<p>OK, it's not technically 100% legal, but nor is parking in a no-waiting zone or on double yellow lines, which we've all done...and let's be honest, the ""punishment"" of a simple caution or warning (and that is about as severe as it does get), is well worth debating :-)</p>\r\n<p>So, have a look at what these enterprising people have done and if nothing else, enjoy the fantasy of doing it for yourself.</p>\r\n<p>Of course, if you do put your ex up for sale on eBay, then let us know.</p>\r\n<h1><b><font color=""#006600"">Trouble and strife on eBay </font></b></h1>\r\n<p class=""article""><br /><font color=""#006600"">IT might have been done out of spite, but Paul Osborn, 44, nearly scooped half a million for his estranged wife. </font></p>\r\n<p class=""article""><font color=""#006600"">MoT inspector Paul, from Bletchley, Bucks, posted the ad after learning Sharon, 43, was seeing a workmate. </font></p>\r\n<p class=""article""><font color=""#006600"">He included a picture of her picking her nose and offered ""my cheating, lying, adulterous s*** of a wife"" to the top bidder. </font></p>\r\n<p class=""article""><font color=""#006600"">But cops failed to see the funny side and arrested the dad-of-two. </font></p>\r\n<p class=""article""><font color=""#006600"">He has since been cautioned for ""sending an offensive, indecent, obscene and menacing message"" on the web. </font></p>\r\n<p><br /><br /><font color=""#000099"">Read more: <a href=""http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/features/2904112/eBays-freakiest-ever-auctions.html?offset=6#ixzz0j5C4xhfh"" target=""_self"">http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/features/2904112/eBays-freakiest-ever-auctions.html?offset=6#ixzz0j5C4xhfh</a></font></p>\r\n<p></p>\r\n<h1><b><font color=""#006600"">Man models wedding dress </font></b></h1>\r\n<p class=""article""><br /><font color=""#006600"">WHILE he didn't let on to how much he finally got for <i>that</i> fetching number, we know this man's eBay entry of his ex-wife's wedding dress got him <b>THREE</b> marriage proposals and thousands of hits online. </font></p>\r\n<p class=""article""><font color=""#006600"">He posed in the pricey white number after his miserable five-year marriage broke down. </font></p>\r\n<p class=""article""><font color=""#006600"">Here's a snippet of his auction description: ""I was actually going to have a dress burning party when the divorce became final, but my sister talked me out of it. </font></p>\r\n<p class=""article""><font color=""#006600"">""She said, 'That's such a gorgeous dress. Some lucky girl would be glad to have it. You should sell it on eBay. At least get something back for it.' </font></p>\r\n<p class=""article""><font color=""#006600"">""So, this is what I'm doing. I'm selling it hoping to get enough money for maybe a couple of Mariners tickets and some beer. </font></p>\r\n<p class=""article""><font color=""#006600"">""This dress cost me $1,200 that my drunken sot of an ex-father-in-law swore up and down he would pay for but didn't, so I got stuck with the bill. </font></p>\r\n<p class=""article""><font color=""#006600"">""Luckily I only got stuck with his daughter for five years. </font></p>\r\n<p class=""article""><font color=""#006600"">""Thank the Lord we didn't have kids. If they would have turned out like her or her family I would have slit my wrists. </font></p>\r\n<p class=""article""><font color=""#006600"">""Anyway, it's a really nice dress as you can see in the pictures. </font></p>\r\n<p class=""article""><font color=""#006600"">""Personally, I think it looks like a $1,200 shower curtain, but what do I know about this?"" </font></p>\r\n<p><br /><br /><font color=""#006600""><font color=""#000099"">Read more:</font> <a href=""http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/features/2904112/eBays-freakiest-ever-auctions.html?offset=2#ixzz0j5CRO7a4"" target=""_self"">http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/features/2904112/eBays-freakiest-ever-auctions.html?offset=2#ixzz0j5CRO7a4</a></font></p>",guide,<br/><br/>,57,<blank>,<blank>
Man recreates ex as sex doll,2010-09-27,537,"<p>This story from Italy really made us laugh.</p>\r\n<p>All we can say is that if it was revenge he was after, he should have sold them!</p>\r\n<p>----------------------------------------------------</p>\r\n<div class=""IceArticleImage news_headline""><img class=""news_headline"" alt=""A silicone sex doll /Rex"" src=""http://web.orange.co.uk/images/ice/quirkies/a_silicone_sex_doll_rex.jpg"" width=""400"" height=""225"" /></div>\r\n<p class=""first"">An Italian businessman missed his ex-girlfriend so much after she dumped him that he paid \xa312,000 to recreate her as a realistic sex doll.</p>\r\n<p>The 50-year-old man put together a collection of photos of his ex for Italian adult toymaker Diego Bortolin to work on, reports Il Messaggero.</p>\r\n<p>""I want it just like her but with bigger boobs,"" he reportedly requested.</p>\r\n<p>Mr Bortolin, who hasn't named the man, creates silicone sex dolls at the factory behind his shop in Treviso, Italy.</p>\r\n<p>""She was a smiling blonde girl but he wanted bigger boobs and a curvier backside,"" Mr Bortolin said. ""Our normal dolls are very realistic and everything works just like the real thing.</p>\r\n<p>This particular project was more expensive ""because we had to replicate everything, right down to the shape of her nails and teeth"", he added.</p>\r\n<p>""She is now the perfect girlfriend as far as I can see,"" Mr Bortolin said.</p>\r\n<p></p>",news,<br/><br/>,60,<blank>,<blank>
This Has GOT To Hurt!!!,2010-11-10,1088,"<p>We've just come across this news article ... and wonder if it's the ultimate female revenge fantasy???</p>\r\n<p align=""center"">- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - </p>\r\n<p>A married man who planned to rendezvous with one of his handful of lovers at an eastern Wisconsin motel instead found himself bound, blindfolded and assaulted by a group of women out for revenge, according to court documents.<br /><br />Four women, <u>including his wife</u>, eventually showed up to humiliate the man, who ended up with his penis glued to his stomach in a bizarre plot to punish him for a lover's quadrangle gone bad, according to the documents filed in Calumet County.<br /><br />Now it's the women who face punishment, perhaps six years in prison, and at least one said Monday the story has gotten twisted and she's embarrassed.<br /><br />""I am disturbed. I am upset. I am having a hard time handling life; an emotional wreck,"" Wendy Sewell, 43, of Kaukauna, said in a telephone interview from her home. ""I am ashamed.""<br /><br /><a onclick=""_gaq.push(['_trackEvent', 'Outgoing', 'www.timesonline.co.uk', '/multimedia/archive/00597/news_women_597706a.jpg']);"" href=""http://www.timesonline.co.uk/multimedia/archive/00597/news_women_597706a.jpg"" rel=""lightbox[posts]""><img class=""tcattdimgresizer"" border=""0"" alt="""" src=""http://www.timesonline.co.uk/multimedia/archive/00597/news_women_597706a.jpg"" onload=""NcodeImageResizer.createOn(this);"" originalheight=""185"" originalwidth=""385"" /></a><br /><font size=""1"">Therese Ziemann, Wendy Sewell and Michelle Belliveau, along with the victim's wife, face up to six years in jail</font><br /><br />Sewell, Therese Ziemann, 48, of Menasha, Michelle Belliveau, 43, of Neenah, and the man's wife are charged with being party to false imprisonment, a felony. Ziemann also is charged with fourth-degree sexual assault.<br /><br />The women are free on $200 cash bails. Investigators say all the women but Belliveau were romantically involved with the man. Online court records didn't list defense attorneys for any of the women Monday.<br /><br />The Associated Press is not naming the man's wife to protect his identity as an alleged victim of sexual assault.<br /><br />The women's plot for revenge unfolded last Thursday at the Lakeview Motel about 30 miles southwest of Green Bay in the tiny village of Stockbridge near the scenic shores of Lake Winnebago.<br /><br />Criminal complaints filed Friday allege the man agreed to be bound with ""sheer sheets"" and blindfolded with a pillowcase for a ""rub down"" by Ziemann. She instead cut off his underwear with a scissors and summoned the others to the room with a text message.<br /><br />Ziemann struck the man in the face, <b>and used Krazy Glue to attach his penis to his stomach</b> when the other women arrived, according to the complaints. The man told investigators he also was threatened with a gun. Ziemann told investigators she didn't have a gun but may have told the victim, ""Do you know how much I want to shoot you?""<br /><br />He started screaming and the women rushed off fearful that he could get loose and hurt them but allegedly took his wallet, vehicle and cell phone.<br /><br />Ziemann told investigators she met the man online through Craigslist, <b>fell in love and paid for his use of a room at the motel for the past two months. She said she gave him about $3,000.</b> Then last Wednesday, she learned from the man's wife that he was married, had other girlfriends and was ""using them for money."" She expected the money to be repaid, according to the documents.<br /><br />During Thursday's confrontation with the man, Ziemann told investigators Sewell asked him, ""Which one do you love more?"" and the man's wife made a derisive remark about him being scared.<br /><br /><b>The man got free from the bed by chewing through one of his bindings</b>, went outside and borrowed a telephone from the motel owner to call police.<br /><br />Ziemann and Belliveau are sisters and Belliveau didn't do anything wrong, Sewell said Monday. ""She was just there for moral support. She wasn't even dating the guy. She stood at the door the whole time and didn't participate or nothing.""<br /><br /><b>Ziemann's husband answered the telephone at their home and declined comment.</b> There was no telephone listing for Belliveau.<br /><br />The man had no telephone listing in Fond du Lac.<br /></p>\r\n<p align=""left"">- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - <br /></p>\r\n<p align=""left"">On a more serious note - is it worth spending 6 years in jail? Tempting as it sounds, we think there are better ways to get revenge and stay out of jail ... still, it really is ""up there"" in terms of ultimate fantasy revenge tactics</p>\r\n<p align=""left""></p>",news,<br/><br/>,61,<blank>,<blank>
Man sues over mynah bird's insults,2011-01-19,389,"<p>This is ingenious ... does anyone know any Minor bird breeders/trainers :-)</p>\r\n<p>----------------------------------------------------------------------------</p>\r\n<h1 class=""articleHeading"">Man sues over mynah bird's insults</h1>\r\n<div class=""articleinner"">\r\n<div class=""IceArticleImage news_headline""><img class=""news_headline"" alt=""Mynah bird /PA"" src=""http://web.orange.co.uk/images/ice/quirkies/mynah_bird_pa.jpg"" width=""400"" height=""225"" /></div>\r\n<p class=""first"">A Taiwanese man has failed in a bid to sue his neighbours - for training a mynah bird to insult him.</p>\r\n<p>Wang Han-chin, an electrician in central Taiwan, accused five neighbours of inflicting emotional stress and injuries.</p>\r\n<p>He says they trained the mynah bird to call him a ""clueless big-mouthed idiot"" every time it saw him, reports the Liberty Times.</p>\r\n<p>Wang claimed the bird's insults caused ""serious distress, making him lose concentration at work so he suffered burn injuries"".</p>\r\n<p>He says the neighbours taught the bird to curse at him as revenge after he complained to the police that they were too loud.</p>\r\n<p>However, they denied the allegations and prosecutors decided to drop the charges due to insufficient evidence linking the bird to Wang's injuries.</p>\r\n<p>----------------------------------------------------------------------------</p>\r\n<p></p></div>",news,<br/><br/>,62,<blank>,<blank>
Cellphone Spying,2011-02-02,1677,"<p ><strong>How Does The Cellphone Spy Software Work?</strong></p>\r\n<p >Cellphone spy software is  a term that we are increasingly hearing these days.  While it is true that it is a concept that initially was thought to be too far fetched, it has now become a reality and there are loads of companies offering the products.</p>\r\n<p >If you want to keep a close watch on someone's cellphone usage, then all that you need to do is to install the software in his or her cellphone and track their conversations...and this is far simpler than you would possibly expect.<br />\r\n  <br />\r\nOnce installed the software does not give out any beeps or alerts and therefore, remains hidden, while you get all the information!</p>\r\n<p >SMS alerts will help you know that there is a call being made or received on the cellphone that you are tracking.</p>\r\n<p ><a href=""http://444ac9phvbz6-4uaqfy5x1nceh.hop.clickbank.net/"" target=""_blank"">SpyBubble's cellphone spy software</a> not only helps you to eavesdrop on <em>live conversations</em>, you can also get to read the text messages, either received or sent from the particular cellphone that you are spying on. </p>\r\n<p >Another major advantage of the using such a software is all the records are consolidated and can be recorded on a system. You can then retrieve the records at any time of your convenience and go through them.</p>\r\n<p align=""center""><span class=""profileanswer""><a href=""http://857f4atft495o7tmsjrer9ycai.hop.clickbank.net/"" target=""_blank""><img src=""/v2/images/site/clip_image001.gif"" alt=""Our recommended cellphone spying software"" width=""485"" height=""60"" border=""0"" /></a></span></p><p >Just check out this video to see how easy it is,  what the experts say and what else you can do.</p>\r\n<div align=""center""> \r\n\r\n  <object width=""640"" height=""390"">\r\n    <param name=""movie"" value=""http://www.youtube.com/v/Aapeuin44hk&hl=en_US&feature=player_embedded&version=3""></param><param name=""allowFullScreen"" value=""true""></param><param name=""allowScriptAccess"" value=""always""></param>\r\n    <embed src=""http://www.youtube.com/v/Aapeuin44hk&hl=en_US&feature=player_embedded&version=3"" type=""application/x-shockwave-flash"" allowfullscreen=""true"" allowScriptAccess=""always"" width=""640"" height=""390""></embed>\r\n  </object>\r\n</div>\r\n<p >Now you've seen it in action, get the only cellphone spying software we recommend</p>\r\n<p align=""center""><span class=""profileanswer""><a href=""http://857f4atft495o7tmsjrer9ycai.hop.clickbank.net/"" target=""_blank""><img src=""/v2/images/site/clip_image001.gif"" alt=""Our recommended cellphone spying software"" width=""485"" height=""60"" border=""0"" /></a></span></p>\r\n<p >&nbsp;</p>",article,<br/><br/>,63,<blank>,<blank>
A press article in the Sydney Morning Herald today,2011-02-07,505,"<p>This article appeared in The Sydney Morning Herald today, and gives you an idea of just what you can do with a photo of your ex (or even one of our ""fake photos"")</p>\r\n\r\n<p>Enjoy the read:</p>\r\n\r\n<p>- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - </p>\r\n\r\n\r\n <img src=""http://images.smh.com.au/2011/02/07/2171517/revengeexmain-420x0.jpg"" alt=""The latest example of online revenge meted out by an ex-lover."" />\r\n                <p>The latest example of online revenge meted out by an ex-lover. </p>\r\n      \r\n          \r\n            <p>In dating land, revenge is now a dish best served online, with jilted lovers using Google, Facebook, YouTube and Twitter to dish the dirt on their exes.</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>And what would once have been a heat-of-the-moment spray can now live on forever, dredged up by a simple Google search.</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>As the online reputation management company SR7 says, ""what happens in Vegas stays on Facebook"".</p>\r\n\r\n         \r\n            <img src=""http://images.smh.com.au/2009/06/16/580361/triciawalshsmith_gallery__512x400,0-420x0.jpg"" alt=""Tricia Walsh-Smith arrives at the New York State Supreme Court."" />\r\n                <p>Tricia Walsh-Smith was ordered out of her house in 2008 after slagging off her husband on YouTube. <em>Photo: Reuters</em></p>\r\n\r\n            <p>In the latest example, an angry ex-girlfriend took her ex-boyfriend's professional photograph and overlaid it with derogatory text - then uploaded dozens of different versions to the web. They now come up every time someone Googles his name.</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>The feud was <strong><a href=""http://www.seroundtable.com/boyfriend-spammed-12909.html"" target=""_blank"">first spotted</a></strong> by the SEO Roundtable blog, which also uncovered that the ex-boyfriend's mother sought help from the Google Webmaster Help forum. The post has now been removed but not before hitting the blogosphere.</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>""My minor son's ex-girlfriend took a copyrighted picture of him (we own copyright) and uploaded it more than 60 times to a website,"" the mother wrote.</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>""On each image she wrote slanderous, defamatory and pornographic captions. The webmaster of the site states he removed the images 6 weeks ago, but Google Search still shows all the images.""</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>She said her son was ""stressed out and embarrassed"" by the debacle but could do nothing to get the images removed from Google. The mother said she wrote a letter to Google's legal department claiming copyright infringement but this did not work.</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>This is just one of countless examples of ex-lovers using the web to seek revenge. The initial act, often committed in a moment of intense anger, can live on for years, brought up by a simple Google search on the person's name.</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>The issue was brought home for Australians in December last year when a vengeful teenager <strong><a href=""http://www.smh.com.au/opinion/society-and-culture/teen-adds-tech-touch-to-wrath-of-a-woman-scorned-20101221-194j6.html?comments=210"" target=""_blank"">released naked photos</a></strong> of St Kilda footballers. She claimed to have been treated badly after falling pregnant to a St Kilda player.</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>In March last year, Lara Bingle <strong><a href=""http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/people/bingle-lawsuit-against-fevola-over-nude-photo-strikes-a-blow-for-womens-rights-says-agent-20100302-pdv5.html"" target=""_blank"">said she would sue</a></strong> Brendan Fevola for beach of privacy, defamation and misuse of her image after a nude photo of Bingle taken with his phone was published in Woman's Day and later spread online.</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>Former Canberra Raiders star Joel Monaghan will forever be known as the man who engaged in a sex act with a teammate's Labrador after a photo of the act was <strong><a href=""http://www.smh.com.au/technology/technology-news/a-dog-act-twitter-leaker-breaks-cover-20101105-17gex.html"" target=""_blank"">published online</a></strong>. But a jilted lover does not appear to have been involved in that debacle.</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>In 2008, an Australian woman took revenge on her cheating husband by <strong><a href=""http://news.smh.com.au/world/wife-auctions-evidence-of-husbands-affair-on-internet-20080814-3vhu.html"" target=""_blank"">auctioning his mistress's</a></strong> ""huge"" panties and his ""size small"" condom packet on eBay.</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>In Britain, a husband took revenge on his unfaithful ex-wife by selling 200 sexy photos of her on eBay, while separately another British man tried to auction his adulterous wife on eBay. His listing offered his ""cheating, lying, adulterous slag of a wife"".</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>Celebrities from Paris Hilton to Kim Kardashian have been embarrassed after sex tapes featuring them and their partners hit the web - although in the case of Hilton and Kardashian, this seems to have helped rather than hindered their careers. There are countless videos on pornography streaming sites claiming to show sex acts by ""ex-girlfriends"".</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>Thomas Tudehope, director of strategy and engagement at online reputation management firm SR7, said people should be cognisant that, through misdemeanour or indiscretion, they are only a click away from digital notoriety.</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>""In this circumstance [involving doctored images on Google] the boyfriend may be suffering from some short-term pain but there will be a more lasting damage for both parties - their privacy has been irrevocably disturbed. A cursory Google search for years to come will reveal this episode,"" he said.</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>""Whilst the images may have been removed from one site they remain on Google. This is the permanency of the internet - what happens in Vegas stays on Facebook.""</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>Tudehope conceded that it was difficult to control what happens in the wake of an unforseen circumstance like a break-up, but said it was important for people to know how much personal information they were sharing online through sites like Facebook.</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>In 2008, a British actress, Tricia Walsh-Smith, earned YouTube stardom after <strong><a href=""http://www.smh.com.au/news/technology/callous-youtube-wife-ordered-out-of-home/2008/07/22/1216492405124.html"" target=""_blank"">posting monologues</a></strong> about her failed high society marriage on YouTube. She was later found to have been cruel to her Broadway producer husband and ordered by a New York judge to vacate their apartment within a month.</p>\r\n\r\n            <p>An entire business, <strong><a href=""http://www.getrevengeonyourex.com/"" target=""_blank"">GetRevengeOnYourEx.com</a></strong>, has sprung up to take advantage of the legions of jilted lovers looking for revenge online. For a fee, the site will help people make angry phone calls to their ex, fake photos of their ex, shame their ex with an online photograph or even create a voodoo doll.</p>\r\n\r\n<p>- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -</p>\r\n\r\n",news,<br/><br/>,64,<blank>,<blank>
Seeking Revenge Stories For TV Show,2011-03-04,490,"<div sizset=""23"" sizcache=""457"" jquery1299247816349=""437"">SEEKING REVENGE STORIES OF PASSION <br /><br />Looking for true stories of passionate revenge for a documentary. We are looking for real people willing to go on camera (concealed or not) and talk about how they got revenge on a lover who scorned them. <br /><br />Did you secretly cancel his credit cards? Post rumors on his Facebook page? Pull a \xecLorena Bobbitt\xee? Think Tiger Woods' wife, Elin. Think ""War of the Roses."" Funny, dramatic, audacious or absurd, we want to hear from you. <br /><br />We'd like people who are willing to talk about: <br />- their relationship <br />- where it went wrong <br />- why they decided to exact revenge <br />- what they did exactly <br />- how they felt about doing it <br />- and of course, any repercussions later on. <br /><br />We are focusing on how revenge is a very human response to being hurt, a human reaction that has been around since the beginning of time. <br /><br />If interested, please email us with a brief description of your story to: <a href=""mailto:revengestories4doc@gmail.com"" target=""_blank"" sizset=""0"" sizcache=""133"" jquery1299247816349=""369""><font color=""#0000ff"">revengestories4doc@gmail.com</font></a></div>",article,<br/><br/>,65,<blank>,<blank>
Our Voodoo Experiment,2011-03-09,1127,"<p>In case you missed it, here's our Voodoo experiment newsletter</p>\r\n<p>- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - </p><blockquote style=""MARGIN-RIGHT: 0px"" dir=""ltr"">\r\n<div mce_keep=""true""><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">In last week's newsletter I eluded to the fact that we have undertaken an experiment with Voodoo spells.</font></span></div>\r\n<div mce_keep=""true"">\r\n<p><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">To be honest, when we started the experiment we were more than a little bit skeptical and the only reason that we looked into Voodoo spells is because of a few press reports last summer were indicating that spells and spell casting was an increasing trend.</font></span></p>\r\n<p><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">So here's what we did:</font></span></p>\r\n<p><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">We interviewed\xa013 (we thought it was an appropriate number) Voodoo practitioners to see what they could offer and asked them what they actually did. Many didn't reply, but of the few that did, one person stuck out in particular.</font></span></p>\r\n<p><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">As a result, we agreed to undertake an experiment with them.</font></span></p>\r\n<p><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">The experiment was very simple - we took, at random, 30 exes and split them into\xa03 equal groups:</font></span></p>\r\n<p style=""MARGIN-LEFT: 40px""><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">Group A acted as our control group and nothing was sent to them</font></span></p>\r\n<p style=""MARGIN-LEFT: 40px""><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">Group B were sent a Voodoo doll identical to the one that we send via our site</font></span></p>\r\n<p style=""MARGIN-LEFT: 40px""><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">Group C had a spell cast on them by a Voodoo practitioner </font></span></p>\r\n<p><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">The experiment started on 1st November last year and we waited 3 months before looking at the results.</font></span></p>\r\n<p><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">What we were looking for is whether or not anything ""bad"" happened to the exes within each group.</font></span></p>\r\n<p><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">So, here are the results:</font></span></p>\r\n<p style=""MARGIN-LEFT: 40px""><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">In Group A, 2 out of 10 had a ""bad"" event happen to them.\xa01 was made redundant and the other one, their new relationship failed (that'll teach 'em for cheating)</font></span></p>\r\n<p style=""MARGIN-LEFT: 40px""><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">In Group B, 4 out of 10 had a ""bad"" event. 2 had\xa0car accidents, 1 was signed off from work with stress/depression and 1 broke his arm</font></span></p>\r\n<p style=""MARGIN-LEFT: 40px""><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">In Group C, 7 out of 10 had bad results. 1 was a very major car accident requiring a 3 week stay in hospital, 3 others had an accident of some kind which required some degree of medical attention, 1 was fired from the job and is currently fighting house reposession and the remaining 2 have seen their new relationships fail</font></span></p>\r\n<p><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">Now, I am the first to admit, that this is not necessarily the most statistically valid experiment and with regard to the results in Group B, I personally think that the recipient of the Voodoo doll simply ""believed"" something bad was going to happen to them.</font></span></p>\r\n<p><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">However, with Group C, I am shocked and, if I'm honest, a little bit freaked out.</font></span></p>\r\n<p><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">The Voodoo practitioner we used has told us that when he casts a spell for someone, he also casts a protection spell to stop, what he calls, ""dark forces"" acting against us.</font></span></p>\r\n<p><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">Interestingly, one of the members we undertook the spell for (i.e. not the ex), has seen a huge improvement in her life financially as her business has seen a surge in customers.</font></span></p>\r\n<p><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">Whether this would have happened anyway, I honestly don't know but right now, I am certainly very open minded!</font></span></p>\r\n<p><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">When you read this, you may well be thinking: ""what a load of cr*p"". If that's the case, then fine, it's really not a problem and like anything in this world, everyone is genuinely entitled to their own opinions.</font></span></p>\r\n<p><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">However, if you have read this and feel that there is something here for you, then we've got good news for you.</font></span></p>\r\n<p><font size=""2""><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana"">The Voodoo practitioner we used is offering a discount for GROYE members, which you can access by clicking here:</span> <span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><a href=""http://www.getrevengeonyourex.com/special"" _fcksavedurl=""http://www.getrevengeonyourex.com/special"">http://www.getrevengeonyourex.com/special</a></span></font></p>\r\n<p style=""TEXT-ALIGN: left""><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">Like a religion, Voodoo isn't for everyone, but as I said at the beginning of this email, our curiosity was peaked following several press articles regarding the increasing popularity of spell casting.</font></span></p>\r\n<p style=""TEXT-ALIGN: left""><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">As a result, we undertook an experiment and we believe the results speak for themselves - whether it's Voodoo, Karma or just plain coincidence is up to each of us to decide.</font></span></p>\r\n<p style=""TEXT-ALIGN: left""><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">From our perspective, we're fairly convinced and if we're honest, it's been nice to actually be able to undertake an experiment like this...</font></span></p>\r\n<p style=""TEXT-ALIGN: left""><span style=""FONT-FAMILY: Verdana""><font size=""2"">...what you now do with this information, is entirely up to you.</font></span></p></div></blockquote>\r\n<p>- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - </p>\r\n<p></p>",article,<br/><br/>,66,<blank>,<blank>
Rather Lame Attempt At Getting Revenge,2011-10-19,782,"<p>We are constantly on the look out for ways people try and get revenge.</p>\r\n<p>In the most part, we are impressed at people's ingenuity and creativity, but every so often we come across something which is, to quote my teenage daughter, ""lame"".</p>\r\n<p>The article quoted below was recently posted in an online forum in an attempt to create nuisance and abusive calls to someone's ex.</p>\r\n<p>As you can see for yourself, the public have given this a huge thumbs down - and we can see why.</p>\r\n<p>If you want to inundate your ex with nuisance calls then why not do it properly and at least get the satisfaction of listening to their reaction!</p>\r\n<p>This is why we created our <a href=""http://www.getrevengeonyourex.com/v2/main/how-to-get-revenge/nuisancecalls.php"" target=""_self"">nuisance call service</a> - it's far more effective for making someone's life hell!</p>\r\n<p>The other thing this person was trying to do was to tell the world that their ex has an STD. Again, we've got far better methods and we're sure you've got some great ideas yourself!</p>\r\n<p>Anyway, here's the link on how not to get revenge: <a href=""http://dating.failblog.org/2011/10/17/dating-fails-revenge-is-a-dish-best-served-venereal/"">http://dating.failblog.org/2011/10/17/dating-fails-revenge-is-a-dish-best-served-venereal/</a></p>",article,<br/><br/>,70,<blank>,<blank>
This has got to hurt!,2011-10-25,1284,"We've just come across this article on the BBC's website today...\r\n\r\n- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -\r\n\r\n<strong>Testicle bite woman Maria Topp faces jail for Newcastle boyfriend attack</strong>\r\n\r\n\r\nA mother of four who admitted biting her boyfriend's testicles during a drunken row has been warned she is facing jail.\r\n\r\nMaria Topp, 44, a from Gateshead, told Newcastle Crown Court she could not remember attacking Martin Douglas at his Newcastle flat on 18 February.\r\n\r\nMr Douglas, a 45-year-old DJ, needed 19 stitches to a wound to his scrotum.\r\n\r\nTopp, of Aycliffe Place, Wrekenton, admitted causing grievous bodily harm and will be sentenced on 11 November.\r\n\r\nRecorder Robin Mairs warned Topp: ""All options are open and that will include locking you up.""\r\n\r\nThe hearing was told how Topp bit Mr Douglas's testicles at his flat in Waterloo Street during the early hours of 18 February.\r\n\r\nCaroline Goodwin, defending, told a previous hearing: ""The defendant was on her back with the victim straddling her.""\r\n\r\n'Heavily in drink'\r\nMr Douglas was so traumatised by his injuries that emergency services staff struggled to understand him when he dialled 999.\r\n\r\nRecorder Mairs told the court: ""The two had been in a relationship for five years by the time of this offence. There had been difficulties and turbulence in the past.\r\n\r\n""They had split up numerous times, getting back together numerous times. On the day in question, there is no doubt they were very heavily in drink.\r\n\r\n""There is an argument, a brawl begins during which Mrs Topp admits she unlawfully bit the complainant's scrotum.""\r\n\r\nTopp had denied causing grievous bodily harm (GBH) with intent on the basis there was violence used on both sides, but admitted the lesser charge of causing GBH.\r\n\r\nGavin Doig, prosecuting, said: ""The injured party suffered a number of injuries, but particularly a very serious wound to the scrotum.\r\n\r\n""The Crown's contention has always been that that was caused by a bite - the defence's contention was that it was caused by her hands.\r\n\r\n""The plea is on the basis she did indeed cause that injury with her teeth.""\r\n\r\n- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -\r\n\r\nSource: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-tyne-15450713",news,<br/><br/>,71,<blank>,<blank>
Missed Christmas Delivery,2011-12-02,601,"<p>Christmas is a great time to get revenge on people, whether you are sending nasty Christmas cards, setting them up with nuisance calls for the \xecbig day\xee or sending them a voodoo doll etc\r\n</p>\r\n<p>Well, as we were creating the Christmas specials revenge page we ordered a lot of genuine Christmas presents for our friends and family online (we do work most of the time!!!)</p>\r\n<p>The thing is, each of these presents needs to be delivered and while we specified the office address as the delivery address, some of the delivery companies simply left a \xecyou\xedve missed a delivery\xee calling card rather than actually coming into the office to deliver the parcel.\r\n</p>\r\n<p>Now to our minds, it would be far easier if the courier actually delivered the parcel in the first place and it would have made our lives easier \xd6which got us thinking \xd6 \r\n</p>\r\n<p>...how much fun it would be to produce some false, but official looking \xecSorry we missed you\xee calling cards along with a cellphone number for them to call (we got a free SIM card from one of the local supermarkets)\r\n</p>\r\n<p>So we did!!! And then we dropped them off at a number of our neighbours as a test to see how many people would ring asking for their parcel.\r\n</p>\r\n<p>And it\xeds working a treat !!!\r\n</p>\r\n<p>As each person phones for redelivery they are leaving a voicemail message as we\xedre not answering the phone. As time goes on, the messages are getting more and more frantic/stressed with people DEMANDING that we phone them back as they are expecting an urgent delivery.\r\n</p>\r\n<p>So, if this sounds like something you fancy doing to your ex or work colleague then here\xeds what you need to do:\r\n</p>\r\n<p>1 \xf1 use your favourite word processor to create a small calling card/letter (about half the size of a normal piece of paper)\r\n</p>\r\n<p>2 \xf1 once you\xedve printed the calling card, then hand write the person\xeds name and a time on the card, just as it would be if it were genuine\r\n</p>\r\n<p>3 \xf1 wait until your ex is out and then put the calling card in their post box\r\n</p>\r\n<p>4 \xf1 repeat several times in the run up to Christmas and watch their stress levels rise\r\n</p>\r\n",article,<br/><br/>,76,<blank>,<blank>
Getting Revenge Using Classified Ads,2012-01-05,1126,"<p><br />Classified advertisements in your free local newspapers are not very expensive and sometimes free they are a very good way to tarnish your ex\xeds squeaky clean image. For example, suppose you had a score to settle with the neighbours\xed from hell. You could make up a Classified Ad to \xecsell\xee their car. Make the price attractive five to 600 hundred dollars/pounds less than market value for that make of car, instruct the prospective buyers to call after midnight (because you work shift work and this is the only time you are about), and explain in the ad that you are emigrating or moving house so quick cash is needed hence the price being bellow market value. This should attract enough interest to bring the calls coming thick and fast.</p>\r\n<p>You could also put your ex\xeds house up for sale in Classified Ads. The same as before, ask the potential buyers to either call or visit at hours that will be very inconvenient to your ex.</p>\r\n<p>The \xecpersonal columns\xee in your local free paper can also be a great source of fun. Maybe you could place an ad on behalf of your ex to advertise for \xecyoung boy and girl models to pose for \xebart\xed pictures.\xee You should use his/her home number or place of work number here for all the inquiry calls, whichever you think would cause more embarrassing for your ex. Personally I would use their bosses number so the calls go to them, then your ex will have some explaining to do to his/her employer.</p>\r\n<p>Placing ads in your local free paper is easy. Most free local papers will let you do it over the phone or online, and from my experiences the ads are very rarely verified. Don\xedt try to go overboard with the ad make it as realistic as possible. As with any prank, there has to be a credible amount of reality for this to work.</p>\r\n<p>Although this does not fall into the bracket of classified advertisement, the little index-card notices that people put on ad boards in bars, supermarkets and other public places are also great ways to prank your ex. Just about anything you can find in your local free paper you will find on these personal notice boards. But there are also advantages doing this as they are often free, they don\xedt cost anything the only cost is just your time and effort into preparing the card ad and posting it, also with this free prank you can be a bit more descriptive, and personal than you can with newspaper advertisements. People seem to stop and read these boards as they are normally placed in areas where you can\xedt miss them, I know from personal experiences that this is really a good and annoying prank and cost nothing just a moment of your time.</p>\r\n<p></p>",article,<br/><br/>,77,<blank>,<blank>
How To Get Revenge With SMS Spam,2012-05-30,1216,"<p>The other month I started to receive text messages from an injury claim company stating that I have \xa32,417 compensation due to me from a recent accident.</p>\r\n<p>The thing is...I've not had an accident unless you count spilling a glass of JD & coke the other week, which, let's face it is not an accident - it's more like a cardinal sin!</p>\r\n<p>Anyway, back to the SMS message. It basically said that all I had to do to claim my money was to reply to their message.</p>\r\n<p>The thing is, I'm not that stupid (honest!) but my twisted mind did have an idea...what if I replied to the message using the fake sms service and use someone else's number? </p>\r\n<p>Never one to let the opportunity of a revenge experiment pass, that's exactly what I did. Using the fake sms system that we offer, the only difficulty I had was in choosing which ex to pick on! </p>\r\n<p>As it happens, I'm on speaking terms with one of my ex's and so I used her number. OK, I know it's cruel but I did have to see what happened otherwise I wouldn't be able to let you know about this really funny tactic.</p>\r\n<p>So what happened I hear you ask?</p>\r\n<p>Well the results were nothing short of spectacular if I'm honest :-)</p>\r\n<p>It transpires that within 15 minutes of me replying to the text, my ex received a rather bullying sales call pretty much demanding that she sign up with them. When she said that she didn't have an accident, they then tried to sell her other compensation claim options such as missold insurance, medical negligence etc.</p>\r\n<p>Eventually my ex hung up, thinking that was the end of the matter...except that it wasn't! In fact, the nightmare had only just begun!!!</p>\r\n<p>During the 2 weeks following my test, she had received no fewer than 20 phone calls from various ""we'll get your money back"" type call centres and more than 50 text messages!!!</p>\r\n<p>Obviously I haven't admitted to being behind this little scientific experiment and because I'm such a nice guy, she doesn't even suspect me!!!</p>\r\n<p>So, how can you use this little tactic?</p>\r\n<p>I'm not sure about other parts of the globe, but here are 3 numbers in the UK that will work:</p>\r\n<p>For \xa32560 compensation for missold insurance, simply text the word INFO to 07511 328 083 (UK only)<br />\r\n</p>\r\n<p>If your ex wants \xa32009.34 in injury compensation, just text the word CLAIM to 07955 681 207 (UK only)<br />\r\n</p>\r\n<p>and finally, \xa32698.09 is still outstanding in my name for the accident I had. All I have to do is text the word CLAIM to 07840 108 385 (UK only)</p>\r\n<p>By using our fake SMS service, just put your victims number as the caller ID and then choose which reward they deserve!</p>\r\n<p>I'm not sure, but I'm pretty confident that it's not just the UK who get sent messages like this, so next time you get one, why not reply on your ex's behalf????</p>\r\n<p>And if you are worried about this, then you can console yourself with the fact that you a ""genuinely"" helping your ex to get some money that they deserve ;-) !!!!!!</p>",guide,<br/><br/>,78,<blank>,<blank>
Why It Pays To Get Revenge,2012-08-23,853,"One of the questions we get asked most often is \\""Why should I spend money to get revenge on my ex? They aren\\'t worth it!\\""\r\n\r\nAnd yet, when we talk to those who have got revenge, they tell us that they\\'d gladly spend thousands and that we\\'re too cheap and getting revenge is worth every single penny.\r\n\r\nThis issue has been with us ever since we started our revenge websites back in 2004 and until recently we didn\\'t know how we could scientifically answer it.\r\n\r\nWe know that by getting revenge, people regain control in their lives and are able to move on quicker. But how can that be quantified?\r\n\r\nThe answer came from a 2010 study by BUPA in the UK (they are the UK\\'s largest private health organisation) who, after surveying 10,000 people established that the cost of a bad night\\'s sleep cost \xa393 (US$ 143).\r\n\r\nWe all know that when your ex behaves like a complete asshole, you end up losing sleep - but just how much?\r\n\r\nTo answer this, we got 1,800 of your fellow members to participate in a study. I won\\'t get all techie about the questions we asked, measurements we took etc etc as to be honest a lot of the information we are still processing, but please rest assured that our resident number nerd (Dan) spent over 15 years analysing statistical data for large financial instituions around the globe so he knows how to work out an average, establish control groups and statistical significance etc etc ... yhep, we fall asleep when he starts to speak !!! :-) :-)\r\n\r\nIn essence though, the 1,800 people were split into those who did get revenge (either by products/services offered by our site or doing their own thing) and those who did nothing except sign up to be a member of our site and fantasise about getting revenge.\r\n\r\nIn the non-revenge group, it transpired during the first month following the split, an average of 12 nights sleep was broken (a total of 56 hours). Using the BUPA study, this means that a staggering $1,947 (\xa31,116) was \\""lost\\"" due to their ex.\r\n\r\nOn top of this, the people in this group spent an average of $231 (\xa3150) on \\""sleep aids\\"", such as alcohol, comfort food, medication (herbal and chemical) etc.\r\n\r\nIn simple terms, this means that their ex has cost them over $2,178 (\xa31,266) in just the first month!!!\r\n\r\nSeriously! Over $2,000 in a month! \r\n\r\nThis ignores the cost of joint debts, divorce, legal fees etc etc\r\n\r\nSo what about the group who did get revenge?\r\n\r\nWell, this group spent an average of $72 (\xa346) getting revenge on their ex through either our products/services or by doing their own thing.\r\n\r\nAnd the result?\r\n\r\nOn average, this group lost an average of just 13 hours of sleep!!! That\\'s less than a quarter compared to those who did not get revenge!\r\n\r\nFor those of you who are not number nerds like Dan (i.e. the majority of us!), this means that getting revenge saved them a whopping $1,317 (\xa3 857)!!!\r\n\r\nThis is absolutely amazing!\r\n\r\nGetting revenge means you get control, which means you can sleep, which means you are far more productive and healthy.\r\n\r\nWhat is more, we have evidence that shows that by getting revenge on your ex, you are able to cause them sleepless nights (especially if you use our nuisance calls or time released SMS services) and so you cost them money as well!\r\n\r\nIf that\\'s not a win-win then we don\\'t know what is!\r\n\r\nWe are ecstacic about these results - they have confirmed exactly what we always believed, but never knew how to prove.\r\n\r\nOur utmost thanks go to the 1,800 members who participated and of course, we have to thank our number nerd Dan for making sense of it all.\r\n\r\nSo, if you\\'ve ever questioned whether it is worth spending money to get revenge on your worthless ex, then we can categorically say to you \\""YES!!! Getting revenge is worth every single penny\\"".\r\n\r\nWhich gives us one last question to ask - What is stopping you from getting revenge right now?\r\n",article,<br/><br/>,79,<blank>,<blank>
Sometimes Simple Is Best,2012-11-29,1267,"Let\xeds be honest, we have all done it. Although I\xedm a big fan of the complicated and clever revenge prank sometimes simplicity is the key and on the odd occasion, that simple venting can have an added bonus, like this little story I heard from Australia recently.\n\nYoung love. It is the very definition of a rollercoaster. One minute you are completely in love and going to be together forever and the next you can\xedt stand each other. One Aussie girl found herself in exactly that position at university when she found out that her boyfriend she had had since school had been cheating on her with another girl. All three of them were friends from the same course at university and the poor girl was beside herself. Not only had she lost her first love she had also lost one of her best friends and all this in those testing first terms where you are trying to learn how to get along as an adult without your Mum and Dad.\n\nUnderstandably she was angry. These were people she had trusted with her deepest secrets and who she had relied upon to be her support through the teen/adult transition so it probably isn\xedt a surprise that she wanted some revenge.\n\nNow as we have discussed before revenge comes in many different forms. For some people the sophisticated tactics drawn out over a long time work the best, but for others it just a case of needing to let it all out. She went for the simplistic approach.\n\nPretty much every night at about the same time she would call up her former friend who was now a confirmed item with her ex and shout down the phone at the her. She doesn\xedt even remember what it was she was shouting but she knew it felt good. In fact cancel that...it felt GREAT! If she hung up she would just call back and vent to her voicemail, letting go of all her rage down the phone and finally starting to feel a little bit better.\n\nNow more often than not the story would end there, but on this occasion there is another layer. You see she was ringing so frequently that the new girlfriend started to just completely turn her phone off in the evenings. Rather than be reminded of what she had done and face up to it she took the cowardly route of switching off and pretending nothing had happened. Now in some ways this is fine and a sensible way to avoid confrontation, but it didn\xedt end so well for her.\n\nYou see this was exam time at the university and when your phone is also your alarm clock things can get a little messy. With her phone switched off to avoid the abuse she slept through her major exam of the semester and lost 75% on that module. A great bonus for the wronged ex girlfriend who says after that she never felt the need to ring again!\n\nSo there you have it, a great moral tale for all sorts of reasons but for the most part don\xedt mess around with your friend\xeds significant other...it can go wrong in far more ways than you imagined!\n",article,<br/><br/>,80,<blank>,<blank>
Great Creativity...Epic Revenge,2013-03-04,1228,"Now we want to make it clear that here at Revenge Towers we are very proud to support the boys in blue that protect people all over the world because frankly there are enough people trying to stick the boot into them most of the time and we think they do a heck of a job. However, as with a lot of areas, when politics gets involved we aren\\'t such a fan, and the politics of policing is no different, which is why we are such a fan of unassuming Brian McCrary of Bluff City in Tennessee.\r\n\r\nNow the drama starts to unfold in 2010 when Brian received a belated ticket from months beforehand. The Bluff City area already had a fairly unsavory reputation for using surveillance cameras and speed traps to try and collect revenue and given how late this was Brian was pretty intent on having a word or two with someone high up. As a result, he went on the local PD website to try and find a non-emergency phone number with a view to giving them an earful. \r\n\r\nHowever, while he didn\\'t find the number he was after he did find something of interest because there was a little message saying that the police department website was about to be up for grabs because the domain was literally just about to expire.\r\n\r\nYou might be wondering how on earth this was interesting to someone who wanted to have a rant about a desperately late speeding ticket but that is probably because we hadn\xedt mentioned yet what Brian does for a living...\r\n\r\nBrian is a Computer Network Designer.\r\n\r\nThe upshot of this is that we have the ideal conditions for something of a perfect storm. In fact, so far as ideal timing goes it is hard to imagine something better. Within a few days of this discovery the Bluff County Police Department website mysteriously went quite off message. Rather than handing out information about policy and policing news it suddenly had a very different agenda. Plastered across the page was information about where you can find the speeding cameras in the area, where the police most frequently set up their speed traps and why these cameras are such a plague. \r\n\r\nNow, a lot of people found this quite funny and supported Brian, but it only really became news when he posted some articles which told the truth about the huge sums of money that these cameras were generating. Even more interestingly, it transpired that 50% of that revenue was going to the company who sold the cameras, rather than the usual practice of using it to help prevent accidents and increase speed awareness. \r\n\r\nThe best thing about this story is that the police were oblivious until the reporters came knocking on the door. They had received a grand total of 7 emails telling them that they needed to renew their domain name rights but nobody ever got round to sorting it out. This of course meant that everything that Brian had done was completely legal and as his website became national news he found that tens of thousands of people would log onto his site every day to find out about the speed cameras in their area.\r\n\r\nHis website is still up and running and if you want to check it out click on this <a href=\\""http://www.bluffcitypd.com\\"" target=\\""_blank\\"">link</a>, but whatever you do, celebrate the great revenge work done here. \r\n",article,<br/><br/>,81,<blank>,<blank>
"What Amazon, Starbucks and others have to do with  revenge",2013-05-23,1055,"So, here\\'s a question for you...\n\nWhat do Google, Starbucks, Amazon and other large multinationals all have in common?\n\nThe answer is tax avoidance.\n\n<div align=""centre"">\n<iframe width=""560"" height=""315"" src=""http://www.youtube.com/embed/6e8JLgLwGJw"" frameborder=""0"" allowfullscreen></iframe>\n</div>\n\nOK, I\\'m not going to go into what\\'s right or wrong with these companies not paying their fair share of tax, but what I will say is that there is such a public revulsion to companies who make millions but pay as little in tax as possible.\n\nAnd it\\'s not just companies - for those of you in the UK, you\\'ll know the scandal around comedian Jimmy Carr who used a perfectly legal loophole to avoid paying tax. However, Jimmy wasn\\'t the only UK celebrity to do this ... in fact Gary Barlow from Take That actually paid even less than Jimmy, but as Gary is a bit of a darling as far as the press are concerned then it\\'s Jimmy who took the flack for everyone.\n\nBut I digress.\n\nTax avoidance is wrong and people\\'s reaction to it is one of disgust (even those who avoid tax are disgusted by others who do ... go figure!).\n\nSo what has this got to do with revenge?\n\nQuite simply, why not harness the current public hatred for tax avoiders by letting your ex\\'s neighbours \\""know\\"" that your ex hasn\\'t paid his taxes for the past 3 years.\n\nExposing them as a tax cheat (or indeed a social security benefit cheat) to those is their neighbourhood or social circle, will ensure that they are ostracised ... and if you\\'re really lucky, people will take matters into their own hands.\n\nThis will work beautifully if your ex has recently moved house, purchased a car, gone on holiday ... but even if they haven\\'t it\\'ll still work.\n\nNo-one likes a tax cheat and I feel that it is our public duty to ensure those that avoid paying their fare share should be outed :-)\n\nSo, how do you go about doing this?\n\nWell, you\\'ve got 2 options.\n\nFirstly, most tax authorities have an anonymous tip hotline ... always worth a call :-) \n\nSecondly, all you need to do is print some letters/leaflets/postcards saying something along the lines of:\n\n<i>\n\\""You know John Doe, who lives at number 124? Well we think you should know that in the past 3 years, he\\'s not paid any income tax - in fact, he\\'s such a tax cheat that he even shows other people how to do it!\n\nHow else do you think he can afford that new car, those home renovations, all those vacations?\n\nSimple - hard working, honest people like you and me are paying more than we should do in tax to cover the tax that he avoids paying!\n\nDon\\'t worry - we\\'ve already contacted the relevant tax authorities, but we thought it only right to warn you that you are living a few doors away from the biggest tax cheat in the neighbourhood\\"" </i>\n\nOnce you\\'ve printed these letters, then simply send them to the neighbours.\n\nI know you won\\'t know the neighbours names, but if your ex lives at number 124, then all you have to do is address letters to \\""The Occupier\\"" at number 100 to number 150\n\nIf the letters have stamps on them (as opposed to franked mail), then they\\'ll always be opened and read.\n\nAnd once you\\'ve sent them, then all you have to do is wait for mob rule to take over!\n\nYou see, the beauty in all of this, is that as humans, we are always prepared to believe the worst in each other and by capitalising upon the current public reaction to tax evasion, your \\""public notice\\"" will resonate so much more and not be simply dismissed out of hand!",article,<br/><br/>,84,<blank>,<blank>
13 Subtle Signs Of Cheating You Probably Never Thought Of,2019-04-09,38,"Cheaters can't hide these tells ... if you know what to look for.\r\n\r\nDiscovering a partner's infidelity is easier than ever before in history. Via text messages, emails and online credit card statements, a careless cheating spouse is likely to leave an electronic trail detailing their affair that's over a gigabyte long.\r\n\r\nIf you can get your hands on such physical signs and evidence that your husband or wife is cheating, that type of digital proof is the best way to bust a cheater for sure.\r\n\r\nUnfortunately, it's not always so simple.\r\n\r\nWhile most people know the typical telltale signs of cheating — weight loss, new music or food interests, and large, uncharacteristic purchases of things like a new wardrobe — if you want to know how to tell if your wife (or husband, boyfriend or girlfriend, of course) is cheating, there are more subtle signs you should be aware of and look for.\r\n\r\nIf your infidelity radar is on high-alert and your partner's behavior feels off, here are 13 not-so-obvious signs he or she is cheating that many men and women overlook.\r\n\r\n<h3>1. Time stamping</h3>\r\nOptimizing precious moments with a lover is a balancing act, so he's counting minutes.\r\n\r\n""It won't raise any red flags if I'm home by 6:00 pm on the dot,"" he rationalizes. Or, ""If I call her every day at noon, she won't get suspicious.""\r\n\r\nHe's drawing timelines in the sand, and being uncharacteristically prompt or oddly ritualized with his schedule may be one way he does that.\r\n\r\n<h3>2. New lingo</h3>\r\nA friend of mine's suspicions grew when he heard his wife irritably yell, ""Good Christ!"" — an expression neither one of them had ever used, and one she typically would have found offensive.\r\n\r\nIf your husband or wife is spending enough time with their lover, they're sure to pick up some of their verbal expressions.\r\n\r\n<h3>3. Changing things up</h3>\r\nEvery evening — like clockwork — he comes home, asks about dinner and walks the dog. But suddenly, that ritual is being messed with.\r\n\r\nHe needs a shower as soon as he walks in the door. Or he pours himself two fingers of scotch when that's usually reserved for weekends only.\r\n\r\nSomething is quite possibly going on.\r\n\r\n<h3>4. Driving alone</h3>\r\nTypically, you'd hop in the car together and be on your way. But recently, she finds a myriad of reasons to have a few minutes alone — and a need to take her own car to an event you'll both be attending.\r\n\r\n""I have to stop at Sephora, and I don't want to bore you!"" she says, time and again.\r\n\r\nMhmm.\r\n\r\n<h3>5. Wearing a lampshade</h3>\r\n""Let's go out and get wasted tonight,"" he atypically and enthusiastically suggests, and you know he hasn't said anything like that since he was pledging a fraternity.\r\n\r\nHaving an affair, it's no secret, can make people feel young and impulsive again, and that can spill over into other behaviors.\r\n\r\n<h3>6. Wanting you to strut your stuff</h3>\r\nWhat's this? A little something from Vicky's Secret just for you? Funny, he's always claimed that lingerie doesn't do much for him.\r\n\r\nHis affair has reawakened his libido and, ironically, he'd like it to do the same for you.\r\n\r\n<h3>7. You're clearly up to no good.</h3>\r\nYou smile at the waiter and he goes off. He knows you're a friendly sort — he always loved that about you — but recently, that innocent cordiality seems to antagonize him in ways it never did.\r\n\r\nNow that he's having an affair, he knows it's not so far-fetched that you might, too.\r\n\r\n<h3>8. No harm in looking, right?</h3>\r\n""Did you see our cute neighbor checking out your butt?"" she asks with a big smile.\r\n\r\n""That flight attendant is really your type!"" she teases, leaving you wondering what happened to her jealous streak.\r\n\r\n\r\nNo mystery. She's on an affair-fueled, guilt-mitigating mission to casually justify her own extramarital attraction.\r\n\r\n<h3>9. Affairs? No biggie</h3>\r\nYou sadly report the news that your best friend's husband is cheating. Instead of sharing your dismay, he becomes defensive.\r\n\r\n""Well, he hasn't been happy in that marriage,"" or ""People have affairs. That's life.""\r\n\r\nCondemning others would mean condemning himself, and he's not about to go there.\r\n\r\n\r\n<h3>10. Won't watch it</h3>\r\nWant to cuddle up and watch movies like Fatal Attraction, Derailed, or The Affair? Forget it.\r\n\r\nPlot lines that would have formerly piqued her interest now make her visibly uncomfortable.\r\n\r\nIf there's an affair involved, you won't be watching it together.\r\n\r\n<h3>11. All nerves</h3>\r\nMany folks experience atypical bouts of depression and anxiety as the guilt of the affair and the stress of keeping such a huge secret take a visible toll.\r\n\r\nSymptoms may include insomnia, disinterest in eating or an unshakeable blue mood.\r\n\r\n<h3>12. Suddenly an expert</h3>\r\n""Did you know the U.S. has the highest dog population in the world?""\r\n\r\nShe starts spewing facts about things she's never shown interest in before. Heck, she never even liked dogs that much.\r\n\r\n\r\nCould be she's absorbing her lover's interests and finding a way to talk about them without saying as much.\r\n\r\n<h3>13. Signature blank stare</h3>\r\nThe guy who always had an answer now seems lost for words. His brain is fried with the details of the lies he's told and excuses he's made.\r\n\r\nWhen you innocently inquire about his last trip to Home Depot, you can almost see the wheels turning in his head.\r\n\r\n""Did I tell her I went to Home Depot? What did I tell her I was shopping for? Is she trying to trap me in a lie?""\r\n\r\nWhile he entertains these possibilities, you're on the receiving end of that strange, faraway look in his eyes you've been seeing all too often.",article,NULL,139,<blank>,<blank>
Cheating Is More Common Than You Think - Here's How To Stop Once & For All,2019-04-02,26,"By Tammy Nelson, Ph.D.\r\n\r\nIt's easy to assume that everyone who cheats is just a bad person. But the truth is, cheating is much more common than many of us think: One 2015 study found one in five people admit to having cheated on a past partner. And it's important to remember that infidelity is based on dishonesty, so those who are surveyed may also lie to any researchers who try to investigate this question—so if one in five people are admitting to cheating behavior, it stands to reason that many more might have done it but refuse to tell.\r\n\r\nIn other words, cheating is very common. To chalk up the entire phenomenon of cheating to just a few rare bad eggs who can't be helped does everyone a disservice—as a society, we don't entertain any conversation about why cheating happens, which makes it all the harder for people who cheat to make sense of their actions, make proper amends, and seek to be better in the future.\r\n\r\nCheaters don't wake up in the morning and think about how they want to hurt their partner that day. (If they do, we are talking about someone who is psychopathic, not ""infidelic."" Yes, I just made up that word.) A 2019 survey by Ashley Madison (who I work with as a resident relationship expert) found 96 percent of its affair-seeking members don't think of themselves as having low morals. That suggests many people who cheat aren't ""bad"" people but simply people who've made decisions that have hurt others. Some of these folks do want to change, but the problem is they feel they can't end their affairs without help.\r\n\r\nHere's what to do. Like any harmful behavior, the key to quitting infidelity rests in mindfulness and exercising your emotional skills. Whatever got you here, if you're currently in an affair, here are seven tips for how to stop cheating for good:\r\n\r\n<h3>1. Figure out what you want.</h3>\r\n\r\nTake a good hard look at your situation. Are you cheating to stay in your relationship or because you want out?\r\n\r\nTo leave.\r\nSome affairs are what I call ""can openers""—a way to end your partnership even when you didn't know you wanted out. It's an unconscious way to wake yourself up to the fact that it really is over. Sometimes partners who feel they don't have a voice in a relationship will have an affair and realize they have been unhappy in their relationship all along, and this affair becomes the catalyst for a breakup, a way to find their voice, to finally express a need or desire, or to say to their spouse, ""I'm done.""\r\n\r\nIf you've been using this affair as a key to what you consider a closed-door relationship, be honest with yourself and with your partner. Tell them you want out and then have the new relationship you're seeking. Don't swing from branch to branch while you're still in the tree.\r\n\r\nSome people also use cheating as a passive-aggressive way to get their partner to break up with them so they don't have to do the dirty work. First of all, understand that you're likely hurting your partner more with your affair than you would be with a breakup, and you also come off looking worse. There's no need to hurt someone on your way out the door. Additionally, if you're trying to use your cheating as a way to make your partner end things, understand that it's not only being dishonest with your partner—it's being dishonest with yourself. In the long run, you'll need to learn how to take responsibility for your actions, for your emotions, and for your needs if you're ever going to be able to have a happy and successful relationship. Start practicing it now.\r\n\r\nTo stay.\r\nOn the other hand, sometimes an affair, once exposed, can open up and change the whole future of your current relationship. Some couples say that after some therapy and erotic recovery, the affair may have been ""the best thing that ever happened to them."" This may be because the crisis of an affair forces you both to talk more honestly about what you both want in the vision of your lives going forward.\r\n\r\nRecognize this: Cheaters are not necessarily looking for someone else; they are looking to become someone else. Usually cheaters like who they are when they are with their cheating partner. They are really searching for a missing part of themselves, a part of their identity, a part of themselves they feel they can't be at home.\r\n\r\nMost affairs are not really about the partner or the relationship, even when you might blame them. Cheaters are not searching for something that is missing in their relationship; they are searching for something that is missing in themselves. They may project that need onto their partner, but that is what we do, as people. We blame our unhappiness on the other. If they would just act the way we want, love us the way we want, then we'd be happy. But nobody's life revolves around you, and you can't expect even your partner to bend to make you feel alive.\r\n\r\nYou need to figure out why you can't live as a whole person in every area of your life.\r\n\r\n<h3>2. Think hard about whether monogamy really makes sense for you.</h3>\r\n\r\nIt's hard to commit to one person. Are you finding monogamy isn't your thing? If that's the case, be honest with yourself and think about how a new monogamy agreement might work better for you. There are many ways that couples stay monogamous, while at the same time having an open sexual agreement. \r\n\r\nAre we born monogamous? Who knows. But we are going on a form of monogamy that is tied into a heteronormative Judeo-Christian tradition of marriage from 200 years ago, when we were living to be an average of 38 years old. Back then, by the time we got bored with each other, we were dead.\r\n\r\nFor couples today who are expected to live together for a lifetime, based on these traditional ideas of marriage, we have a life span of upward of 90 years. Can we stay desirous and monogamous for 90 years? \r\nMonogamy is not a biological prison, nor is it a privilege. It is an agreement. It is a choice. It is something you choose every day. It is also designed to be a mutual decision, a gift you give to one another. A promise. Therefore, the agreement should be as explicit as it can be. \r\n\r\nAfter an affair, talk about what you want in your new monogamy agreement. What constitutes monogamy for both of you? What is a secret, and what should be private? Are you sexually exclusive? Are you emotionally unique to one another? (In my book The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity, I give many ways to talk through some of these more complex conversations.)\r\n\r\nRenew your monogamy agreement often. After all, we renew our driver's license every few years. Why not our relationship?\r\n\r\n<h3>3. Shut down your tech.</h3>\r\n\r\nI know! Sounds impossible, right? In today's world, ""tech cheating"" is easier than ever. We can cheat on our partner lying in bed next to them, on our phones and handheld devices. Try putting down your phone, turn off your apps, and just back off for a while. Shut down your social media.\r\n\r\nAre you addicted to the excitement of cheating? The illicitness? The forbidden nature of cheating? Can you incorporate something adventurous into your life instead, to capture some of that excitement in a different way without sending naked selfies to strangers? Take up a hobby like hang-gliding, or ski some moguls. Affairs can be fun, but lying and hiding a secret life can make you feel terrible about yourself—not to mention destroying the very foundation of your relationship and hurting someone you ostensibly love.\r\n\r\nOne way to change your tech cheating is to break your relationship with technology. Stop liking everyone's posts, don't Snapchat, don't ""friend"" people, and stop posting selfies; let it all go, for a finite period of time. Let yourself go into withdrawal. Deal with all of the feelings that come up when you have nothing to occupy your time. Make eye contact with other people when you're talking to them.\r\n\r\n\r\n<h3>4. End your current affair.</h3>\r\n\r\nBut do it right. You may owe them—and yourself—more complete closure. Thank them for your time together, apologize for anything you have done to hurt them, and tell them what you will or will not do going forward. (And never ghost. That's just not OK.)\r\n\r\nLet them know that you appreciate the relationship. If you loved them, tell them it was true. Be honest about your boundaries going forward. If you have to see them every day, like at work, for example, tell them you'll be ""light and polite,"" but you can't continue in the way you've been operating. Tell them why. If it's because you are getting back with your spouse, tell them you are making your marriage work. Let them know you need time to think things through. \r\n\r\nIt's OK to admit ambivalence. You probably have strong feelings both ways; you want to stay, but you know you have to go. Tell them. But be clear that you know the best thing for you right now is to end this affair. \r\nFinally, change your behavior. Don't keep texting or calling or flirting at the water cooler. Really give them a chance to get over you, move on, and get another lover. Give them the space they deserve.\r\n\r\n<h3>5. Talk to your partner. A lot.</h3>\r\n\r\nThis is the most important step of them all. Tell your partner how you feel. What do you want in your marriage or committed partnership? Lots of relationships fail when one or both partners try to avoid the conflict of bringing up uncomfortable topics.\r\n\r\nOne way to go deeper and stay connected to your partner is to use what I call anticipatory empathy. Let your partner know that you also imagine how they might be feeling. If you see them looking down one day, tell them, ""I am wondering if you are having a tough day, and is it related to what is happening with us?"" Ask if there is something you can do to help their recovery. Just showing empathy and validating their feelings can go a long way toward recovering after an affair. And it can keep you from cheating because it will bring you deeper into the relationship you are already committed to.\r\n\r\n<h3>6. Go to therapy.</h3>\r\nThere are good therapists out there who are nonjudgmental about infidelity. They recognize that affairs happen. Find one that can walk you through what you really want.\r\nIn addition to solo therapy that you might have to go through to work out your own cheating motivations, go to couples therapy. The goals are totally different—individual sessions are for figuring yourself out, whereas couples sessions are for figuring out how the heck to make a relationship work.\r\n\r\nThere are several phases of recovery. The initial stage is the crisis, where you both may doubt you could survive and stay together. And you may not. But if you are hoping to make it work, you can't have some of the deeper conversations about your future when you are both in high-conflict arguments. A therapist can take you into the next phase of recovery—the ""insight"" phase, where you can go deeper into how the affair happened and why. Discovering the meaning of the affair will help both of you answer the more important questions of ""why"" and ""what happened?"" (Avoid the less crucial conversations around ""when and with whom?"" which can be painful and not very rewarding to either of you.) The third phase of recovery is the ""vision"" phase. This is where you can plan your new monogamy and move forward into a relationship that can work for both of you.\r\n\r\nA therapist who is trained in this model will help you identify what stage of recovery you are in and help you move on to the vision of your future. Plus, just the act of being in therapy can create intimacy, and that might be what you are really craving.\r\n\r\n<h3>7. Go to a weekend retreat with your spouse.</h3>\r\n\r\nFind a two-day couples workshop that focuses on intimate connection, communication, and sex. Go have some fun for two days. Be romantic. Sit in a hot tub. Work out your stuff. \r\n\r\nYou might wonder why your partner would want to go away with you when they are so mad at you they can barely make eye contact. A couples weekend retreat is not a vacation. Save that for later. A two-day couples workshop is led by a coach or a therapist and is focused on real healing. It will lead the two of you through a series of exercises that you can do privately, not in a group but in a group setting, that can help you talk, help you heal, and bring you to a new understanding of what true intimacy really looks like. After all, you may have been cheating all along because you have no idea what intimacy looks like, and you can look at this as a lesson. It's like intimacy school, if you will.\r\n\r\nYou might find out that a real, committed, intimate relationship is the best high of them all.\r\n\r\n",article,NULL,138,<blank>,<blank>
Do Men Cheat More?,2019-04-23,0,"Men tend to cheat more than women, but there’s evidence the infidelity gap closing — not because men are having fewer affairs, but because women are having more. But there are some questions about this data, which is largely self-reported. Do respondents to the surveys used by social scientists lie? And do the numbers on who gets caught align with the numbers of cheating? According to couples therapist Tammy Nelson, author of When You’re The One Who Cheats, there’s a reason to suspect that women may be not only cheating more, but getting away with it a lot more frequently.\r\n“We don’t know if more men or more women are caught cheating, on average. But it would make sense that women are better at hiding their affairs. \r\n\r\nTraditionally women have faced harsher punishment for cheating,”  Nelson told Fatherly. “They have lost their financial support, risked the loss of their children, and in some countries even risked the loss of their lives.”\r\n\r\nTwenty percent of men cheat compared to 13 percent of women, according to the U.S. General Social Survey. Men are more prone to casual and opportunistic cheating, which plays a big part in why they get caught. Infidelity, for many men, is evidence of recklessness. For women, it may be evidence of a more thought-out plan to address perceived needs. The potential costs of being sexually reckless is otherwise too high. Intimate partner violence, which one out of three women experiences at some point, is often triggered by infidelity.\r\n\r\nSex therapist Candice Cooper-Lovett agrees with Nelson that women’s ability to hide infidelity is at least somewhat adaptive. “A lot of women in my practice have shared that cheating was something that you take to the grave with you because men can’t handle cheating in the way that women do, or are expected to,” she explains. \r\n\r\nIt’s important to note that emerging data suggests this dynamic might change. One ongoing online survey conducted by the academic blog Truth About Deception, currently includes 61,901 women and 31,238 men (results are ongoing and updated daily). A total of 67.3 percent of male cheaters reported cheating on their spouses more than once, compared to 53.5 percent of women. Of those, 21.5 percent of men were suspected of cheating, compared to 40.1 percent of women. Finally, 39.2 percent of male cheaters said they eventually got caught, compared to 48 percent of women.\r\n\r\nBut that’s survey data that hasn’t been subjected to scientific controls. It’s enough that Nelson acknowledges men may be getting better at sneaking around. But it’s a grudging acknowledgment.\r\n\r\n“What we know is that men are better at compartmentalizing their affairs than women. They seem to be better at keeping their extramarital relationships separate from their primary partnerships than women, they can hide their outside behaviors and seem to be less disturbed by maintaining multiple lives,” Nelson says. “How long they can keep the compartmentalization going is not clear.”\r\n\r\nIt’s also possible that more women are getting caught cheating for the same reasons that more women are either admitting to infidelity and committing it in the first place — because it’s not as dangerous as it used to be. Since intimate partner violence remains a real problem, a less idealistic conclusion to draw may be that gender is not a good lens through which to look at the issue of infidelity. Nelson and Cooper-Lovett both say that the one thing most people who get caught cheating have in common is that they want to get caught — either on a conscious or subconscious level.\r\n\r\n“Those who don’t want to be caught take actions to ensure their affair goes undiscovered, says Nelson. \r\n\r\n“It seems to be working.”\r\n\r\n",article,NULL,142,<blank>,<blank>
Relationship expert reveals the tell-tale signs you're 'micro-cheating' on your partner,2019-04-23,0,"We all know the damage infidelity tends to have on relationships.\r\n\r\nAnd surprisingly, the subtle things you might be doing without even realising could be counted as 'micro-cheating'.\r\n\r\nAustralian relationship expert Samantha Jayne has revealed exactly what this dating concept means and how to tell if you are guilty about it.\r\n\r\n'Micro-cheating is a very grey area and it is not easy to define like full blown cheating,' she told FEMAIL.\r\n'However if you're asking yourself whether you're doing it and there is an element of guilt to your actions then the answer is probably ""yes"".'\r\n\r\n<h2>What actually defines micro-cheating?</h2>\r\n\r\nSamantha said that what defines micro-cheating all depends on an individual's values and boundaries.\r\nWhat one person considers micro-cheating could have zero tolerance for another who might be completely fine with.\r\n\r\n'It's important to have an open line of communication with your partner with specific boundaries of what is considered okay and not okay,' she said.\r\n\r\n'Often micro-cheating may seem like a bit of innocent flirting with a person outside of your relationship but it can unfortunately ruin your relationship.'\r\n\r\nSamantha said it includes things such as reaching out to an ex for emotional support, growing too friendly with someone and going out with a co-worker and not telling your partner. \r\n\r\nIt doesn't end there as it can also include secretly texting someone, having private jokes, catching up with an old flame behind your partners back and secretly reaching out to someone you're attracted to on social media.\r\n\r\n'While you might not be physically intimate with them it could potentially sabotage your relationship, especially if you cross the line of it becoming emotional or physical,' she said.\r\n\r\n'This happening isn't surprising as the temptation over time could escalate, especially if there are problems in your own relationship.'\r\n \r\n<h2>How can you tell if you are guilty of it?</h2>\r\n\r\nSamantha said micro-cheating all comes down to the intentions behind your behaviour.\r\n\r\n'It is important to look at your relationship and why you are reaching out to someone else,' she said.\r\n\r\n'If it is from an unmet need in your relationship it is important fix it, have a conversation with your partner, set some clear healthy boundaries and rekindle your connection to avoid the temptation of going outside your relationship.'\r\n\r\nIf you are finding that there is someone else out there you are chatting to that you often think about, Samantha recommends nipping it in the bud before it morphs into something that risks the relationship.\r\nShe also said it is important to put yourself in your partners shoes, after all, how would you feel if you were in their position?\r\n\r\n'Go back to what you value. If you value honesty and integrity then live your life in alignment with these values and go with your gut,' she said.\r\n\r\n'Chances are if you are doing something on the sly and feeling guilty about it, it's probably micro-cheating.\r\n\r\n'If it was completely innocent you could openly chat to your partner about it without any guilt or problem.'\r\n\r\n",article,NULL,143,<blank>,<blank>
7 Ways To Mend Your Broken Heart After You Catch Your Spouse Cheating,2019-04-23,0,"<h2>When you're ready to put your pain aside.</h2>\r\n\r\nNothing can prepare you for the emotional devastation that comes when you find out the one you loved, the one you let into your most intimate places, the one you built your life with, has betrayed you.\r\n\r\nIn the wake of discovering that your spouse has been cheating on you, you're probably reeling from a storm of emotions. You're broken-hearted, grieving, angry, confused, and deeply hurt.\r\n\r\nIf you’re anything like I was after my husband’s affair, your well-meaning friends may have attempted to comfort you by saying, “Time heals all wounds.”Unfortunately, not only is that not helpful, it’s also not true.\r\n\r\nTime — by itself — will not help you learn how to heal your broken heart and get your life back after you catch your spouse cheating.\r\n\r\nIt’s what you do with the time that determines whether you will heal after the heartbreak of infidelity, or carry these wounds into your future life and relationships. The reality is that “time cements all wounds” ... if you don’t take the essential steps to heal your broken heart after you catch your spouse cheating.\r\n\r\nI want you to know that no matter what your specific circumstances or what you're feeling, if you are suffering from the fallout of your cheating spouse's affair and you are ready to learn how to mend your broken heart, there is hope.\r\n\r\nHealing from the trauma of betrayal and learning to feel genuinely happy and peaceful is not easy to do, but it is absolutely possible.\r\n\r\nI know, because I did it.\r\n\r\nAnd you can, too.\r\n\r\n<h2>Here are 7 tips on how to heal your broken heart heart after you catch your spouse cheating.</h2>\r\n\r\n<h3>1. See from a different perspective</h3>\r\n\r\nThis is an invitation to look at what's happened in a way that can bring peace of mind and release you from suffering. It might feel radical. It can take some time, intention, and patience to adopt this higher point of view, but the payoff is powerful.\r\n\r\nWhen you become even the tiniest bit willing to look at your situation through the “eyes” of the soul, you start to comprehend “why,” on a deeper level, this betrayal took place.\r\n\r\nSo, what if, rather than a human with a soul, everyone is a soul having a human experience? From this higher perspective, nothing is random. Everything that happens in your life is custom-designed for your learning and growth. Therefore, challenging events, especially the painful ones, are — from the vantage point of the soul — simply learning opportunities.\r\nOpportunities for what? Opportunities to heal your deepest emotional wounds — the thoughts, beliefs and judgments that have held you back since childhood.\r\n\r\nThis step requires that you accept that there is a spiritual reason for the betrayal. It requires a belief that the universe/creator is neither random nor unkind, but rather “has your back” at all times.\r\n\r\nMarianne Williamson, an author and activist, speaks to this when she writes, “Every relationship, every situation is part of a divinely created and highly specific curriculum for your soul growth.”\r\n\r\nIf you find the first step to be difficult, that's OK. You don't have to believe it. For now, just be willing to accept the possibility that it might be true. That by itself will be a meaningful step toward releasing your pain and suffering.\r\n\r\n<h3>2. Feel and move through your feelings</h3>\r\n\r\nWhen your partner cheats, many couples began to work with therapists. Talking about feelings is essential to processing them. When you add the power of your body to literally move through the overwhelming feelings, you can really ramp up your healing.\r\n\r\nHere’s a simple, body-centered process you can do right now that takes thirty seconds: Take three, deep diaphragmatic breaths. Taking three, deep breaths will help you calm and bring more peace to a stressful situation.\r\n\r\nConscious breathing instantly lowers your heart rate and respiration and diffuses your fight or flight response. When I added body-centered processes like breathing, yoga, and dance (among others), my healing took off.\r\n\r\n<h3>3. Think better thoughts</h3>\r\n\r\nDo you know what’s fueling almost all your pain?\r\nYour thoughts.\r\n\r\nFeeling better starts when you uncover the negative, inner dialogue that fuels your upset, and re-write the false stories you made up about yourself as a result of being betrayed. Uncovering and updating beliefs about yourself is some of the most transformative work you can do.\r\n\r\nBy focusing on your thoughts and acknowledging which ones are causing you pain, peace will soon follow.\r\n4. Heal your relationship … with yourself and them\r\nYou must you heal the relationship with your partner, whether you stay or go. Why? Because, even if the physical relationship ends, you are going to have a relationship with your partner forever in your mind.\r\n\r\nThe cumulative thoughts and feelings you have about a person create your inner experience of that person. And whether they are in your life every day, or never to be seen again, you “hold” a space for each person in your thoughts. And these thoughts create your feelings.\r\n\r\nThough it can be challenging, you do have the power to change your thoughts. You have a choice about what you will experience every time you think about a particular person. It takes practice, but it is possible.\r\n\r\n<h3>5. Reclaim your power</h3>\r\n\r\nNo matter how you felt about yourself before the affair, when your lover betrays you, it often feels like your world's been rocked. You've been dropped to your knees and stripped of your power. To fully recover, you need to understand exactly how you gave your power away — before the affair and after — and how to get it back.\r\n\r\nWhen you do this work, your healing takes you beyond recovery to a new level of empowerment.\r\n\r\n•People give their power away in relationships when they:\r\n•Invest too much of their time and energy in the relationship and neglect themselves (codependency)\r\n•Don’ speak their truth\r\n•Son’t set boundaries\r\n•Project their own issues onto others\r\n\r\nThe list of the ways you give your power away (many of them socially approved of) can be long. For this reason, this is some of the most freeing work you can do around the betrayal.\r\n\r\n<h3>6. Let it go when forgiving seems impossible</h3>\r\n\r\nI read every book I could find on the topic of forgiveness. Most of them ended up my recycle bin.\r\n\r\nThey didn’t bring the peace of mind I so wanted.\r\nThe best way to start is to learn what is driving your un-forgiveness: Your judgments. \r\n\r\nReleasing these judgments (of yourself and others) becomes essential if you truly want to move beyond the pain of betrayal.\r\nUnlike traditional forgiveness, I recommend you start with self-forgiveness before you consider forgiving another. Being willing to forgive yourself for all the ways you are judging yourself is a powerful first step towards true forgiveness.\r\n\r\n<h3>7. Find the deeper wound</h3>\r\n\r\nYes, being cheated on is exceedingly painful, but I, like many others, experienced unhealthy levels of suffering. It impacted every area of my life for years (my work, my relationships with children, and my health). My big turnaround started when I discovered the “wound behind my wound.”\r\n\r\nAs is often the case, my husband’s affair had activated an old childhood wound — one that had long been buried. Only when you make your previously obscured hurts conscious do you have any hope of healing them and transcending the pain.\r\n\r\nMany of these steps may sound unattainable right now, but, whether or not your relationship survives, you can fully recover from the devastating effects of betrayal and learn how to heal your broken heart. And as a result, you'll be empowered to move on to create a better life.\r\n\r\nGetting the right support — from someone who has been where you are, and is where you want to be — can help you ease the pain of infidelity and restore your peace of mind much more quickly that just waiting for time alone to heal you and your broken heart.\r\n\r\nPlease know this: It is possible.\r\n\r\n",article,NULL,144,<blank>,<blank>
5 Things I Learnt From My Husband Cheating,2019-04-29,0,"I have something to confess: people whom you trust blindly can even deceive you in a span of seconds.\r\n\r\nI have been married to a man for almost years now.\r\n\r\nWe had an unhappy yet satisfying marriage. Things took a turn when I got to know that he had thrown himself into an affair. \r\n\r\nI couldn’t believe for months that the love of my life could cheat on me.\r\n\r\nBeing cheated on sucks big time.\r\n\r\nIt doesn’t matter how miserable my marriage was – finding out the person I loved would betray me – was nothing less than a nightmare.\r\n\r\nIt was as if cheating on me wasn’t enough.\r\n\r\nHe left me for his girlfriend and married her after two years – cherry on the top, they are expecting their first child now.\r\n\r\nTrust me, this is not an experience you’d be willing to go through. \r\n\r\nDo you want your forever to last?\r\n\r\nHere are some hard-earned lessons that I came across when my whole world crumbled to pieces. \r\n\r\n<h2>1. Don’t blame yourself</h2>\r\n\r\nIf your husband cheated on you is it your fault?\r\n\r\nNo. You are not to blame for his infidelity.\r\n\r\nIt was a unilateral decision that he made – a choice which was made without your consent.\r\n\r\nHis behavior was a very clear reflection of how he was as a person. \r\n\r\nSometimes, I thought that he left me because I wasn’t good enough.\r\n\r\nYou’ll realize it soon that cheating has nothing to do with appearance, money or education.\r\n\r\nStop feeling guilty. \r\n\r\nMaterial things don’t matter. What’s significant is how you feel in each other’s company.\r\n\r\nYour husband found joy with someone else, so why blame yourself for it?!\r\n\r\n<h2>2. Get over it </h2>\r\n\r\nLeave your past behind.\r\n\r\nTry to bring all the positive vibes that help you move on and get wiser to handle relationships in the future.\r\n\r\nI was distrustful of everyone initially, but with time I have tried to adjust myself and I have started accepting things.\r\n\r\nYou cannot remain sad and distressed your whole life.\r\n\r\nYou may plan to look for a job.\r\n\r\nThe best thing is to keep yourself busy so that you don’t have time to think about your traumatizing past. \r\n\r\n<h2>3. Know your worth </h2>\r\n\r\nI was in a marriage, where I was willing to give away all I had.\r\n\r\nBut if someone doesn’t value you it’s out of your control.\r\n\r\nDon’t let go of your self-respect for the sake of a happy marriage. I wouldn’t recommend it at all. \r\n\r\nAlways know your worth!\r\n\r\nThere is no point in staying with a person if it’s an abusive relationship.\r\n\r\nTry to consult a family law firm if you’ve decided to part ways with your partner.\r\n\r\nI, for one, realized I’m giving water to a dead flower.\r\n\r\n<h2>4. Don’t force him to stay </h2>\r\n\r\nI made the mistake of forcing my husband to stay in the marriage even when he didn’t want to.\r\n\r\nThere’s no point staying in an unwanted marriage.\r\n\r\nDivorce is considered to be taboo in a community.\r\n\r\nBut it’s better to let him go if he wants that.\r\n\r\nYou’d be heartbroken initially but you’ll learn to cope up with life. \r\n\r\nIf he doesn’t want to stay, he has nothing to lose by negotiating with you.\r\n\r\nDon’t stoop low by clinging on to him.\r\n\r\nForcing things on your spouse would just complicate things in the future. \r\n\r\n<h2>5. Forgive and forget</h2>\r\n\r\nThere will always be these two opinions.\r\n\r\nSometimes, you’d think it’s okay to forgive him despite what he did to you.\r\n\r\nOr, you may go with the flow and leave things for God to decide.\r\n\r\nForgiving your spouse will help you move on with life. The trust will come later.\r\n\r\nIf he’s really guilty, you may forgive him this one time and try to rebuild your relationship with your partner.\r\n\r\nFor me, I always believed that it’s better to be alone rather than to be cheated on. \r\n\r\nIf you don’t want to forgive your partner, that’s your personal choice.\r\n\r\nIt takes time to heal. It took me years to get past the melodrama, but I had my whole life ahead of me.\r\n\r\nThat was the only reason I decided to forgive him and start afresh with him.\r\n\r\nHave you internalized your feelings of rejection?\r\n\r\nDon’t close yourself from the faucet of truth.\r\n\r\nYou definitely are worthy, important and able.\r\n\r\nYou might want to devote your whole existence to the person you love but that existence may come crashing down. \r\n\r\nEverything happens for a reason and only you so have a choice to grow from experiences. \r\n",article,NULL,145,<blank>,<blank>
Bank Helps Cheater Victim Get Revenge!,2019-11-04,0,"<h1>A mum who was ordered to pay her cheating husband an 774,000 (£5,800) divorce settlement received a helping hand from her bank to play one last trick on her ex.</h1>\r\n\r\nBrandi Lee filed for divorce after allegedly discovering her husband had been having an affair with a family friend who had attended their wedding and watched them exchange vows.\r\n\r\nIn a post on Facebook, the mum-of-two from America wrote: ""So a man that I was married to, bless his heart, decided to do me the biggest favour of my life and slept with his own FRIEND’S wife.\r\n\r\n""The woman who attended my WEDDING and watched me hold hands and look into the eyes of the man I loved and promise him my forever all while knowing damn well they were sleeping together!\r\n\r\n""Well I busted 'em and that led us into divorce court, and for some god awful reason, I was ordered to pay HIM 774, 000.\r\n\r\n""It is what it is and now I have to pay him. Court’s order. So I’m paying him!\r\n\r\n""The court order, and I quote, says I have to pay him 'the sum of 774, 000’. That’s it. It does not say how.""\r\n<br>\r\nShe came up with a genius way to pay him the divorce settlement.Noticing she could pay the sum by any means she wished, Brandi went to her local bank to explain her plan to pay her cheating ex entirely in coins.\r\n\r\nAfter telling staff the whole story, she said the 'beautiful little ladies' were more than happy to assist her in turning the settlement into ten-cent coins, as well as supporting her with a payment plan.\r\n\r\nTen huge boxes of coins weighing roughly 160kg were then sent to her husband to deal with.\r\n\r\nShe gave him 774, 000 in coins. People loved her 'genius' move, with one commenting: ""I wish we could see his reaction lol, good for you!""\r\n\r\nIt's not the first time a split couple have used divorce proceedings to get back at one another after a man was ordered to pay his ex-wife 19 million in compensation for the 27 years of their marriage she had spent doing the housework and raising their children.\r\n\r\nThe woman, now in her 70s, had gained an economics degree but gave up her career after tying the knot to become a housewife.",article,NULL,146,<blank>,<blank>
3 Common Traits Of Cheating Partners,2019-11-04,0,"Infidelity is the leading challenge in relationships and marriages. \r\n<br>\r\nWhile it might be hard to know whether a partner is cheating or not, you can suspect it through how they carry themselves. Cheating partners have their own behaviours. \r\n<br>\r\nHere are 3 common traits of cheating partners;\r\n\r\n<h3>1. Less intimate with you</h3>\r\n\r\nCheating people tend to be less intimate with their partners. They are also less committed to the relationship or marriage. In other words, you can know your partner is cheating when their sexual relationship with you is practically non-existent. \r\n<br>\r\n<h3>2. Flirty</h3>\r\n\r\nCheating partners are practically good flirts. Flirting with someone means you are interested in them romantically. Flirting is not necessarily cheating but can actually lead to cheating. It is a sign of disrespect when your partner flirts with other people of opposite sex in your presence or when you are away. It should be a red flag to you. \r\n<br>\r\n<h3>3. Lying</h3>\r\n\r\nA cheat is really good at lying. They hardly say the truth and you really doubt whatever thing they say to you. They make false excuses for breaking plans or doing the opposite of what you had agreed. They can be so perfect in lying to a point that you see no reason to doubt them.",article,NULL,147,<blank>,<blank>
Most Inventive Ways To Get Revenge on Your Ex,2019-11-04,0,"Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, and hit BBC One series Doctor Foster more than proved that point when Suranne Jones's on-screen husband had an affair with the 23-year-old daughter of one of their friends. The dinner party that followed will go down in history.\r\n\r\nNow, the drama is back, and Jones is as superbly melodramatic as ever, wreaking carefully - and not so carefully - coordinated - revenge on her hapless ex (Bertie Carvel). Already, she has crashed his wedding party to his new girlfriend. What next? \r\n\r\nWell, if she is anything like others who have gone before, the sky is the limit. For some, facing a cheating partner is carte blanche for mad and bad behaviour.\r\n\r\nIt's something Coleen Rooney might well be mulling over right now, having already taken to Twitter and Instagram to vent over her husband Wayne Rooney's late night antics.\r\n\r\nHere are some of the most inventive and dastardly ways men and women have got revenge on their cheating other halves:\r\n\r\n<h3>1. Get public </h3>\r\n\r\nLinda, from Warwick, laminated a poster and stuck it to a nearby crossing, alerting her home town to her partner Graham's  philandering ways. ""If she is so good in bed you can stay there,"" she wrote. ""Merc keys in canal. Locks changed. Cards maxed. Happy New Year, Linda."" \r\n<br>\r\n\r\n<h3>2. Target his/her favourite possession</h3>\r\n\r\nA Reddit user posted photographic evidence of a car spray painted with the words 'cheater' and 'liar' over the bonnet and sides. The Volkswagen Jetta's four tyres were punctured and the back window smashed. Across the windows '4 years' were written, presumably how long the wronged party had wasted with the driver. \r\n<br>\r\n<h3>3. Think outside of the box</h3>\r\n\r\nDuring one ITV This Morning segment viewers rang in with tales of revenge. Holly Willoughby and Phil Schofield heard from one woman who switched her partner's conditioner for something else on finding out he was cheating.\r\n\r\n""I decided to get my own back. I emptied half the bottle of his conditioner and filled it with ladies' hair removal cream. He was going on a night out to meet this person and his hair started coming out. He started freaking out.""\r\n<br>\r\n<h3>4. Plan, plan, plan</h3>\r\n\r\nOne American woman named as Annie Wagner decided to make her feelings known on television with a sign during an NFL game saying: ""My cheating ex-boyfriend is watching from [the] couch instead"". The image went viral and she quit Facebook after all the attention, but at least he got his just desserts. \r\n<br>\r\n<h3>5. Patience is everything </h3>\r\n\r\nIn autumn last year a man from Donegal in Ireland appeared on The Graham Norton Show to retell the story of a groom who had a surprise for his wife on their wedding day. He asked all the guests to stand up and look at the underside of the plate in front of them.\r\n\r\nIf they had a red dot on, they were asked to stay standing. Everyone else was asked to sit back down. Eight men remained standing. The groom told the wedding party that these men had all slept with his wife since they were engaged and that he was getting an annulment, before walking straight out of the room.  \r\n<br>\r\n<h3>6. Be prepared to spend money </h3>\r\n\r\nAnother rented ad space in their local newspaper in Texas to make the point:\r\n\r\nPatrick's wife was not pulling any punches\r\n<br>\r\n<h3>7. Share your tips with others</h3>\r\n\r\nUsers of the anonymous social networking Whisper have been sharing their exploits. One wrote, ""When my boyfriend cheated on me, I sent a mariachi band to play at his house... From 4 to 6 am.. The day he was taking The Bar exam. He failed it.""\r\n\r\nAnother wrote: ""Found out he's been sexting his ex, but I got my revenge. I swapped her number in his phone with his boss'.""\r\n<br>\r\n<h3>8. Be creative</h3>\r\nOn Netmums one user named Emma W described how another woman had placed a bag of prawns into a curtain pole before leaving the house she shared his her husband after she discovered he was cheating. The prawns melted and started to rot until the smell got so bad he put the house on the market. ""Serves him right,"" he user said. \r\n\r\n\r\n",article,NULL,148,<blank>,<blank>
15 Brutal Ways To Get Revenge On Your Ex,2019-11-04,0,"<h1>Heartbreak: Time To Take The Gloves Off</h1>\r\n<br>\r\nThere is nothing worse than the burn of heartbreak. If you are reading this article, you are probably the one who is suffering, and you are the one looking to get revenge on your ex. However, there is that chance too that you are trying to figure out what the ex boyfriend or girlfriend who you just dumped is trying to do. There are plenty of ways to get revenge on your ex. Chances are, you two know each other better than anyone (or so you thought) and you know where it is going to hit them the hardest. In case you are at a loss regarding what to do, here are fifteen ways to get revenge on your ex (that will keep you out of jail).\r\n<br>\r\nI say this with humor, but the reality is, there are some people that will go to pretty extreme lengths in order to get back at someone they hate. Don't do anything to him or his property. He/she will know (and probably so will the police) that you are the one seeking revenge and you will get busted, even if you attempt to do it anonymously.\r\n<br>\r\n<h1>Revenge On Your Ex Is All About Timing</h1>\r\n<br>\r\nGetting revenge on your ex is all about timing. There are plenty of ways to achieve this: anonymously, online, by getting another boyfriend or girlfriend. The possibilities are endless. If you wait too long, your ex is just going to think that you really are crazy. Achieving revenge is best done right after the two of you split. Regardless if they left you, there is going to be some heartache on their behalf after a couple of days...unless you have already been replaced. Seeking revenge within the next couple of days is typical, but it won't have the most power. You should really consider thinking about revenge anywhere from 3-7 days after the breakup. This will give you a couple of days to cool down, think with more logic than emotion, and create a plan to give you the most desired results.\r\n<br>\r\n<h1>No Revenge On Your Ex Is Better Than Doing Good For Yourself</h1>\r\n<br>\r\nThere is no sweeter revenge on your ex than doing well for yourself. There is nothing more hurtful than saying, ""Wow, I really was better off without you."" Above all other types of revenge, this is the one that you should shoot for. Not only will you achieve your mission, you are also really just making yourself better and stronger. It's a win-win situation. There is a lot of emphasis on this here. Out of all the tips you are about to read, these have the most impact.\r\n<br>\r\n\r\n<h3>Tip #1: Enjoy your independent life</h3>\r\n<br>\r\nSure, now you can sleep in, eat the junk you like, and binge watch television. However, if you get too consumed with this pattern, you will most likely end up achieving depression than revenge. So get up, get out of the house, and take care of yourself physically. Show your ex boyfriend or girlfriend that you live a good life now - a healthy one - that you couldn't achieve while you were with them because you were too dependent on their crappy habits. There is something to be said about when you end up doing better than your ex.\r\n<br>\r\nYour ex wants to see you suffer in some regard. Don't give them that satisfaction! They want you to be meek. Instead, show them the newfound confidence that you have. Even if you have to fake it until you make it, it beats putting sugar in your ex's gas tank and getting arrested. It shows maturity. It shows that you are the bigger and better person. You develop new hobbies, more friends, have more laughs. The best revenge is to be able to look at your ex one day and say, ""You did me a favor."" Take care of yourself physically, because it will make a huge difference in your mindset.\r\n<br>\r\n<h3>Tip #2: Take care of yourself emotionally too</h3>\r\n<br>\r\nStart doing hobbies that are really cool (like small-scale traveling) to help you heal spiritually. Dance, laugh, and do things that make your spirit feel better. Your ex is expecting you to be hurt. So the more that you can do help yourself stay light and emotionally lifted, the better. That is why articles on revenge can be tricky.\r\n\r\nDon't jump into the crazy loop. Don't stalk him/her. Don't contact all his new girlfriend or boyfriends anonymously. Don't stoop to a low level. I mean, you can, but the results from that kind of revenge aren't as satisfying. Taking care of yourself emotionally is important, for your sake and your ex's sake. I know you don't care much about his sake right now...but one day you will.\r\n\r\nMake Yourself Look Good\r\n\r\nThere is nothing worse than the burn of seeing your ex and they look better than they ever have. Don't give them this satisfaction. One of the best ways to get revenge on your ex is by making yourself smoking hot. When you look better, you feel better. When you feel better, your ex will go nuts with jealousy. You are single now, don't forget that. You can dress up for the two most important people - you, and the future Mr./Mrs. You. \r\n<br>\r\n<h3>Tip #3: Get your hair, nails, makeup, and other assets done</h3>\r\n<br>\r\nGet your hair, nails, makeup, and other assets done. Take a spa day. Even if you are lacking in funds, take some time to really learn how to make yourself look better. Watch some YouTube videos. Get a new haircut. It is the little things that can really make a difference. Not only will your confidence get better, you will make your ex long for you, which will be so bittersweet for them.\r\n<br>\r\n<h3>Tip #4: Get a couple new (sexier) pieces for your wardrobe.</h3>\r\n<br>\r\nDon't go dressing too provocatively to seem desperate. But, you can purchase one or two new pieces of clothing or new accessories that bring out the sexiness in you. You are single now. You are available. Getting a little attention through some clothes that fit well, bring our your best colors, and that show a little bit of your beautiful body will be enough to make your ex man fume.\r\n\r\nRemember, you are single now. There is no spotting someone for gas, picking up the tab for a table of two, or other frivolous expenditures. Your ex feels the same way about your money as they do your looks. They want you to be miserable. So, what better revenge on your boyfriend or girlfriend is there than by making your wallet fatter?\r\n<br>\r\n<h3>Tip #5: Start earning that dollar</h3>\r\n<br>\r\nFind a side-hustle or a part-time job (or a full-time job if you aren't working at all). There are a few perks to this. Your ex may come into the restaurant that you are working at, and you can make that face you have always wanted to (not that we are being immature here). You will feel better getting up and out of the house, or selling art that you pour some passion into. Finally, you will be earning some extra money, which is the point of all of this.\r\n<br>\r\n<h3>Tip #6: Treat Yourself</h3>\r\n<br>\r\nNow that you are earning that dollar, you have two options. You can spend that new money on things that will make you feel better (and chances are, make your ex jealous) or you can save it. If we are talking about the former, here is your chance to update your car, to buy a new wardrobe, or to go to concerts that you guys always TALKED about seeing but didn't. Now you can treat yourself. Hey, make sure you post pics on social media so they will be sure to see it.\r\n<br>\r\n<h3>Tip #7: Being financially stable</h3>\r\n<br>\r\nOr you can go the other way and you can save your money. Show that being without him means that you can be more responsible, that you don't have to spend a ton of money. You now have time to work hard and save up for a huge trip, finishing your education, or any other major goal of yours. Believe me, this doesn't sound like a great way to get revenge, but if word gets out that you are busting your ass and saving some serious cash, there will be some real revenge taking place. Your ex will HATE that you are doing well financially.\r\n\r\nErase Those Memories And Make Sure They Know About It\r\n\r\nThis one may be harder for you that it is on him/her, but it is still an awesome way to get revenge on your ex boyfriend or girlfriend.\r\n<br>\r\n<h3>Tip #8: Get rid of all your physical memories</h3>\r\n<br>\r\nThat means take down all the pictures, boxing up all of the ""relationship stuff"" and making that call to see if they want it. The pain of hearing that may drive them wild, but keep in mind, they may try to play it cool. If they do not want it, get rid of it (all except for a picture or a souvenir that you simply cannot live without). It will be a therapeutic cleanse for you. Plus, if they happen to stop over for one reason or another and don't see all your treasures exhibited, it will burn.\r\n<br>\r\n<h3>Tip #9: Erase those memories on Facebook also\r\nTake the pics that you have on Facebook or other social media and print them out, or just delete them.</h3>\r\n<br> Sometimes your ex will get the itch to look back at your photos. Make that impossible! That is revenge at its best. Delete them from your accounts, change your passwords, and block them if you want to. The less they see of you, the more they will wonder about you. Just make sure that you leave a few friends in common and you tag them periodically so that your ex can stalk you from afar once they start feeling that twinge of jealousy.\r\n\r\n\r\nGet Revenge On Your Ex Online\r\nWe live in a world that is lived online most of the time. Therefore, getting the best revenge on your ex boyfriend or girlfriend can simply be done online. There are two ways that you can do this: anonymously or with confidence upfront. \r\n<br>\r\n<h3>Tip #10: Setting another account</h3>\r\n<br>\r\nOkay, so this may not be the most mature way to get revenge on your ex. But creating an anonymous account and doing things online to make him jealous or such is sometimes the way that people go. Do be careful about what you try and do anonymously. If you try to anonymously blackmail them, it can eventually be linked to you and your computer, so watch what you try and do if it is illegal.\r\n<br>\r\n<h3>Tip #11: Keep the dirty secrets</h3>\r\n<br>\r\nIf you can be man (or woman) enough to seek your revenge online, you can still go a less mature route by posting things about them that you know will piss them off. Do they suck their thumb? Who wouldn't want to know that? Just remember, many times people fight fire with fire. Keep the Golden Rule in mind. Also, be careful because some things you may say or so may end up biting you in the ass later on. Even though it is online, it can still be used in a court of law.\r\n\r\nGet Revenge On Your Ex With A Rebound\r\nOther than making yourself look and feel good, the best revenge to get back at your ex is to rebound. Be careful with this also because you are bringing someone else's feelings into the mix.\r\n<br>\r\n<h3>Tip #12: Go out and mingle</h3>\r\n<br>\r\nFind individuals you can casually date and be happy about it. You don't need another long-term relationship just yet. Get back into the field and enjoy it. Getting revenge on your ex by going out and enjoying the single life shows them that they didn't hurt you. In fact, it will probably hurt them. Make sure that your ex finds out somehow through another source; don't just call them up and say, ""Hey, I am going out to get laid!"" That looks pretty desperate.\r\n<br>\r\n<h3>Tip #13: Date their friends!</h3>\r\n<br>\r\nYes, this is an awesome way to seek revenge. Of course, there will be a few of their friends to stay away from because they will side with your ex. However, your ex boyfriend or girlfriend will have one or two friends that have been scoping you out this entire time. Ask them out on a date and make sure that they have an awesome time. You may be doing this purely out of revenge (in which case, don't keep it going longer than a week) or to truly move on.\r\n\r\nMove On For Real\r\n\r\nStaying Single is Revenge Too!\r\n\r\nSimply put, there are plenty of ways to get revenge on your ex. Moving on completely is a pretty sweet revenge. We all want to be important to another person. If you move on, they will realize that they are no longer important in your life. Show them that you are not willing to just crawl back to them on your hands and knees. Show them that you do not need them anymore. \r\n<br>\r\n<h3>Tip #14: Get into a long-term relationship when you are ready </h3>\r\n<br>\r\nBe happy. Find someone that takes care of you and that respects you. If you keep going on long enough you may enter into an engagement. Don't do this a week after your ex leaves you though. That just looks silly. Just give it some time and when they bump into you years down the road, showcasing how happy you are is the best revenge on that boyfriend or girlfriend that gave up on you.\r\n<br>\r\n<h3>Tip #15: Decide that you want to stay single for a while</h3>\r\n<br>\r\nThis has the same impact as getting into a long-term relationship. You may decide to show your ex that this time is for you. How is this revenge? Showing someone that you need to recover from being with them is an insult as well, especially if you frame this up online. ""He ruined sex for me so bad, I can't bear to have sex with another individual until I seek counseling..."" and other similar comments are great online because other girls/guys will stay away from individuals who they think will mess them up.\r\n<br>\r\nOf course, no matter what you do in order to get revenge on your ex, you might look desperate and crazy. That's okay; you are desperate and crazy right now. Your heart was just broken! I can't say this enough though: just make sure that you don't do anything illegal. Don't keep at it for years either. If you are to take anything away from this article, know that doing good for you is the best revenge you can seek. That burns the most. Granted, your ex may say they are glad to see you happy and doing well, but deep down, you know that they are going to be wishing that they were still with you and now they can't have you. \r\n<br>\r\nThat is revenge, my friends!",article,NULL,149,<blank>,<blank>
How I Got Revenge On My Ex,2019-11-04,0,"<h1>Forgive and forget is not my thing and has never been my cup of tea.</h1>\r\n<br>\r\nBecause right from childhood, I have been hurt, punished, taken advantage off and bullied by people. In fact, my own parents and relatives have committed such crimes against me for years and years, I sincerely do not see the merit in forgiving them.\r\n<br>\r\nOh and in case, you want to lecture me about giving them a chance, let me tell you, I gave them plenty of chances of genuine, heartfelt and sincere acts of forgiveness — only to have them strike me back like a king cobra waiting to kill its prey.\r\n\r\nSo I haven’t been a big fan of the forgive and forget principle. I have come from a world where I experienced human beings who were actually monsters and who were capable of doing extremely inhuman things. And that too — not just once, but many times over. Over and over again.\r\n\r\nSo please — forgive and forget is NOT my philosophy in life. And it is not what I want, respect and will ever do.\r\n\r\nSo what is my principle where evil acts are concerned?\r\nSimply put, it is the horrible and horrific act of taking REVENGE.\r\n\r\nSo how exactly do I take Revenge and make it so horrible, so painful and so terrible that the opposite party never forgets?\r\n\r\nLet me share with you story of 10 years summarized into 7 lines.\r\n\r\nThe girl I truly, madly & deeply loved dumped me in the most violent manner possible whereby I ended up in a depression for 4 years.\r\nShe dumped me because the new whom she decided to go for was:\r\n\r\nA) Richer\r\nB) More Successful\r\nC) More Wealthier\r\nD) Had a stable career\r\nE) Though born Indian, he had a Western Passport\r\n\r\nAnd even though I begged, pleaded and wept for her to come back to me — she was totally convinced, I wasn’t the one for her. And I did this for nearly 2 years.\r\nI had pictures & videos of her in truly compromising positions & acts, including her email address, house address, information about her friends, passwords, personal artifacts of hers — which I could have used against her. But I choose to do nothing bad to her. I returned them all back to her.\r\n\r\nAnd to add insult to injury — after she dumped me, she splashed pictures and videos of her new lover and her all over social media in the most explicit manner possible to let everyone know how happy she was. Oh and did I tell you — I had tattooed her face on both sides of her chest to show my love for her when we were together? (Yup….. I know)\r\n\r\nOh and did I also tell you — one of the (many) reasons she dumped me was that she could never be introduce a ‘freak’ like me to her parents and she could never imagine how someone who had tattoos like me could be a good role model for ‘her’ children. In fact, she asked me how would she introduce me to her friends and family members as ‘the father of her children’ given that I looked like how I looked.\r\n\r\nWhat she said, hurt. But I guess it was one of those phases of my life.\r\n\r\nAnd last if not the least, the reason she dumped me was because I wasn’t financially well off, didn’t have a stable career and well she wanted someone whom she could introduce to her family and friends ‘with pride’.\r\n\r\nIt took me a solid 4 years to get out of depression where I really, really, really suffered. It was horrible. Really horrible.\r\n\r\nNearly 10 years passed since that day…..\r\n\r\nI was now a changed man.\r\nI was very famous having spoken at TEDx, being featured on National Television and also being featured on Coca-Cola’s viral youtube advert:\r\n\r\nI now had a successful business practice and a good number of clients. And yeah — financially, I was nearly 100 times more successful than I ever was in my life.\r\n\r\nEverything was going great. Until one fine someone one got in touch with me. At first I couldn’t recognize who it was but eventually, to my shock and surprise — it turned out to be the girl “I once loved more than life itself.”\r\n\r\nLong story short, this is what transpired in her life:\r\nThe college she was studying in Dubai, UAE, apparently offered her a degree that wasn’t valid in India. So she had to repeat the 4 years of Medical Education once again. So she lost 4 years of her life\r\nHer boyfriend apparently got bored of her and where the spark of romance & lust burned so brightly, it was now reduced to constant fights, disagreements & displeasure.\r\n\r\nThe boys parents whom once loved the girl and her parents who once loved the boy — well, apparently both of them now couldn’t stand the other.\r\n\r\nHer parents who once upon a time had a successful business, ended up losing all their money due to the recession.\r\n\r\nOh and just so that you know — she was born Diabetic. And her health was super sensitive. When she was with me, I made sure she would never drink, smoke or engage in any behavior that would result in her health deteriorating. However, her new lover on the other hand didn’t feel this was very important and ensured she would drink as much as she liked, smoked how many ever cigarettes she wanted and yeah — went to all the night time parties possible. Her health deteriorated to the point that after the 10 years of abuse, now she was even weak to stand and work for more than few hours at a stretch.\r\n\r\nAnd because of her health condition, she was not being offered a job in any place. And to top it all, she wasn’t getting any marriage proposal because of this very fact — her health was declining. Forget giving birth to a baby — even a mosquito bite could result in her falling seriously ill where she would have to be hospitalized.\r\n\r\nI listened to everything she had to say. And I kind of got the hint that was interested to come back into my life if that is what I wanted. I listened to her story, her sentences and her situation. And I also knew what and why she was trying to give me the “I’m-a-victim” story. Had she done this 10 years ago, given the man I was then, I am 100% sure, I would have accepted her into my life even without thinking because those days — well, I thought more with my emotions and my heart. But now, I was a different man, a different person and a different beast at it.\r\nAnd that is why when she did indirectly let me know she was interested, I laughed it off and let her know who I was 10 years ago and who I was today.\r\nI wasn’t rude, I wasn’t evil, however, I wasn’t apologetically humble. I let her know who I was. Simply because I had earned my stripes, I had endured the pain. And I now enjoyed the success I was enjoying. And I didn’t have to be ‘nice’ or ‘humble’ about it.\r\n\r\nI let her know that she was my past and now she didn’t matter to me at all. And personally, I totally agreed with her ‘self-depreciating’ statement that “I was lucky to be free from a woman with so many sicknesses, issues and problems. And that now I had the freedom to choose the best of the best and no someone used.” (yes folks, these were her own words).\r\nShe was shocked that I was so focused, so different and so indifferent. And following that, we not only said goodbye, I asked her not to keep in touch with me ever again as I had no time for people like her.\r\nSo now, how exactly did I take cold, calculated and callous revenge against this young girl?\r\n\r\nNo, I didn’t harm her.\r\nNo, I didn’t hurt her.\r\nNo, I didn’t do anything that focused on her.\r\n\r\nWhat I did was use all that anger, all that pain, all that darkness, all that evil energy and all that rage that I had against her — I channelized it to make ME stronger, better, badder and more focused where self-development, self-growth and self-education was concerned.\r\n\r\nI focused day and night into studying, learning, business, making money, evolving and having a better quality life. So while she was busy enjoying a romantically enjoyable life, I was grinding it out in the heat, in the discomfort and the dungeons of hardships. And 10 years later, I was 100 times the better person I was when she left me.\r\n\r\nAnd all this progress took place ONLY because I was absolutely focused, madly obsessed and incredibly vengeful against the wrong she had done to me. Had I forgiven her, had I forgotten this act, I doubt I would reach the point, the position and achieve the purpose I had achieved today. And this is the Power, the Purpose & the Point of Taking Revenge.\r\n\r\nI took revenge against her and the act she committed but not hurting her but by developing myself into the greatness I reached today. And that is why I was in a much better place than her. The fact was and is, I had no control over her, her life or her future. But I did have control over my present, my emotions, my feelings and my life. And that is what I decided to take total and complete charge off. And that is why I became so good, that she regretted leaving me.\r\n\r\nSo the next time someone asks you to “Forgive & Forget” someone — remember my story. And yeah — do make sure you take Revenge. But a revenge where you do not focus on hurting anyone. But Revenge by channelizing all the negativity, all the pain, all the toxicity into refining, reshaping and rebranding YOU to the next level. Because in the end what matters is not anyone else but YOU.\r\n\r\nSo go ahead my friend — Take Revenge.\r\n\r\nBut do so — intelligently and yes purposefully.\r\n\r\nAnd that is where, I leave you with the wise words of American crime writer Patricia Cornwell who said it beautifully “Survival was my only hope, success my own revenge”",article,NULL,150,<blank>,<blank>
Scorned wife sells cheating husband for \xa312,2020-01-08,0,"An enraged woman put her husband up for sale after she caught him cheating.\r\n\r\nEdna Mukwana, from Kenya, said she sold her husband for 1700 Kenyan Shilling (\xa312.76) and used the money to buy her children clothes for the new year, according to GhanaWeb.\r\n\r\nShe explained that she caught her husband sleeping with another woman in their matrimonial bed and did not let him return home for over a week after the confrontation.\r\n\r\nShe then decided to sell her husband to the mistress, saying: ""My husband is married to alcohol and whoring around.\r\n\r\nEdna Mukwana said she used the money to buy her children new clothes.\r\n\r\n""I have used all the money to buy new year clothes for my children.""\r\n\r\nAsked if she will accept her husband to return, Edna said: ""I can't. I don't want to get into the new year with the 2019 nuisance.""\r\n\r\nIn December, 2018, a woman living in Hamburg, Germany put her 'used husband' for auction on eBay after getting 'fed up' with him.\r\n\r\nThe price started from just \x8018 (\xa316) and was open to negotiation.\r\n\r\nShe wrote in the description: ""Dear women who may be interested.\r\n\r\n""Over the first two days of Christmas I have realised that we simply don't belong together anymore.\r\n\r\n""I would like to give up my  husband.  I am happy to negotiate the price. But no exchange. Please send me inquiries over email.""",article,NULL,151,<blank>,<blank>
How To Get Revenge On Your Ex,2020-01-08,0,"Here you are. Perhaps knuckles deep in a pint of Ben & Jerry\x92s, maybe two years back into your ex\x92s Instagram feed.\r\n\r\nYou\x92re either seething with animosity or deeply pained; either way, this kind of hurt sucks hard.\r\nSo you want revenge on your ex? For the scumbag that cheated on you or the person that couldn\x92t see how amazing they had it.\r\n\r\nYou\x92ve come to the right place. The ultimate revenge is what we all dream of getting when it comes to past lovers.\r\n\r\nYou could get dressed up to the tens. Look like a complete snack and \x93casually\x94 drop into the bar your ex and his friends frequent. Maybe have a guy (or girl) friend your ex never met hang on your arm as you walk in.\r\n\r\nOr maybe you\x92re a bit more hands-on. TP\x92ing their house may seem childish, but how they treated you was childish. It\x92s justifiable. Plus, you already bought a Costco amount of toilet paper.\r\n\r\nThose are cute, to say the most. But there\x92s an even better way to get revenge on your ex.\r\n\r\nAnd I\x92m here to tell you what that is.\r\n\r\nThe ultimate revenge you can get on your ex is this:\r\nMove on and live your best life without them.\r\n\r\nYes, I\x92m saying the best revenge is no revenge at all.\r\n\r\nI assume you\x92ve already spent enough time wondering what went wrong, trying to get your ex\x92s attention inadvertently, or figuring out how you can win them back.\r\n\r\nBut the fact of the matter is, they chose a life without you. And that\x92s the best thing they could\x92ve done for you.\r\n\r\nWhen you linger in resentment, you give your energy to someone who doesn\x92t deserve it.\r\n\x93The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury.\x94\r\n― Marcus Aurelius\r\n\r\nI always say a grudge has a population of one.\r\n\r\nHolding onto resentment and living in the emotions of hurt, betrayal, and sadness is letting a person that broke your heart still have control over you.\r\n\r\nYou have one life to live. Stop giving time from your numbered days to a person that mistreated you.\r\n\r\nHaven\x92t they caused you enough pain?\r\n\r\nIf they hurt you, they will get what they deserve on their own.\r\n\r\nLet their shitty personality or fucked up morals guide them into their self-created hell.\r\n\r\nLet their love lives play over and over on a loop, never feeling fulfilled and ultimately lonely.\r\n\r\nPeople will only put up with their bullshit for so long. Sooner or later, they\x92re going to have a hard slap of reality happen, and they won\x92t know how to handle it.\r\n\r\nWhat I\x92m saying is, they\x92ll get what they deserve without you intervening.\r\n\r\nTake the time you need to grieve, but know you\x92re better off without them.\r\n\r\nI hate advice where people say, \x93But they were a dick.. forget them!\x94 Well, if it were that easy, Jessica, don\x92t you think I would\x92ve done that?\r\nEveryone takes a different amount of time to grieve and work through their emotions. It\x92s not going to do yourself any good if you pretend you\x92re not hurting when you actually are.\r\n\r\nSo go ahead and grieve. Feel hurt.\r\n\r\nJust don\x92t linger in those emotions more than necessary. Don\x92t allow those feelings to drive you to do something that\x92s going to hurt you even more.\r\n\r\nLove yourself more than you hate them.\r\n\r\nYou have a choice of who to give your energy to: yourself or your ex. I implore you to choose the former.\r\n\r\nFocus your energy on self-love. Choose your happiness over your disdain for your ex.\r\n\r\nTake care of your health, go for walks, see old friends; do whatever it is that makes you happy. \r\n\r\nEven better, do all the things you never did while you were in the relationship. Remind yourself that without the constraints from that person, you\x92re freer to do whatever the hell you want.\r\n\r\nHaving them watch you live your best life will be the revenge you wanted.\r\n\r\nNothing drives someone crazier than watching a lover they wronged move on and become the best version of themselves.\r\n\r\nYour ex will have to see the amazing human you are rise up when they thought you\x92d fall. They will see a part of you they never saw because they, in fact, held you back from being the best version of yourself.\r\n\r\nYour success and happiness will be a result of your doings, not theirs. And watching you do something that courageous and badass will be the best revenge you could have on them.\r\n\r\nRemember: people will break your heart and make you cry, but they can never break your spirit.\r\n\r\nUse the gift of your ex leaving you to move on to an even better life, one where you spend it with people who choose to stay.\r\n\r\nThat\x92s the best revenge you could ever get.",article,NULL,152,<blank>,<blank>
Women Catches Boyfriend Cheating On TikTok,2020-12-19,0,"A woman\x92s TikTok account is going viral after she exposed her boyfriend for cheating by filming his texts with the other woman.\r\n\r\nThe original TikTok, which has since been removed, shows the woman, Niah Robbins, unlocking her boyfriend\x92s phone and reading his texts with a person named \x93Jason Work 19.\x94 Her boyfriend is snoring in the background, blissfully unaware of what\x92s about to go down. The messages are filled with the word \x93baby\x94 and heart emoji. The video abruptly ends with Robbins hitting her boyfriend with his phone.\r\n\r\n\r\nThe video has more than 3 million views, 35,700 likes, and 8,800 retweets on Twitter, where it was reposted.\r\n\r\nAfter the TikTok went viral, Robbins filmed a \x93storytime\x94 on her TikTok account, @nygf. The 18-part storytime involves emotional manipulation, long trips for \x93work,\x94 and hidden STIs.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nAccording to Robbins\x92 TikTok, the two were dating for a few months before he became \x93manipulative\x94 and \x93sexually abusive.\x94 Robbins said he forced her to stop working because he didn\x92t want to \x93share her,\x94 and he, in turn, paid her bills.\r\n\r\nRobbins said she tried to leave him multiple times during their relationship, but her boyfriend always managed to get her to stay.\r\n\r\n\r\nRobbins said she noticed her boyfriend had changed his phone password but never thought much of it until one day. Robbins was filming herself reaching for her boyfriend\x92s phone and yanking her hand away while he slept as a joke, but then she decided to actually take a peek.\r\n\r\nRobbins said her boyfriend\x92s messages with \x93Jason\x94 were already open, and that prior to that, \x93Jason\x94 had been calling all night.\r\n\r\n\r\nRobbins said she confronted her boyfriend and finally left him. She then messaged the woman he was texting, who was a former co-worker of Robbins\x92. Robbins messaged her, \x93You realize Chris and I are together right? Or you just don\x92t give a fuck?\x94 The former co-worker replied, \x93I don\x92t give a fuck. Bye.\x94\r\n\r\nIn the last update Robbins gave, she revealed her ex was texting her and telling her he missed her, but it seems she\x92s moved on for good.\r\n\r\nRobbins has been accused of doxing the woman because the woman\x92s address was in the text messages Robbins posted. But, Robbins made a TikTok in response to these allegations and said it wasn\x92t doxing because it was an old address that was shared.\r\n\r\n\r\nYou can watch all 18 drama-filled TikToks here and remember if you ever need help getting revenge on your ex our team at Get Revenge On Your Ex are here to help!",article,NULL,153,<blank>,<blank>
Worlds Richest Mans Ex-Wife Gets Epic Revenge!,2020-12-21,0,"MacKenzie Scott became one of the richest woman on the planet the moment the ink dried on her divorce settlement in 2019.\r\n<br>\r\nHer shock split with Amazon founder Jeff Bezos after 26 years of marriage made headlines across the world, and ultimately became the most expensive break-up in history.\r\n<br>\r\nIt netted the 50-year-old a cool $US38 billion \x96 and since then, a series of classy acts and dignified public comments have ensured she\x92s also won the PR war, while her ex\x92s reputation is left in tatters.\r\n<p>\r\n\r\nMACKENZIE\x92S BILLIONS\r\n<br>\r\nThe mother-of-four announced from the outset that she would give away the bulk of her vast fortune to worthy causes, and she wasted no time in putting her money where her mouth was.\r\n<br>\r\nIn May 2019, just a month after the divorce was finalised, Scott signed up to the Giving Pledge campaign \x96 an initiative founded by billionaires Warren Buffett and Bill Gates that encourages the world\x92s wealthiest people to dedicate most of their fortunes to worthy causes.\r\n<br>\r\nNo way \x96 it\x92s their money, they\x92ve earnt itDefinitely \x96 nobody should hoard that much cashCast your vote\r\n<br>\r\nIn July 2020, she formally dropped the Bezos last name and adopted Scott, which was the middle name she grew up with, and announced she had already donated $1.7 billion to 116 non-profits.\r\n<br>\r\nAt the time, she donated $US586 million ($A820 million) to organisations devoted to racial equity, $US399 million ($A557 million) for those tackling economic mobility, $US133 million ($A185 million) for gender equity, $US130 million ($A181 million) for global development, $US128 million ($A178 million) for public health, $US125 million ($A174 million) for climate change, $US72 million ($A100 million) for functional democracy, $US55 million ($A76 million) for empathy and bridging divides and $US46 million ($A64 million) for LGBTQ+ equity.\r\n<br>\r\nBut just four months on, the successful author has gone on yet another giving spree \x96 this time handing out $5.6 billion to 384 charitable organisations in America, including food banks, emergency relief funds and support services \x93for those most vulnerable\x94 after considering thousands of organisations.\r\n<br>\r\nMacKenzie Scott announced the latest donation blitz on a Medium post \x96 and couldn\x92t resist a subtle dig at her ex at the same time by calling out the wealth accumulation of the world\x92s billionaires during a year of unprecedented crisis, and pushing other rich-listers to do more.\r\n<br>\r\n\x93This pandemic has been a wrecking ball in the lives of Americans already struggling,\x94 Scott wrote. \x93Economic losses and health outcomes alike have been worse for women, for people of colour, and for people living in poverty.\r\n<br>\r\n\x93Meanwhile, it has substantially increased the wealth of billionaires.\x94\r\n\r\n<p>\r\n\x91SWEET, SWEET REVENGE\x92\r\n<br>\r\nThe fresh announcement was covered by news outlets across the world, with Vanity Fair penning a glowing piece about how Scott now \x93redefines f*ck-you money\x94 while also mocking her ex-husband\x92s notorious tendency to hoard his \x93indescribable wealth close to his chest\x94.\r\n<br>\r\nThe news was also welcomed by everyday people, with countless social media users taking to Twitter to shower Scott in praise for her generosity and claiming she now had the ultimate revenge on her ex.\r\n<br>\r\nIt has also cemented her position as a world-leading philanthropist, with charity expert Chuck Collins telling the New York Times Scott was \x93disrupting the norms around billionaire philanthropy by moving quickly, not creating a private foundation for her great-grandchildren to give the money away\x94.\r\n<br>\r\nAt the same time, MacKenzie Scott latest move has also put Bezos\x92 own spectacular lack of generosity under the spotlight once again, attracting renewed condemnation from critics.\r\n<br>\r\nWe understand not all of us are in a position to give away our partners fortune like MacKenzie Scott so please browse through our other articles full of tips & tricks about getting revenge or talk to one of our team at Get Revenge On Your Ex.",article,NULL,154,<blank>,<blank>
Women Catches Boyfriend Cheating Via Their FitBit App!,2020-12-22,0,"Reporter Jane Slater told her disastrous dating story on Twitter\x85\r\n<br>\r\nA woman has revealed she caught her bf cheating after spotting his activity levels \x91spiking\x92 in the early hours of the morning on his fitness tracker app.\r\n<br>\r\nJournalist Jane Slater shared her story on social media, explaining the pair had matching fitness watches.\r\n<br>\r\nShe said her now ex bought her the device for Christmas one year and they linked them up to stay \x91motivated\x92.\r\n<br>\r\nBut this sweet gesture proved to be her boyfriend\x92s downfall when Jane was able to track her partner\x92s movements one night when he didn\x92t come home.\r\n<br>\r\nShe previously wrote on Twitter: \x93An ex boyfriend once got me a Fitbit for Christmas.\r\n<br>\r\n\x93I loved it. We synced up, motivated each other\x85\r\n<br>\r\nA Women caught bf cheating by his fitness tracker \r\n\x93Didn\x92t hate it until he was unaccounted for at 4am and his physical activity levels were spiking on the app.\r\n<br>\r\n\x93Wish the story wasn\x92t real.\x94\r\n<br>\r\nShe then added: \x93Spoiler alert: he was not enrolled in a fitness class at 4am.\x94\r\n<br>\r\nThe Tweet quickly went viral, with more than 450k likes and almost 50k retweets.\r\n<br>\r\nA Women caught bf cheating by his fitness tracker \r\n\x93Of all the ways to get caught that has to be top 5 as most unique,\x94 replied one person, while another said: \x93So you found out he\x92s a cheater and an idiot. 2 birds 1 stone there.\x94\r\n<br>\r\nIf you\x92re looking to get revenge on your partner or even think your bf cheating on you then please get in touch with one of our team members at Get Revenge On Your Ex to help you come up with a master plan.\r\n\r\nOtherwise keep exploring our rather humorous articles & tips here.",article,NULL,155,<blank>,<blank>
Secretary Affair Revenge!,2020-12-30,0,"Daisy was asleep in her pram, and I was pushing her around a local park. At 18 months old, she looked so peaceful, so innocent. By contrast, I'd had no sleep at all the previous night and yet I wasn't the slightest bit tired. I was pumped full of adrenaline and seething with anger.\r\n<p>\r\nOn my mobile I called Mark's number \x97 the husband of the woman with whom my husband had been having an affair. My hands were shaking so badly that it took a few tries to get the number right, but I wasn't going to back out now.\r\n<p>\r\nThis image has an empty alt attribute; its file name is office-romance.jpg\r\nSarah Jones discovered her partner was cheating with his secretary before she sought revenge with devastating consequences \r\n<p>\r\nJo was Paul's office assistant at the social media agency he runs. I barely knew her, but I did know that she and Mark and their two children were on the first day of a summer holiday in Spain. It felt deeply satisfying to be derailing it.\r\n<p>\r\n'Hello?'\r\n\r\n'Mark. I'm Paul's wife. Do you know Jo has been sleeping with my husband?'\r\n\r\nI paused. I wanted my words to really hit home. If my marriage was on the rocks, I was going to take hers down, too.\r\n\r\n'They've been having an affair for months, in the office \x97 having sex on my husband's desk. Did you know?'\r\n\r\nHe started swearing, asking me if I was joking or if I was kidding. I was very much not.\r\n\r\n'Well, that's ruined my hol-iday,' came the unexpectedly controlled reply.\r\n\r\n'Your holiday? It's ruined my life!' I hissed.\r\n\r\n'Tell your husband that when I'm back, I'm going to pay him a visit.' He hung up\r\n<p>\r\nThis image has an empty alt attribute; its file name is Beach-Pool-1100x733-1-1024x682.jpg\r\nShe revealed that she picked up the phone and told the gentleman on the other end 'your wife had sex with my husband \x96 on the office desk' (stock image)\r\n<p>\r\nPaul and I had a whirlwind romance after meeting in 2009. We seemed like a perfect match, and when he proposed just ten months later, I was overjoyed.\r\n<p>\r\nMy friends and family adored him. I wouldn't have believed him capable of cheating on me for a second back then. But five years in, we hit a rough patch when, despite several attempts, I failed to get pregnant.\r\n<p>\r\nWe went through two gruelling rounds of IVF and eventually it worked, but the procedures took their toll on our relationship and when Daisy arrived, we drifted further apart.\r\n<p>\r\nShe was a terrible sleeper, so Paul was relegated to the spare room and we stopped having sex. We had gone from being a tactile couple who held hands and shared kisses, to nothing. Post-natal depression played a part, too. We started to row.\r\n<p>\r\nI suppose I had suspected him of having an affair with Jo for a while. She was younger than me, though not prettier. She was somehow less complicated and more outgoing, which I knew he'd find attractive. I know, I know \x97 but I couldn't help comparing myself to her.\r\n<p>\r\nPaul had employed Jo in 2018, and her husband Mark, who works in IT, had been in and out of the office, too, doing odd jobs. I was kept at arm's length \x97 never invited for a drink with the team, for example \x97 and on the odd occasion I'd met her, she'd been distinctly cold.\r\n<p>\r\nBut when I asked if anything was going on, Paul always denied it. I was imagining it, he said. He would roll his eyes and ask when on earth I thought he would have the time, what with running his own business and having a baby. He made me feel like the paranoid new mother.\r\n<p>\r\nThen I found proof.\r\n<p>\r\nThis image has an empty alt attribute; its file name is evidence-against-your-spouse.jpg\r\nOne night in July 2019, I decided to look through his phone. I'm not proud of that, but it was the only way I could think of to get to the truth. And there it was glowing on the screen \x97 a call to Jo at 1.30 am on a Sunday, while he was on a boys' night out.\r\n<p>\r\nI asked him about it immediately. 'Why did you call Jo at that time of night?'\r\n<p>\r\nThe long silence confirmed my fears. 'There was a work problem.' It was a lie so utterly ridiculous, I felt embarrassed for him. I also felt insulted that he would think I was stupid enough to believe it. There was a problem with a customer, he said. She had texted him to let him know. He wanted to get the issue sorted. Yes, at 1.30 am.\r\n<p>\r\nThere was an unattractive desperation in his voice. He was like an animal caught in a trap, thrashing about, but still he wouldn't admit it. We rowed for hours, until finally, he confessed: he'd called Jo to tell her he was falling in love with her. He insisted it was one-sided. Nothing physical had happened.\r\n<p>\r\nMy heart sank. I had already lost him.\r\n<p>\r\nHe pleaded with me not to call her, not to 'ruin her life' over his mistake.\r\n<p>\r\nBut it was OK to ruin my life.\r\n<p>\r\nI told him to leave, but before he did, I ran upstairs with his phone so that I could write down Jo's number. Her husband was also in his contacts, so I made a note of that, too.\r\n<p>\r\nThe following morning, I got Daisy ready for the day as usual. I felt sick, but knew I had to confront his mistress if I wanted to know what was really going on. I wasn't going to hear it from Paul.\r\n<p>\r\nBy mid-morning, en route to the park, Daisy sleeping, I took a deep breath and called Jo's number. 'Paul's told me everything,' I lied. 'We've been up all night. I know.'\r\n<p>\r\nThe line went silent. Then I heard quiet sobs. I knew I had the upper hand and something inside me rejoiced. She clearly wasn't as good a liar as Paul.\r\n<p>\r\n'I'm so sorry,' she whispered. 'We only kissed once. I immediately regretted it. I didn't want any of this to happen.'\r\n<p>\r\nWith faux confidence, I said: 'What really happened, Jo? I've called you, woman to woman, to give you the chance to tell me yourself. The least you can do is tell the truth.'\r\n<p>\r\n'OK. We had sex, but just once \x85 at the office.'\r\n<p>\r\nA bittersweet moment. I felt validated, yet devastated. After months of being told I was paranoid, I finally knew the truth; I should have trusted my gut.\r\n<p>\r\n'Don't tell my husband,' she begged me. 'I can't put my two girls through this. I love him and want to make my marriage work.'\r\n<p>\r\nShe was asking me to have sympathy for her. To care about her family. I certainly couldn't imagine she had spared a thought for me, and my baby, while romping with Paul.\r\n<p>\r\nBut I told her I was a mother, too, so I would let her tell Mark herself. She said she would.\r\n<p>\r\nI hung up and called Paul: the line was engaged. I called Jo and heard the same tone. She had phoned my husband instead of speaking to her own. How dare she have the audacity to break her promise to me.\r\n<p>\r\nBut, of course, she had. She was a liar who had helped to rip my marriage apart, and I was the idiot giving her a second chance. I felt like the biggest fool, again.\r\n<p>\r\nSo, fuelled by rage, I dialled Mark's number. I wanted to be the one to tell him what she had done, to hear him say the affair had destroyed their marriage, that he would never forgive her.\r\n<p>\r\nI imagined blazing rows between them; I hoped they'd have to cut short their holiday. I wanted her to pay for what she had done to my life.\r\n<p>\r\nAnd I knew this was the only way I would get any form of revenge. Anything else would be too public \x97 and I wanted to protect my little girl.\r\n<p>\r\nBut Mark's response was disappointingly underwhelming.\r\n<p>\r\nThat night, I summoned Paul to the house to collect his things and asked him questions I wish I hadn't; where they'd had sex, whether it was good.\r\n<p>\r\nWe both cried, but he didn't ask for forgiveness or say he wanted to give our marriage another go. Instead, he looked lost \x97 and I have never felt so broken.\r\n<p>\r\nThat summer he moved in with his brother while I tried to adjust, but it was hard. My weight dropped and I had daily panic attacks. I found it almost impossible to accept he'd so carelessly ripped apart the future I'd taken for granted.\r\n<p>\r\nWorst of all, he couldn't really explain why he'd done it.\r\n<p>\r\nTwo weeks later, I learned the outcome of my furious phone call. Back from his holiday, Mark had stormed into his office, grabbed Paul by the neck and held him up against a wall, threatening to kill him if he ever went near Jo again.\r\n<p>\r\nI had no sympathy. At least one man knew how to keep his word. Of course Jo did not return to the office after that. Meanwhile, I tried my best to be amicable with Paul for Daisy's sake \x97 inviting him round to see her whenever he wanted.\r\n<p>\r\nAnd then, just before lockdown, he moved back \x97 into the spare room \x97 to share childcare so I could work. And that's how we've remained. Eighteen months on, we're still in limbo. I don't want to split up because I'd hate to be without Daisy for half the week, but ultimately I'm stuck in a loveless marriage.\r\n<p>\r\nI can't forgive him, I wouldn't even know where to start.\r\n<p>\r\nTo the outside world, we look like a couple. Throughout lockdown and now under the latest restrictions, we take Daisy out for walks together, we eat dinner as a family, we split the chores ... but sleep in separate rooms. Even our neighbours, who have children the same age as Daisy, have no idea.\r\n<p>\r\nEvery now and then, my jealousy rears its head and I search for Jo's page on Facebook. What I saw one evening this summer shocked me. She had posted a photo with the status: 'Taking some time off with my incredible hubby for an amazing adventure in Cornwall with our girls #family.'\r\n<p>\r\nIt stopped me in my tracks. They had stayed together. My plan for revenge had backfired.\r\n<p>\r\nWhile my marriage seemed unfixable, they were flaunting theirs, taunting me with their ability to reconcile.\r\n<p>\r\nIt felt like the knife in my back was being twisted. The affair that had decimated my marriage had somehow managed to make theirs stronger.\r\n<p>\r\nShe had got away with it. And that, above anything else, is the bitterest pill to swallow.\r\n<p>\r\nAs told to Carol Driver. Names have been changed to protect identities",article,NULL,156,<blank>,<blank>

